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Horrendous day today

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Kate1949 Fri 29-Nov-24 17:04:58

Today I was on my way out with my DH when we noticed something on the pavement opposite our house. We stopped the car to take a look. We discovered a man dead on the pavement.

Redrobin51 Fri 29-Nov-24 22:25:24

My heart goes out to you and the poor man who has died. You tried your best and did all the right things, but it eoukd have been a really unsettling experience for anyone. Thank you for caring.

Deedaa Fri 29-Nov-24 21:23:17

What a dreadful experience. My husband went out for a day's shooting with his club and one of the members collapsed. He took turns with another man to do CPR but the man couldn't be revived. I thought how dreadful it would be for his wife, when he had just gone out for a nice day out with his friends.

My husband was pretty cold blooded normally, but it gave him quite a shock. I think it will take a while for you to come to terms with it.

GrannyIvy Fri 29-Nov-24 21:14:02

How awful. How sad. Hope you are ok and my thoughts go to his family.

Ziplok Fri 29-Nov-24 20:46:41

Oh my goodness, what a shock indeed Kate1949.
I hope you’re alright. It’s reassuring that there is still much kindness amongst strangers, though - you and your DH, the Polish workmen who performed CPR and others.

His poor family, too, such a shock for them as well.

Take care of yourselves in these coming days 💐.

Squiffy Fri 29-Nov-24 20:26:33

Oh Kate, what an awful shock. Taking something positive from it - how wonderful that people (you included, of course!) went out of their way to help. Faith in human nature is restored! 💐

Kate1949 Fri 29-Nov-24 20:20:15

We didn't recognise him crazyH. I saw the paramedics a while later. They were walking up the road. I asked about the man but she said they couldn't revive him. They had his keys and they were pressing his car fob at every parked car to try to find out where he lived so I assume he had no ID on him. How sad

crazyH Fri 29-Nov-24 20:08:33

Oh no, that’s awful - was he from your neighbourhood? I hope you’re ok Kate

MissAdventure Fri 29-Nov-24 20:03:49

How terrible.
Just all of it.
The poor guy, and poor you, Kate1949

It's traumatic, being thrown suddenly into that situation,

Babs03 Fri 29-Nov-24 19:57:36

I really can’t imagine how awful that must have been. The poor man and poor you to have to deal with something so distressing.
So glad others came along to help.
Well done for sticking with it. Now go and have a drink or three.
🙏🏾🙏🏾

Kate1949 Fri 29-Nov-24 19:48:43

Thanks everyone. I hope the poor man's family have each other. I think a few 🍷 will be called for for me later.

TerriT Fri 29-Nov-24 19:44:16

What a terrible shock you have had. Take comfort in you did all you could as did the others who tried to help. Accept what an upsetting and frightening day it’s been and don’t tell yourself it hasn’t! Be kind to yourself over the next few days, women of our generation were brought up to be tough which is a double edged sword in my opinion.

GrannySomerset Fri 29-Nov-24 19:34:30

A dreadful experience but at least you know you did all you could. And the helpfulness of strangers is cheering too. Hope you can sleep!

Chocolatelovinggran Fri 29-Nov-24 18:59:06

Oh Kate what a terrible experience. Please be proud of your ( and others) kindness at such a time.
Take care of yourself this weekend.

Mollygo Fri 29-Nov-24 18:35:10

What a shock for you. Good that you and others could help, especially reassuring for his family, but definitely a horrendous day.

Aveline Fri 29-Nov-24 18:32:57

What a shocking time for you. Horrible for the poor man's family of course. Nice to hear that so many people rallied round to help. I hope you can have a calmer weekend after this awful incident.

FriedGreenTomatoes2 Fri 29-Nov-24 18:31:44

Oh bless you Kate1949 for your humanity and kindness.

Kate1949 Fri 29-Nov-24 18:26:30

A bit tearful tonight I must admit.

Astitchintime Fri 29-Nov-24 18:22:36

What a dreadful experience for everyone involved. Hope you are OK.

Kate1949 Fri 29-Nov-24 18:20:19

Dying in the street is awful. We live on a quiet road but everyone who passed by stopped to help, including three young (Polish I think) workmen who stopped their van and took turns with the CPR. A traumatic day indeed.

Grannybags Fri 29-Nov-24 18:15:14

Well done for coping and trying to help. I’m sure his family would like to know someone cared flowers

V3ra Fri 29-Nov-24 18:14:40

How awful for you all Kate 😥
Well done for doing so much to help.

TerriBull Fri 29-Nov-24 18:13:19

How awful, so sorry for you how upsetting. That .poor man

Septimia Fri 29-Nov-24 18:11:10

Awful experience for you, but wonderful that you stopped to help, even in vain.

The man's family will probably be thankful that you cared enough to try, and that might help them in their grief.

valdavi Fri 29-Nov-24 18:09:06

that must have really shaken you up. Poor man.
Well done you for stopping to check & doing what you could, though.

kittylester Fri 29-Nov-24 18:06:12

How awful for you and the poor man's family. flowers