Am I mad to feel hurt?

Luckygirl , your feelings are natural and I do empathize . My daughter had a land mark birthday very recently, she went for a meal with her brother and sisters - I was not invited and would have loved to go. Like you I have sound relationships with all our children and I am delighted they look out for each other - that is very important to me so I must be satisfied with that ! I see them often on other occasions and I am thankful for that. Try not to let this eat you up. I know our children are there for us if we need them and I have no desire to damage that relationship. It seems you are just having a blip just now - trust me it will pass!!

I'm sure that made Luckygirl feel much better, TopGunner!!🤔

Actually, from what I have read, Luckygirl's DD are kind and considerate. It's probably a 'girls' weekend' with their friends and they thought Mum wouldn't enjoy it.

Since my husband died ten years ago, our family have taken me abroad three times, then Scotland, then the lakes.

I spend every Christmas with one or the other of them and have a fantastic time. We also meet up with the inlaws who are great.

My husband, when he was ill, asked our family to make sure that they looked after me after he had gone and they have never once let him or me down.

I am so very lucky.

This is the place to share blips, I think, and we all have them.
I'm glad you're feeling less blippy now.

I was not very kind or thoughtful towards my mother. If only I could turn the clock back.

So I will never ever ever feel left out by my daughters. However luckily they are both kind to me....but they have their own lives to lead. Glad you are happier now OP.

No. You have not been ridiculous. Like you, I have 3 daughters (1 in Australia) the eldest of whom will be 50 next year. She may well do her own thing so I’m preparing for that. It’s a balancing act trying not to be too needy, too critical, too jealous, too upset as they live their busy lives and remembering what was and has been and wanting that life back again. Like you I’ve been through the wars this past year and am so grateful to have 3 girls who in their own different ways have got me through it and supported me and each other. I’m sure you will have your own celebration later - and yes, who wants to be tiptoeing through the snow to an outdoor hot tub when you can stay cosy & warm in your own space!

So pleased - they sound like wonderful girls. I knew you would feel better today.
We all feel like this from time to time.

Their update makes me happy for you - you have full opportunity to have a lovely visit upon their return.

PS you're not a crabby old bat (as you worried in your post).

Good that you're feeling better about this.
A hot tub in the snow? What's not to like? 😁

Best to say nothing, it would only make birthday girl feel guilty and I'm sure you will have a lovely catch-up when the weather improves.

Thank you for positive wishes - much appreciated.

Don't feel bad about your initial reaction, it's perfectly understandable.
Having now seen the bigger picture you can be secretly pleased you weren't actually invited, and would have felt out of place if you'd gone anyway.

A nice cosy get-together, maybe an afternoon tea, where you can hear all about it sounds in order, either with just the birthday girl or all three of them.

Luckygirl3
So pleased they are having a jolly time.

for you on the anniversary of the day you started your own little family and became a loving mum.

I have had lots of whatsapps and pics from my DDs and they are having a splendid time. It turns out that there are 8 of them and this puts the whole thing in a different light.
I have just had a message from the birthday girl to say she is thinking of me.

How bad do I now feel about my woesome blip yesterday? - I will excuse this by citing pain and hating being on my own. It was such a help to me to have Gransnetters holding my hand and being the place to offload.

They are in the very north of England and have just sent a pic of them in the outdoor hot tub - with snow on the steps - I am very glad I am NOT there!!!

dragonfly46

Skydancer

Sometimes I think things need pointing out. In a nice way.

No no no, please don’t say anything. Be happy they are such good friends. Tomorrow you will feel differently and words said can never be unsaid.

I agree.

Be pleased that they are having a good time together and are happy.

Skydancer

Sometimes I think things need pointing out. In a nice way.

No no no, please don’t say anything. Be happy they are such good friends. Tomorrow you will feel differently and words said can never be unsaid.

Merlotgran 💖💐
Lucky- good advice from RosiesMaw about thinking about a treat you can share with your daughter

merlotgran

merlotgran 🤗

No, not mad, just sad.

merlotgran 💐

Calendargirl

My DD was 50 this year.

She lives in Australia. We haven’t been for several years, I thought it would be nice to go for her birthday, but she then said her husband was taking her away to celebrate it.

So that was that.

We hope to go in 2025, and see her on her 51st.

🤞

I hope you can, Calendargirl

My DD was 50 this year.

She lives in Australia. We haven’t been for several years, I thought it would be nice to go for her birthday, but she then said her husband was taking her away to celebrate it.

So that was that.

We hope to go in 2025, and see her on her 51st.

🤞

Skydancer

Sometimes I think things need pointing out. In a nice way.

I agree.

we mothers get inadvertently hurt by our 'children' but always put on a cheerful face and pretend we're 'okay' so as to not upset them don't we. me too.

Thank you all for your kind posts. I am of course pleased for them, and it is unusual for me to feel like this. Your messages have helped to sort me out. Thank you.
merlot