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Willow11 Mon 03-Mar-25 22:16:29

My auntie 83 (late mum's sister) DH died 3 weeks ago.
Funeral was last Friday 28th.
Today one of uncles friends 87 asked her for a date.
As in his words 'life is to short to be on our own '
And it was definitely a date dinner and maybe a dance.

petra Thu 06-Mar-25 07:30:45

Sexual attraction at funerals is nothing new.
There are psychological reasons for it.

observer.com/2015/08/better-bed-than-dead-why-mouners-often-hook-up-at-funerals/

fiorentina51 Thu 06-Mar-25 07:09:08

When my, much older cousin died, her only child, who lived abroad, asked us to 'keep an eye' on her elderly father.
My husband and I would visit, sometimes we would go out for lunch, and I would phone him regularly, just to check up on him.
About 2 years after my cousins death, my husband died suddenly. Within a few weeks of his death, my cousin's widower was suggesting I go on cruises with him or move in with him, have weekends away etc.
I felt really uncomfortable going to visit on my own, so I decided to stop all contact.

RSALLAN2002 Thu 06-Mar-25 01:42:48

No comprende.

rafichagran Wed 05-Mar-25 19:34:48

Looking at the Gransnet rules, you can swear. Although context is everything. On mumsnet swearing is widely accepted and happens quite alot.

LOUISA1523 Wed 05-Mar-25 17:42:50

BlueBelle

I don’t have any problem with the words Cheeky Fxxxer and would use it myself in full in chatting with someone the only reason I don’t write it in full here is because my post would be removed
What I do have a problem with is initials themselves which unless they are very common like OK or BBC are used either to seem in the ‘incrowd’, or maybe laziness
This thread title was provoking in my opinion hoping to draw people in to say as I did ‘what’s that then’ needing it a be explained to the ‘poor old dear’’
Why not put Cheeky eff or cheeky f or even cheeky xxxxxx in the title instead of CF
Marydoll I too thought of Cystic Fybrosis’

Others might not see it like that, and that’s fine too we re all different

I wrote it in full yesterday on here and no one has removed my post?

MaggsMcG Wed 05-Mar-25 15:48:59

Maybe he's always fancied her and life is too short to leave it any longer.

Oreo Wed 05-Mar-25 14:57:32

Men do seem attracted to a widow, either, in my view for a free bonk or to get themselves looked after, house cleaned, clothes washed and meals cooked.In the case mentioned by the OP, he sure is a CF.

Oreo Wed 05-Mar-25 14:52:32

LOUISA1523

A cheeky fucker .....abbreviated to CF .....is just someone who is a chancer or is taking the mick.....its a very common saying where I live....nothing to do with sex ...and nothing to get your knickers in a twist about

This

Oreo Wed 05-Mar-25 14:51:37

petra

Madmeg

It's a term that describes a man who does what men do to a woman -using vulgar words beginning with C and F.

Absolute tosh. It means sly or brazen. The f+-%#@g word in this context doesn’t mean the same as what you’re thinking.
Put the smelling salts away.

😂

SherrieB Wed 05-Mar-25 14:44:01

He's right, life is too short, but his timing could have been better.
That said, if your aunt wasn't offended/upset, then no harm done.
Bit cheeky, yes, but if you don't ask, you don't get.

MARPG Wed 05-Mar-25 14:39:44

If he was I would be first in the queue. ALLIRA. FROM MARPG

Nanny27 Wed 05-Mar-25 14:13:18

Hi Outcast 52
Yes I am of course (unfortunately) familiar with the 4 letter C word but have never heard it used with a Y on the end.
Live and learn!

HowVeryDareYou2 Wed 05-Mar-25 11:12:14

LOUISA1523

A cheeky fucker .....abbreviated to CF .....is just someone who is a chancer or is taking the mick.....its a very common saying where I live....nothing to do with sex ...and nothing to get your knickers in a twist about

Correct

Witzend Wed 05-Mar-25 11:01:32

rafichagran

I am on mumsnet as well as gransnet, CF is very common usage, its not meant to be shockable, its quite common.
I really don't care original poster used it and I don't know east all the fuss is about. Some if you wind yourselves up.
Let it go, those who did not know what it meant know now.

All this, absolutely.
Quite a few GNers also use MN, which is often a lot more entertaining.
I do sometimes find myself sighing at the levels of prudery on GN. From some GNers, anyway - I’m not tarring everyone with the same brush.

Romola Wed 05-Mar-25 10:49:58

My DM was widowed at 48. She told me, "You'd be surprised at how some of my friends' husbands are ringing up and propositioning me."
She was furious at the way those men seemed to think that they would be doing her a favour.

BlueBelle Wed 05-Mar-25 06:15:48

I don’t have any problem with the words Cheeky Fxxxer and would use it myself in full in chatting with someone the only reason I don’t write it in full here is because my post would be removed
What I do have a problem with is initials themselves which unless they are very common like OK or BBC are used either to seem in the ‘incrowd’, or maybe laziness
This thread title was provoking in my opinion hoping to draw people in to say as I did ‘what’s that then’ needing it a be explained to the ‘poor old dear’’
Why not put Cheeky eff or cheeky f or even cheeky xxxxxx in the title instead of CF
Marydoll I too thought of Cystic Fybrosis’

Others might not see it like that, and that’s fine too we re all different

Madmeg Wed 05-Mar-25 01:08:53

Maybe I've been reading too much on GN!

Junoesque Tue 04-Mar-25 22:10:55

Do tell auntie to be cautious. The very same thing happened to my aunt and the very next question from this aged lothario was
‘ Did James (not uncles real name) leave you well provided for ‘
Her reply was
‘Don’t let the door hit you on the way out !!’ Bless her.

LOUISA1523 Tue 04-Mar-25 22:02:37

A cheeky fucker .....abbreviated to CF .....is just someone who is a chancer or is taking the mick.....its a very common saying where I live....nothing to do with sex ...and nothing to get your knickers in a twist about

rafichagran Tue 04-Mar-25 21:44:19

flappergirl

It stands for "cheeky f""ker" and means more or less the same as taking liberties.

Exactly.

flappergirl Tue 04-Mar-25 21:39:27

It stands for "cheeky f""ker" and means more or less the same as taking liberties.

rafichagran Tue 04-Mar-25 20:57:29

What not east

rafichagran Tue 04-Mar-25 20:56:45

I am on mumsnet as well as gransnet, CF is very common usage, its not meant to be shockable, its quite common.
I really don't care original poster used it and I don't know east all the fuss is about. Some if you wind yourselves up.
Let it go, those who did not know what it meant know now.

win Tue 04-Mar-25 20:43:17

Why does everyone speak in riddles, if there are words you would not use, then don't use them in any form, look at the confusion this has all caused and half of us are none the wiser.
If the OP uses words like that why not spell them out, Why say it is used on Mumsnet, who cares what they do one Mumsnet, this is Gransnet, if we wanted to read what Mumsnet do we would join.

petra Tue 04-Mar-25 20:13:53

Outcast52
As a genteel gransnetter you must surely be aware that
Chaucer
Shakespeare
Tennessee Williams
DH Laurence
Samuel Beckett all used that word.