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FriedGreenTomatoes2 Thu 03-Apr-25 15:34:33

No, I’m rubbish.
I try to find something likeable about everyone. I make allowances when possibly I ought not to. I’m too trusting and I suppose a bit naive.

Himself is a very good judge of character. He has an excellent BS radar whenever we meet someone new, so if we meet someone new together, I do take heed if he has concerns as he is a good judge of character.

Skydancer Thu 03-Apr-25 15:27:01

Yes. I think we women are quite intuitive. I rarely go from disliking someone to liking them.

JudyBloom Thu 03-Apr-25 15:15:54

Yes, sometimes and I have thought it may be due to a negative connection in previous lives.

Esmay Thu 03-Apr-25 15:07:57

We have great inner radar - probably developed to keep us safe.
There are people that I dislike - then I feel guilty.
But I have to say my gut reactions are invariably right.

Allira Thu 03-Apr-25 14:41:46

HelterSkelter1

Yes, it can happen although usually I'm a good judge.

DH palled up with a man who was in the same club as him and I thought "Well, I don't like you" but couldn't say why. When I got to know him better he was the loveliest, kindest man, now sadly deceased but we're friends with his family now.

silverlining48 Thu 03-Apr-25 14:34:12

I don’t think I have ever taken an instant dislike to someone I have just met. I don’t judge until I know people better, unless they were abusive or downright rude I would.

ViceVersa Thu 03-Apr-25 14:27:15

Always trust your gut instinct. It's served me well over the years. One time, I was sent to interview a man who claimed to have a story for the local paper I worked for at the time. The minute he opened the door, I got that gut feeling and felt really uncomfortable the whole time I was there. Well, without going into details, a few years later, he turned out to be a very notorious sex offender who had seriously assaulted several women.

Aveline Thu 03-Apr-25 13:59:57

I once immediately took against the then boyfriend of a dear friend. I was very awkward. Interestingly all her other friends felt the same. I don't know what it was about him but I really felt uncomfortable with him. Sadly, I was right. He turned out to be a real rotter and my friend suffered greatly as a result. Happily, she eventually found a lovely man and we all liked him at once. Gut instinct goes two ways too. You can firm instant likes too.

TheWeirdoAgain1 Thu 03-Apr-25 12:10:17

You're not a horrible person at all! I get what you're saying.

Various people over the years I've just met, for some reason make my flesh crawl. It might be the body language, the way they speak or look, there's something .... off about them.

I can't get anywhere near Chris Packham, Cliff Richard, Lorraine Kelly or the Australian Crocodile bloke, Paul Hogan. There's something .... primeval.... about them. I've never met any of them so it's nothing personal, they're probably incredibly nice but my hair stands on end when I see them!

There's also a woman who works the tills at our local Spar who I can't get near, she serves me and I'm always polite to her - please and thank you - but I have to get away from her as soon as I can!

HelterSkelter1 Thu 03-Apr-25 12:05:49

Yes I have had the same. But also I took an instant dislike to someone who proved to be a really caring interesting person when I knew her better. So I tend to hold fire with my instincts now.

GrannyGravy13 Thu 03-Apr-25 12:04:50

I took an instant dislike to a new member of staff of one of our customers, (it was mutual) six months later we were best friends and have been for the last 36 years.

On the other hand, I disliked one of DH’s friends on the first meeting, over the years DH has realised my gut reaction was right and they are now on his one to avoid list

ayse Thu 03-Apr-25 11:54:12

Oh, and by the way, you’re not a horrid person. You’re just taking note of your intuition. Always worth considering.

ayse Thu 03-Apr-25 11:52:50

Not often but yes. I try to wait then until I have some evidence. It doesn’t always work though. Some folk can be attractive initially but can prove to be some else as time goes on.

Aveline Thu 03-Apr-25 11:47:50

Just got to thinking about this. Sometimes, not often, I take a sudden dislike to someone I've just met. I know it's unreasonable of me and, obviously, I'm a horrible person but I do occasionally feel this way. Looking back, it usually seems that I wasn't wrong and it wasn't just me who felt that way.
Do others have this sudden dislike/distrust of a new acquaintance?