Family Christmas dilemma

This is such a bad idea. Just say no and stick to your guns.

Just turning up on Christmas Day ,- most definitely unacceptable!!! What on earth is he thinking??? 😲

Only a man could possibly consider this as a good idea. Has he ever catered for a large number of people on Christmas Day? Does he realise that it takes planning for a really good jolly family Christmas. So where are you all going to sleep. It’s likely that it is planned for some others to,stay overnight. As for no thought of presents etc. How old is your dh. It’s the sort of thing that a teenager would think of.

I have one of those overgrown teenagers as well!

Just ask what day he will be leaving so that you can pack him an overnight bag and make a few sandwiches for his journey. Then pop out to M&S and treat yourself to some nice meals and a couple of bottles of wine for your lovely lazy Xmas Day with total charge of the remote. And yes, please let us know how it works out!! He needs his head examined.

No, no, no. I would be horrified if it happened to me.

Don't do it. This was done to me one year by husband's brother and family. Id only bought enough for the family that we invited, we were not well off. I can assure you I was not happy and it resulted in a raging row after they had left. What made it worse was the brother who did this would never host anyone else, not even his own parents! It really is not fair on the person doing the cooking. Ask your husband if he was cooking dinner and people turned up with no invitation, how would he take it?

This such an awful idea that just reading the post has caused me to have an anxiety attack!!
It was bad enough when the people invited to my daughter's house for Christmas tea (her ex husband's family) arrived half way through our lunch! Goodness knows what time they had had their lunch....we didn't ask.

Borrheid65 Show your DH this thread and let him read the reactions of the people who would be on the other side of the front door when you arrived and see if that will convince him what a dreadful idea this is.

Alternatively, let him go and you do what Smudgie recommends.

Not a good idea, the person/people hosting, particularly as to the meal preparation need to know how many they are catering for. I agree with everyone else's comments

What a dreadful idea I haven’t hosted a Christmas dinner for years but when I did there is no way I could have added another two to the table…. and to arrive with no presents, no warning is the most horrific thing you could inflict on anyone

Husband read this NO NO NO

(If he doesn’t back down, let him go alone)

YorkLady

So, you turn up unannounced with no gifts and expect a Christmas meal and a bed for the night. What could go wrong????🙄

Is the Welsh town called Bethlehem?

gentleshores

I have one of those overgrown teenagers as well!

😂

It's unwise and bad mannered to just turn up at christmas time.. Does husband think, 'no he doesn't' that they will already have guests there

Luminance

Most people these days are horrified by an unexpected visit.

So true.

I hate surprises!

House ready for a tidy up, no baking done, ……

What a daft idea - whoever is cooking at least needs to know the numbers to expect!

Though must say I’m reminded of the Christmas many decades ago, when dh and I took an 8 hour flight back to the U.K. - standby tickets, so didn’t know whether we’d get on, and didn’t tell our families in case we didn’t - and arrived unannounced!

But it was on the 23rd, so still time to buy extra veg, and MiL was always catering for a lot anyway.
So I had to do all my Christmas shopping on Christmas Eve! 😱 (Nothing to buy where we were living in those days.)

No wonder I still have the odd Christmas shopping nightmare…

I had to check the date to see it wasn’t April Fool’s Day! 🤣

Oreo, there is a Welsh village called Bethlehem. I can't comment on inn availability there.

If he insists on doing this then let him go alone.

crazyH

This is a joke. This is anew poster, I think 🤔

This is not a new poster.

She has been my friend for 50 plus years and posts on the GM thread!

Borrheid suffers serious health issues and rarely leaves home.

So much for the Christmas spirit! 🤬

Borrheid, tell your DH, that is the most insane idea I have ever heard.

What comes across is a person who whilst wishing to seize the day in his mind, is not giving any thought as to how that will impact on his prospective hosts.. Reading through the numerous threads here as to the planning that goes into hosting Christmas, it's a lot of hard work, and most will have fined tuned that as to how many will be seated around their tables and staying over night. Maybe the husband knows his family, or thinks he does, but I imagine most would be very, very put out to have two uninvited guests turn up out of the blue. He is being very literal in interpreting "love to see you again soon" as just rolling up uninvited for Christmas. Yes definitely show him this thread and a few others relating to Christmas planning. It's not all put perfectly in place by staff, unless you're from that background.

given weather predictions Wales will have dreadful road conditions and will be jolly cold when you sleep in your car.. I'd take lots of blankets

Thank you all for your comments - I laughed at some and winced at others. We have been married for almost 33 years and he can still surprise me with his way of thinking. He has little emotional intelligence, whether that’s to do with his military background I don’t know. We were out at M&S at 06.30 this morning when he came home from night shift. We discussed Christmas dinner items. He did say that going to Wales next weekend might be ok. At least then we can book ahead - both the family time and an hotel! I may well show him this thread if only to illustrate how anxious I was about it. More to follow once we have had a chat later on today!
Marydoll he doesn’t like Christmas decorations but watches Christmas movies avidly ( I don’t!). Strange! He definitely has the Scrooge mentality!

Please put us all out of our misery and anxiety on your behalf and tell us he has changed his mind.

What a bonkers idea. Does he often come up with similar stuff?

How can 2 people just turn up unannounced on Christmas Day expecting dinner and lodgings? It would be bad enough on an ordinary day but Christmas Day, even for the most laid back of hosts, is usually planned with some precision. Food is bought in advance according to the number of guests and I can't imagine anyone wanting to ration out the turkey or make up extra beds on Christmas Day of all days. It's an unbelievably daft idea from a fully grown adult and extremely bad manners too!