Is there anyting in particular that irritates you with the responses to posts?

Agree.
I always say if I have reported a post and is usually a troll.
Also I have to say, he same as you, that when suffering a down time lately posters were so kind it made me teary but in a good way 🌺❤️

Like FGT, words such as hubby, hubster, furbaby, put my teeth on edge.

I get irritated by wild, incorrect and easily checked statements, sometimes posted just to stir things up.

I would like posters to admit they have reported a post, and why.

Having said all this, the support, help and overall kindness on here is a thing to behold, especially when a member has a crisis.

No, everyone has an opinion and the posters are asking for one, dosnt have to be right,sensible, but it is their opinion, take it or leave it, for me I have my big knickers on ,I always read and think it over as someone took the time to reply

Diversion and irrelevance.

Kate1949

When I post a response to something and someone else posts exactly the same thing and others post 'Oh that's a good idea '. I feel like posting 'I'VE JUST SAID THAT'
Also when a poster's query has been resolved and they thank everyone but people keep posting solutions.

Yes, that is very irritating.

Bullying posts.

When posters write about something which upsets/annoys/irritates them and someone (often a new poster) comes along and asks if that is all they have to worry about and to go and 'get a life'.
Virtue signalling, patronising and bullying all in on sentence.

Apologies in advance if someone has already suggested that!

@Luminance, I agree. As I said earlier some posters are very good at telling others off, I had this happen to me just yesterday. Fact is if someone disagrees or finds someone’s opinion irksome or is annoyed they chimed in at the end of a thread perhaps they should try a little patience, after all sone are new to the site and just finding their way round and others are just doing what we all do, voicing an opinion. No need for the high horse.

petal53

It’s more than that eazybee, it’s saying I don’t believe you and your opinion is worthless. And then we find an article in The Guardian or Twitter/X is held up as evidence, when actually it’s just another opinion.

Or that their choice of opinion supplier is guaranteed to be more valid than anything you looked at or thought.

I do not find much of the aforementioned irritating. I actually find it very irritating to see others shouted at simply for replying to an older discussion or giving thoughts after a solution has been found. We shouldn't be angry at others for simply trying to help, that is rather unkind. What rather does irk me here and is different to other busier discussions, is the determination of some posters to strongly argue their point of view and disallow others theirs. Then when they have managed to elicit a cross response, out comes the report button. Rather shameful behaviour at our age.

Babs03

I think that what irritates me the most, especially on N & P is that often personal digs are made and sometimes there can be a ‘pile on’ when several posters target one particular poster, often causing them to withdraw. I have withdrawn several times and been PM’d by good posters who say they are leaving the site.
I like a good robust debate as much as anyone and am sure have annoyed sone with my opinions but I try to avoid cheap personal digs.

Yes, pile ons- always from the same few, on a very few. So so predictable, so best ignored with a big smile. Duck and water.

It’s more than that eazybee, it’s saying I don’t believe you and your opinion is worthless. And then we find an article in The Guardian or Twitter/X is held up as evidence, when actually it’s just another opinion.

FriedGreenTomatoes2

Not much. Spelling errors poke me in the eye a bit but I know it’s impolite to point them out. Ditto certain words like hubby, hubster, but I guess that says more about me than them. Posters who push the report button sneakily and never ‘fess up.
Snide personal comments (on N&P) can hurt but hey, it gets a bit heated sometimes and I’ve learnt to withdraw rather than engage…

Totally agree with the 'hubby' thing FriedGreenTomatoes2. Absolutely sets my teeth on edge .

eazybee

Posters demanding references to sources when a poster writes, 'I heard', 'I believe,' somebody said'. A post is not a university essay it is generally an expression of opinion, but demanding evidence is frequently used as a diversionary tactic.

You're getting close to how I feel on that one eazybee. I respect various posters' thirst for facts, and their demands for meticulous evidence. That is quite correct in an academic essay. It does, however, sometimes stifle a discussion when someone is clearly writing about their experiences or expressing their beliefs.

Posters demanding references to sources when a poster writes, 'I heard', 'I believe,' somebody said'. A post is not a university essay it is generally an expression of opinion, but demanding evidence is frequently used as a diversionary tactic.

People even posters I consider friends posting my own post back before they write their post. I know what I wrote.

Posters starting a thread to ask for advice, but never returning to acknowledge the help they have been given. Very rude in my opinion.

Posters starting threads with the sole purpose of causing offence, but not returning to defend their actions.

That’s how I see it, Daddima. I don’t see how the ‘broadcast only’ approach can be seen as anything other than rude.

tinaf1

Wheniwasyourage

Kate1949

When I post a response to something and someone else posts exactly the same thing and others post 'Oh that's a good idea '. I feel like posting 'I'VE JUST SAID THAT'
Also when a poster's query has been resolved and they thank everyone but people keep posting solutions.

This (and I know that that response will annoy some people )

Yep this happens to me as well😕

This is my main gripe, and I’m sure it must make people ( including me) feel there’s no point in posting a reply, as nobody will read it. As others have said, I so often get the feeling that somebody has posted without having paid any attention to what others have said. Surely listening to what others have to say and feeling that they are listening to you is a big part of feeling part of an online community/ support network?

Although I do RTFT, I don’t always check the date, so I understand how zombie threads get posts after they have been resurrected (less so about how they are dug up in the first place though). It’s only if I see posts from departed posters that I realise, but you need to have been around for a while to recognise that, so I don’t blame anyone who doesn’t spot it.

It doesn’t really matter unless it’s being done to rake over old coals, and embarrass someone. That happens on some sites, but I can’t say I’ve noticed it on here.

Generally I don’t get annoyed about what or how posts are written. When all’s said and done, this is a social media site. Not much of what anyone writes matters, it’s just opinions and discussion. When people ask for advice for personal issues, the responses are more important, because the person asking is in a dilemma, often an upsetting dilemma. Then the responses are more important, but even so, I’ve seen unnecessarily cruel responses when posters are clearly upset. That’s unnecessary. It doesn’t make me annoyed though, it makes me wonder what kind of a person makes such a cold and unkind response.

Generally though I think posters are kind, and sometimes witty and amusing.

The two points that you mentioned are also the ones that annoy me most. I prefer facts to assumptions.

I get annoyed when people post advice after the OP has come back to tell us the situation is resolved.
I get annoyed when ( well-meaning) people post supposedly factual advice which is incorrect because they haven’t checked. This can be misleading, especially in the Legal, Money and Pensions forum.
But mostly I enjoy Gransnet. We can always scroll past if we don’t like what we see.

Baggs
No. Duplications of opinions are inevitable, I think, and not worth getting irritated about. Why would I mind because someone thinks/thought the same as I did?

I suspect that people who keep offering 'solutions' to problems raised and 'already resolved' are either just adding their tuppenceworth or they have only read the OP. Both of these behaviours are acceptable and not worth getting irritated about in my view.

Perhaps they are only problems for people who spend a lot of time on GN (because they have the time, for example – not a criticism) and read a lot of what is there. If you just plunge in every now and then, it's more remote, so to speak.
Oreo
That’s just whatI think too.😃
Me too.

In real life, if you arrived in the middle of a conversation and someone briefly outlined the original question, then asked what you thought, you wouldn’t be expected to ask what everyone else has said before answering.
Old posts only irritate me when I think it sounds interesting and prepare to comment, only to find it’s really old.
Some themes come round regularly and it’s fun to notice how opinions on things like how often we shower, duvets, holidays, washing or soup makers have changed or no changed over the years.

Wheniwasyourage

Kate1949

When I post a response to something and someone else posts exactly the same thing and others post 'Oh that's a good idea '. I feel like posting 'I'VE JUST SAID THAT'
Also when a poster's query has been resolved and they thank everyone but people keep posting solutions.

This (and I know that that response will annoy some people )

Yep this happens to me as well😕

Obscure subject/titles/headers
Can make it tricky to find a thread you're interested in.

Btw I don’t think telling other posters off, even if you disagree with them is acceptable, we are all adults so don’t need to feel we are back at school facing the wrath of the headteacher.