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Happy Mother’s Day, Mummy

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mothball64 Sun 30-Mar-25 17:38:37

Although we have never met, I wanted to thank you, for
everything. You gave birth to me on 5th August 1955 - in
the years of sensible. All I know, you worked in a bank; you
met an agricultural student; you had me, named me
Patricia and you blessed me with the most wonderful
adopted Mummy and Daddy, ever.

You gave me a perfect body, toes, fingers and the neatest
tummy button ever.

Real life is not like stupid depictions on TV when kids find
out they are adopted - I would never ‘blame’, I have no
right to judge - nor would I. I just want to thank you.

I don’t know, but hope you are still around, somewhere,
and I send all my love.

Sadly my beautiful, wonderful Mummy died when I was
8, but you and them gave me the love/genes to adore and
rescue everything four legs, fur and feathers - I’ve
been doing that for over 60 years - maternal I’m not,
but fuzzies are my life.

I don’t know ‘me’ at all, but I am kind, generous, loving,
too soft, sensitive and giggly. Much of that, I believe comes
from you. I am alone now but I will always
be so grateful to you and to the best adopted Mummy and
Popsy - he looked after me my whole life x

I’ve had the best life you could imagine - all this, because of you.

Thank you so very much.

Happy Mother’s Day, Mummy. xxx

silverlining48 Sun 30-Mar-25 17:55:13

Mothball flowers

Astitchintime Sun 30-Mar-25 18:33:09

Oh Mothball, what a perfectly lovely sentiment flowers

M0nica Sun 30-Mar-25 21:03:39

How wonderful.

Poppyred Sun 30-Mar-25 21:11:41

Oh, how sad and lovely too……💐

Usedtobeblonde Sun 30-Mar-25 21:16:20

Oh how much I hope your your lovely message reached your much respected “ mummy”

NotAGran55 Sun 30-Mar-25 21:22:38

Such a beautiful tribute.

Granniesunite Sun 30-Mar-25 22:29:43

What a generous spirit you have mothball64

A pleasure to read.

Toetoe Sun 30-Mar-25 22:33:57

Oh that is just wonderful

Anniebach Sun 30-Mar-25 23:34:31

So beautiful, thank you for sharing x

whywhywhy Sun 30-Mar-25 23:41:59

Wow! That made me cry! Wonderful words. Hugs.

rafichagran Sun 30-Mar-25 23:51:25

Absolutly lovely.

V3ra Sun 30-Mar-25 23:57:08

What a moving and heartfelt tribute to your birth Mummy, your adopted Mummy and your wonderful Popsy mothball64.

Too many of us have ambivalent feelings at best towards our parents, for good reasons.
Your words are so lovely to read 🥰

NotSpaghetti Mon 31-Mar-25 00:23:37

mothball64 I hope this sends a message of gratitude and love to birth mothers and adoptive parents alike ❤️

Thanks for sharing.

Coconutty Mon 31-Mar-25 05:55:53

That’s just beautiful x

Chocolatelovinggran Mon 31-Mar-25 08:09:58

Thank you Mothball . This was lovely to read.
I am the devoted grandmother of a much - longed - for adopted child. They are surrounded by an extended loving family and are enjoying a wonderful childhood.
Owing to circumstances with the birth mother's first child, my grandchild was removed from her care as a small baby.
On Mothering Sunday I do think of her and how her loss is our gain.

Shelflife Mon 31-Mar-25 10:50:08

Sending you love mothball , you have brought tears to my eyes. Such wonderful words to your birth Mum.
Losing your much loved Mum when you were only 8 years old must have
been very difficult indeed. I wish you health and happiness. 💐💐

Skye17 Mon 31-Mar-25 14:31:18

What a lovely message.

Norah Mon 31-Mar-25 14:55:29

mothball64 Lovely! flowers flowers

JdotJ Mon 31-Mar-25 15:02:20

❤️

Cateq Mon 31-Mar-25 15:17:06

Mothball64, your post could’ve been written by my DH. He was adopted as a baby, and was lucky enough to have had2 of the most amazing adoptive parents. They died sometime ago, but they are remembered lovingly by us and our children.

I know when I read of parents being cruel to their children I feel so sad, a child’s love is a gift and shouldn’t be abused. A mother giving her child up can sometimes be the greatest sign of love they can do.

Romola Mon 31-Mar-25 15:29:46

Ah Mothball64 that brought tears to my eyes too. Thank you.

Pmem Mon 31-Mar-25 15:54:47

How absolutely beautiful mothball64! I only discovered my aisterafyer my dad dies in 2010. My mother had my sister before they got together- we met when I was 48 and she was 52. Sadly my mother was dead but I truly believe they met briefly(long story). It's never too late!

Davida1968 Mon 31-Mar-25 17:34:28

Oh mothball, what beautiful sentiments.
Have you never sought out your birth mother? I appreciate that it's your choice, and that you may not have done so, for all sorts of reasons. But you seem to care for her, very much. This happened with someone in my family (birth mother & her child reunited) and it's been a positive outcome, all round. Wishing you every happiness.

Goldieoldie15 Tue 01-Apr-25 03:03:22

Ambivalent feelings towards our parents: and often for not very good reason