Does your DH get a surprise on Christmas morning ?

Oh good luck B9 At least you’ll be able to give him instructions. Put your feet up while you can.

Katyj

62Granny. Unfortunately he’s not very good at wrapping either. And he always prefers me to write everything, says my handwriting is much neater. I’ll have to think of something else he can do. 🤣

I was in the same situation, throw in Christmas cards. I would do them all excel or his sister and his “totties” - his lovely women assistants in the various branches he managed.
Letter, I did include him in the shopping which he decided he enjoyed, especially choosing presents for the GCs.
Now? I let DD choose/buy everything, so much easier and I know absolutely that they are things that they want.

Except for…😡

Well, he sees all the wish lists because he they get sent around the immediate family, he knows, in theory, what is being bought for each person because I tell him and sometimes he is with me when we buy things.

We recently bought DD something (not on her wish list) because we saw it in a shop and both immediately knew she would love it. If when she unwraps it he looks at it blankly, as if he has never seen it before. I will dot him one

My dh always went out Christmas Eve to buy my present. This annoyed me as I used to do everything relating to presents, cards, etc etc.etc. So one year I decided I would buy my own present from him and then tell him. So had seen an expensive box of oil paints in the window of a local art shop. Thought I would look at that but it had gone. So headed for another shop which sold what was popular then a combination radio, cd player which was again quite expensive as a good make. I told him that I had ordered it and the price and why I had decided I didn’t want a last minute present. I saw his face move in an odd way but thought it was the price. However, I discovered why on Christmas morning when I got my radio etc and also the lovely paints which had been hidden on his request by my daughter. After that he always sorted my present out well before Christmas Eve.

HowVeryDareYou2

My husband has never bought a card or present for anyone (except me) in 44 years of marriage. He pays for it, though . If he outlives me, he'll just give everyone a bit of cash.

Same for me in over 55 years. If he outlives me nobody will get anything at all and he will probably live in squalor.

No surprise as he has never bought gifts for anyone, other than me[up to a few years ago, when we agreed i would get my own and show him afterwards].

Our slight problem is he would spend more money on them all than me.
We already spend plenty in my opinion.
Even one or two of the kids have asked for it to be cut down, so i am doing it gradually.

Katyj

Aah well that’s reassuring I’m not on my own. I’m planning to come back as a man !
I’ve a feeling though our men wouldn’t get away with it these days.

Definitely! My DS and SiL have to buy presents for their own siblings and partners. Also responsible for remembering their birthdays . I don’t think my DH ever bought or sent cards for his parents or siblings . Women today ensure that there is much more equity in a partnership! .

Imarocker

HowVeryDareYou2

My husband has never bought a card or present for anyone (except me) in 44 years of marriage. He pays for it, though . If he outlives me, he'll just give everyone a bit of cash.

Same for me in over 55 years. If he outlives me nobody will get anything at all and he will probably live in squalor.

Our house would be tidyier.
But almost empty. And sticky[basic clean only].
In reality what he would do is try and live with someone else, think he is not in the way at all, throw them some money at them, and expect to just sit there, while thinking everything is rosy in the garden with the new situation of who he has landed on.

I was in the same situation, throw in Christmas cards. I would do them all excel for his sister and his “totties” - his lovely women assistants in the various branches he managed

Not a description (“totties”) you could get away with nowadays!

In some parts of Scotland, 'totties' are tatties - or potatoes!

The men think we other halves have a magic wand which does all the present shopping, wrapping, card writing and posting, tree buying and decorating, food shopping and baking etc. Well mine does. He would quite happily let it all go by if he could. I refuse to do anything other than enjoy every minute for the whole duration.