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I’ve just read One in 14 children (or rather their parents) are currently claiming DLA for ADHD or autism.

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FriedGreenTomatoes2 Tue 11-Mar-25 14:53:04

What? Beggars belief. Yesterday I was talking to a primary school head teacher who was telling me that she is regularly kicked, punched, spat at and called names because a kid cannot get their own way. The parents are largely the issue as they ask "What was the crisis/trigger point?”

Sago Tue 11-Mar-25 14:56:59

It’s not just the children the parents all have ADHD/Autism now!
My brow lady told me how she has just been diagnosed, she’s 50!
It is worth too much in benefits sadly.

Indigo8 Tue 11-Mar-25 14:57:27

Is it me or is the world going mad?

Indigo8 Tue 11-Mar-25 14:58:32

Sorry I mean has gone mad.

FriedGreenTomatoes2 Tue 11-Mar-25 15:05:29

Surely we cannot afford this madness for much longer?

Allsorts Tue 11-Mar-25 15:16:28

It’s gone mad. Every one has someone in the family with some sort of ism or question about gender. It has never been b so bad as it is now. If I were starting out in life, children would not be for me. You get a few wonderful early years and thats it. Teachers should never be assaulted, how would you feel if it were your son or daughter. I worry enough for my grandchildren and they are all grown up and none of them have said they want children and its their decision but all of have said never consider having a child as a single person,

escaped Tue 11-Mar-25 15:17:18

That seems a bit steep to me? Crazy.
Do parents spend their lives looking for labels for their children? Personally, irrespective of the benefits, I don't like it.

FriedGreenTomatoes2 Tue 11-Mar-25 15:18:35

I think we on here would ALL support ‘genuine need’ in a heartbeat.

It’s the scroungers I can’t stand. Those who game the system.
We all know it goes on!

You can’t defend the indefensible.

FriedGreenTomatoes2 Tue 11-Mar-25 15:21:44

Agree Allsorts.

Alun Ebeneezer (Head teacher in Wales) and Katharine Birbalsingh are both cut from the same cloth, or rather, cut from the same granite. All power to them.

escaped Tue 11-Mar-25 15:21:50

I think we on here would ALL support ‘genuine need’ in a heartbeat.
Of course.

AGAA4 Tue 11-Mar-25 15:23:11

Too many labels attached to people now. Strange how we all got by years ago without ADHD etc.
I think too many are just energetic and wilful children whose parents don't know how to cope with and a label makes them feel better.
I know there are children with genuine problems but there seems to be a large proportion now with mental health issues.

ViceVersa Tue 11-Mar-25 15:23:21

I get what is being said here, but having worked with children with ASN, you can't tar all these parents with the same brush. Yes, there will also be some who will try to 'game the system', but there are many who are genuinely struggling to cope with their child's additional needs. How do you weed out the genuine cases from the 'scroungers'?

Usedtobeblonde Tue 11-Mar-25 15:25:16

I know people who can twist anything to beat the system.
They should have degrees in it.
They come from families who pass the knowledge on.
Disabled and ill children are easy to recognise and deserve help.
I am not talking about them here.

FriedGreenTomatoes2 Tue 11-Mar-25 15:27:53

I don’t know ViceVersa but there’s got to be a way! Surely it would end up being self funding to weed the (many) scroungers out? While some young people have “genuine problems”, Mr. Ebenezer suspects plenty don’t. The problem, he says, is the way “we now hide behind labels”....spot on.

FriedGreenTomatoes2 Tue 11-Mar-25 15:28:32

Me neither uttb.

Gwyllt Tue 11-Mar-25 15:41:39

Sticking a label on a child apart from claiming benefit it gives some parents the feeling to say not my fault or possibly what are the school going to do about it instead of trying to help their child
Similarly we allow pets in our holiday cottages and these days it is quite unusual to meet a dog that the owners don’t say is a rescue. Not saying this is necessarily problem dogs

ViceVersa Tue 11-Mar-25 15:54:17

FriedGreenTomatoes2

I don’t know ViceVersa but there’s got to be a way! Surely it would end up being self funding to weed the (many) scroungers out? While some young people have “genuine problems”, Mr. Ebenezer suspects plenty don’t. The problem, he says, is the way “we now hide behind labels”....spot on.

I agree that there should be a way - I'm just not sure what that way is. Yes, there are some parents who actively seek a 'label' for their child for various reasons, but there are also parents struggling to get their child properly assessed and diagnosed so they can get the help (and I'm not just talking about financial help) that the child genuinely needs.

nandad Tue 11-Mar-25 16:05:08

It used to be dyslexia, then ADHD, Asperger’s. Now it’s autism or neurodiversity. Unfortunately, in a lot of cases it’s lazy parenting. If a child isn’t diagnosed by the NHS parents go to private companies who do diagnose something. The parents then use this to make excuses for poor behaviour. They then clog up the system so they can get an EHCP and extra support for their child. Meanwhile those that genuinely need the help are labelled with the same brush.

glasshalffullagain Tue 11-Mar-25 16:07:02

Is anybody just "neuro?"

FriedGreenTomatoes2 Tue 11-Mar-25 16:11:20

I completely agree with you ViceVersa on all aspects of genuine need there’s no doubt it should not only be there, but generous. These families need all the help they can get. Maybe if we could find a way to cull the benefits to the chancers then we would all be happier about the welfare state.

Surely there’s someone somewhere with the brains to tackle this blatant culture of supposed entitlement?

ViceVersa Tue 11-Mar-25 16:33:50

FriedGreenTomatoes2

I completely agree with you ViceVersa on all aspects of genuine need there’s no doubt it should not only be there, but generous. These families need all the help they can get. Maybe if we could find a way to cull the benefits to the chancers then we would all be happier about the welfare state.

Surely there’s someone somewhere with the brains to tackle this blatant culture of supposed entitlement?

There has to be a way. I've honestly no idea how so many 'chancers' manage to claim benefits though, because I've seen at first hand how difficult it can be to claim when you do have a genuine entitlement. We had to jump through hoops to get the Attendance Allowance for my in-laws, which they both genuinely needed.

Boz Tue 11-Mar-25 16:47:03

I see Nadine Dorries has declared herself a sufferer of ADHD (diagnosed by her daughter). Not doubt looking for an excuse for her febrile attachment to Boris Johnson.

LovesBach Tue 11-Mar-25 16:57:08

A Special Needs teacher of my acquaintance was put under a great deal of pressure by one set of parents to help categorize their child with ADHD. The mother's rationale was that it would make a big difference to them financially, apparently about £200 a month. What on earth can you do about people with such warped priorities? (She refused)

MyL0 Tue 11-Mar-25 17:14:51

I am autistic but I get a lot of support.
One of my support workers told me that they have ADHD, but I can’t believe it because if they did I’m sure they would have lost their job.
The criteria for autism and adhd has become so broad and up to interpretation that it has lost all meaning. This will impact those who genuinely have these conditions.
There are a lot of inconsistencies in these cases. I don’t think that the diagnostic process is sturdy enough. It’s shown that other conditions can mimic autistic symptoms.

hulahoop Tue 11-Mar-25 17:18:20

One of our gd has diagnosed autism in her area no school can meet her needs, a nightmare for her parents she is home schooled at the moment . They don't get help financially.Please don't think everyone is the same ,this is one club they wish they wasn't in.