Dating and boring blokes.

Same as BlueBelle

I gave up on men when I was in my fifties ( I d had more than my share of the good bad and ugly) then realised I really didn’t need a man to define my happiness and haven’t wanted to since, although I ve had some tryers but sorry guys, no longer interested

A friend of mine in similar circumstances said “She had to kiss a lot of frogs before she met a prince “

They aren’t necessarily boring blokes though, are they? Just self-centred types who haven’t mastered the art of conversation. A lot of women are like this too.

I have several Platonic male friends whom I met through just going to places where men happen to be, social clubs and interest groups. When we meet up, our conversations tend to be about what’s going on in the world or we chat about shared interests. They don’t talk much about themselves or ask me much about my life and that’s fine.

If you are looking for a long-term partner then just accept that anyone who isn’t interested in you, isn’t the right one.

On the other side of the coin, beware of men who claim to enjoy the same activities you do or to have had similar experiences to make it appear as if you have a lot in common. It’s called mirroring. Yes, I also love novels by xxx or music by xxx. Ask them to name something by xxx and they have a sudden attack of amnesia!

I met my second husband through online dating , 17 years ago. I had a few disasters, until we met . My advice would be , don't give up , know exactly the sort of man you would like to meet. Try a site that you need to pay for , the free ones are just guys looking for sex.

How irritating, but I don’t think that only talking about themselves applies to all men.
Like most women you probably politely let the man talk without interrupting. Change tack, when next on a date try to dictate the narrative by talking about yourself but pausing to let the man join in when relating to what you have said, or ask him a question about himself before moving on.
I hope you have more luck soon.

It's 15 years since I did any on-line dating. It wasn't so common then but I did find out men lie about the height and women lie about their weight!

I did meet someone I was with for eight years but it all ended in tears... he was incredibly boring too!

I have never been tempted, too late now. I had a lovely husband, he was my best friend too. It would not feel right being with anyone else. I do get lonely but that's preferable to
internet dating.

You’re probably better off joining a social group like odd fellows or U3a. There are a mix of people with varied interests you may meet someone with shared interests.