Is this a CF or are we missing something

My DH 1 died when I was 40 and he was slightly older. It wasn’t long before 2 men made approaches. One was a good friend of DH and was his best man. The other was a colleague of mine who started off being very helpful but then wanted more. Both were married. When you’re vulnerable, lonely and in shock it’s the last thing you need.

We met up with a friend in his late 70s whose beloved wife had died 4 months earlier. To our surprise he had a female companion with him, we were introduced and he said "She was an acquaintance of XXX [his late wife] and we met at the funeral!" 👀 That was a few years ago and they're still chugging along as friends... 🤷‍♀️

(I also have no idea what CF is - I thought Cheerful Friend? Cheeky Friendship?...)

CF to me means Crowd Funding so I also did not have a clue.

Never heard of CF and do want to,either ,by the sounds of it.Better on mumsnet perhaps, they like a bit of vulgarity there.

We moved to Ireland in 2003 to my husband's home village. Sadly he died just 4 years later. The local community were very supportive.

A few weeks after his funeral his elderly cousin (84) arrived one Sunday afternoon. I'd never met the man before. He said he'd been unable to attend the funeral due to ill health.

I made him a cup of tea and we chatted about my husband etc. He asked if my husband used to take me out for dinner (which he did quite often before his illness), then went on to ask could he take me out for dinner one evening. I was only in my 40s, so thought he was just being a kind old man!!!!!
I replied I wasn't up to going out just at that time but maybe some time in the future, I did feel a little uncomfortable but my teenage daughter was upstairs
As he was leaving he put his arm around me and said "so are we boyfriend and girlfriend now?"
I said I wasn't ready for anything like that and couldn't get him out of the door quick enough
The following week he turned up at my son's restaurant looking for me and got quite nasty when my son put him straight lol
A close friend later explained back in the day in parts of Ireland when women became widows that elderly (usually well off) cousins would offer to take on the widow and her children

For MadMeg, and I forgot to say, the C word in CF is ‘cheeky’.

Is he rich?

Madmeg

It's a term that describes a man who does what men do to a woman -using vulgar words beginning with C and F.

No, it’s an often used term on MN to describe someone taking the mick, or abusing someone else’s good nature.

E.g. endlessly expecting lifts which take the driver well out of her way, or frequently asking friends or even mere acquaintances for free childcare, maybe for a couple of hours, and failing to collect the children until 4 hours after the time she’d specified.

Madmeg

It's a term that describes a man who does what men do to a woman -using vulgar words beginning with C and F.

Oh dear. I quite often tease my youngest GS and tell him he has a c&£\@y face. I really had no idea I was being vulgar.

You learn something new every day on GN.

I’d say he was opportunistic!

Still none the wiser.

I find all these abbreviations very confusing. I know it saves time in writing but the reader than has to translate.

On the subject matter, this man is obviously very insensitive, so her response is surely predictable.

Rula

OldFrill

What was auntie's response?

FO, hopefully

🤣

Sorry for using the term CF. It's as said used a lot on MN.

Auntie was upset that she only buried uncle on Friday.
Now she is laughing at the thought people might think she
is a merry widow.
She did tell him no. I wasn't there so don't know how she said no.

Marydoll

At first glance, I thought the thread was about Cystic Fibrosis!

I thought this too!

Does auntie want to go on a date? Does she want to date him?

I disagree with the idea that life is to short to be on our own. It's fine to be single at any age, if that's what you want.

Madmeg

It's a term that describes a man who does what men do to a woman -using vulgar words beginning with C and F.

I wouldn’t class cheeky as vulgar 😂

Rula

I am lost.

He is right, life is very short,but tackless for him to ask so quickly, not a CF in my opinion.

OldFrill

What was auntie's response?

FO, hopefully

What was auntie's response?

It's a term that describes a man who does what men do to a woman -using vulgar words beginning with C and F.

What is it then ?

CF is frequently used on MN.