My 5 year old grandson doesn’t like me

Yes that’s what I do and the GC love it 😊

I don’t think I would be going out of my way to seek approval from a five year old! I’d just keep him at arm’s length, but respond positively to any polite overtures he might make.
You say ‘do as he pleases’, but only mention teaching him manners and politeness. Is he destroying your house or being abusive? As others have said, let his parents deal with discipline, and, unless he’s being destructive or behaving dangerously, I’d ignore any minor behaviour I don’t approve of.

when my GS was small I picked him up from nursery one day a week,we played ,sometimes we baked ,we always had fun, he was never cheeky, mischeivous yes just like a boy,he's a teenager now, I think it's parents job to teach them manners.
I wouldn't have allowed any of my grandchildren to abuse anything in my house ,things I didn't want them to touch, I put out of reach..

Why don't you try to make a fresh start by first of all going to spend some time with him at his own home rather than yours. Find out what he likes to do - Lego, board games, drawing, iPad games etc. and tune in to him.

You might then be better placed to invite him to your home for a specific activity that you can do together.

It’s not about you?
Show him love he has parents to teach him manners it isn’t your job
You sound just like my mil and a pain

Back off.

Some Grannies say ‘my house, my rules’.

i am sorry but it is not your responsibility to right the perceived wrongs of your grandchild's upbringing and trying to do so will only cause just the kind of problems you are having.

So back off. Do not let your DGS do anything dangerous or damaging in your house. You could have a short list of Grandma's Rules. I had one relating to a very steep staircase, that meant shoes had to always be worn and the bannister held, but apart from that just love him, do things together, arrange life so points of conflict are avoided - and if there are any deficiencies in his upbringing then it is parents responsibility.

And do not dis your companion grandmother. You are both linked by this little person and his parents. Try very hard to make a friend of her and conspire together.

I know how you feel.

Unfortunately I feel out of touch with my grandchildren, and I don't think they like me. Sadly if I'm honest I don't like them either, although obviously I love them.

They seem to be lacking in empathy, and don't see the need to care about others, as long as everything is going their way.

They care more about how much a present costs than the thought behind it, so they are just getting pyjamas from me this Christmas.

I'm not able to do anything about the way they are, as that's down to the parents, so I guess this is just the way it has to be. I love my children dearly, and I thought being a grandparent was going to be so lovely! But sadly it's not turned out that way for me.

It's not up to us to be 'tough' or 'too strict' with our grandchildren in my opinion. Obviously don't let them be ill mannered or cheeky. I believe we are there to be supportive and give them love.

No, don't just let him do as he likes. I'd suggest you give him a cooling off period and then gradually start spending more time with him. When he's in your home, he should stick to your rules, but maybe you should whittle them down to the essential ones until they become habitual for him, then add one at a time.