The phrase "get over it"

"Get over it" means move on and stop wittering or moaning about something. In other words, we're all sick of hearing about it and it's not that important anyway. It is not in any way a constructive or nice thing to say.

"get over it" is, I think, akin to "end of" . To me, both responses are rude and suggest that the person using them thinks they are so important and knowledgeable that they have the right to try and shut a person up or end a discussion.

"Get over it" is probably not something you'd say to your employer, your bank manager, your doctor, or anyone else you were dealing with in a similar position.

Why? Because it's rude. And meant to be.

I agree. It is usually said or written by those lacking empathy for others and in a spirit of intolerance and complacency. I very much dislike seeing it in postings.

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As with many another expression, how the words are said and in what context makes all the difference. Get over it said supportively along with other advice/sympathy/constructive ideas is fine. It's when it is just thrown out rudely or contemptuously that it's a problem.

But as in all such cases it's the contempt that's offensive, not the words themselves.

For me the word acceptance first and foremost would have to include what it is that I am thinking about accepting or not. If the situation calls for me to take action then I will. If the situation calls for me to breathe and reboot then I will do that as well. I think it’s very personal to each and everyone of us what we are able to live with and what were called upon to engage with.

Another variation is "get over yourself!" which is quite pointed.

The sort of remark that Donald Trump might make.

Saying "get over it" and "move on" is offhand and rude especially if said to a friend or acquaintance. Within the family we often say things like "it is what it is so suck it up". It's a kind of tough love thing, but we know that as a family we will be supportive of each other when things don't pan out as we would have wished.

pascal30

I think it is normally said perjoratively..and is not vey helpful

I agree. It is negative and rude.

In the current context, it is the sort of thing Trump would say to Zelenski!

It is a rude expression. Sometimes there are no answers to a problem, in the end even if aggrevieved we have to move on, but its difficult,

I agree with Barleyfields. It is rude and condescending.

It's what you say but it's quite rude to be honest

The phrase is difficult to imagine in any context where it wouldn’t be rude unless prefixed or preambled by something kind and emollient.

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Take it in your stride is a good useful saying. Another one would be let it go.

There are useful ways of saying get over it. Not using those words but saying something to encourage someone to cope, to move on. My dad was good at this.

After I got knocked off my bike by a car the first time when I was eighteen, he told me that as soon as the bike was mended it was best to get back on it and ride so that I (or anyone) didn't dwell on it and become fearful. He was right. And this learned attitude saw me through other bicycle knocking off (and falling off, e.g. after skidding on ice) episodes.

Another time, a different scenario, he said "Take it in your stride." He was right again. He meant don't be defeated by temporary failure.

It's a good idea to strive to get over things. Some things are harder to get over than others but it's always worth trying in pursuit of strength and resilience which will stand you in good stead throughout life.

Because of the real 'fight' more than ever, Europe has to stand strong together, with the UK- so more important than ever. No longer 'just' about all the UK sectors being very seriously affected by Brexit- but so so much more, you are right.

There isn’t a fight and in any case there are more important things now to think about.

When I have seen, heard or read " get over it" , it seems to have been used in a derogatory and offhand way.

If used in sensible or sympathetic conversation perhaps more meaningful

Norah

MayBee70

It isn’t a case of being obsessed with Brexit but a case of everyone choosing to ignore the fact that we’d be better off economically if we were still in the EU.

We might be better off were we still in the EU, we're not, thus get over it.

There is no 'might' about it. It has been proven again and again, on all fronts.

I am not a giver-upper - so the fight is on.

I dislike it as an expression and see the writer as probably someone with the empathy of Donald Trump! Whilst it is fine to make suggestions to help and possible that it might be good to try and block that line of thought by trying to go in another direction, and good suggestions might be a great help. The Get over it, comes from someone who has little or no interest in anyone but themselves or sees your problem as very minor to whatever bothers them. We all have different problems and can look back and see times when we worried a lot over something that now we would have no problem with at all. We need the help we need at the time we need it, and get over it does not give anything helpful and indeed gives the writer a negative feeling on reading that reply. Fortunately on here I find many more of the empathetic replies thank goodness.

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I don’t think. I’ve ever used that phrase. If someone tells me their problems, I just say don’t worry about it and try to calm them. I’ve got a marvellous friend, who doesn’t get over it. She just diverts the attention to herself and her problems 😂

Get over it is used as a way to shut down discussion. It is rude.