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One daughter pregnant, one daughter had miscarriage

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Cossy Sat 15-Feb-25 13:32:18

Sad situation, but given time I’m sure it will resolve itself. flowers

6Grann4 Sat 15-Feb-25 13:27:34

Sorry - rereading my post I realised I put this wrongly. My daughter who is pregnant knew my daughter-in-law was pregnant but had waited until they told her to let them know about her baby. I told her about the miscarriage as she was waiting to let them know. Obviously she won't tell them about her pregnancy at this point but they will have to know at some point. Her baby is due about the same time as theirs would have been.

Babs03 Sat 15-Feb-25 13:12:20

Unless your DiL feels the need to tell your daughter there is no need for anyone to say anything. This is not your news to tell so please remain neutral in this.
I have a daughter who has miscarried twice, she has a beautiful little boy but miscarried the first time when one of my other daughters had just given birth. She never said anything and has no intention of doing so as far as we know. Is entirely up to your DiL.

keepingquiet Sat 15-Feb-25 13:09:32

It is up to her, DIL, to tell them when she is ready.

If she doesn't tell them and somehow your daughter finds out then why should you feel guilty? You are respecting DILs privacy and for obvious reasons.

I don't know if they would want to know about something they presently have no knowledge of so I believe you are overthinking this.

Be there for both of them, and your son, but don't have conversations about things they would rather keep private.

6Gran6 Sat 15-Feb-25 13:04:10

My younger daughter is just over 12 weeks pregnant with her second child. However this week my daughter-in-law who found she was pregnant with her third about the same time has had a miscarriage at 12 weeks. My daughter had not told them about her pregnancy as they had previously had 2 miscarriages so she was waiting until they were 12 weeks along. Now obviously she cannot tell them at the moment but at what point should she tell them? They live 250 miles apart so they are not likely to see each other and my son does not call me a lot preferring to use WhatsApp. If she does not tell them for a few months will they feel hurt that she/I did not tell them or would they prefer not to know? Any advice welcome.