Gut instinct

Not often but yes. I try to wait then until I have some evidence. It doesn’t always work though. Some folk can be attractive initially but can prove to be some else as time goes on.

Oh, and by the way, you’re not a horrid person. You’re just taking note of your intuition. Always worth considering.

I took an instant dislike to a new member of staff of one of our customers, (it was mutual) six months later we were best friends and have been for the last 36 years.

On the other hand, I disliked one of DH’s friends on the first meeting, over the years DH has realised my gut reaction was right and they are now on his one to avoid list

Yes I have had the same. But also I took an instant dislike to someone who proved to be a really caring interesting person when I knew her better. So I tend to hold fire with my instincts now.

You're not a horrible person at all! I get what you're saying.

Various people over the years I've just met, for some reason make my flesh crawl. It might be the body language, the way they speak or look, there's something .... off about them.

I can't get anywhere near Chris Packham, Cliff Richard, Lorraine Kelly or the Australian Crocodile bloke, Paul Hogan. There's something .... primeval.... about them. I've never met any of them so it's nothing personal, they're probably incredibly nice but my hair stands on end when I see them!

There's also a woman who works the tills at our local Spar who I can't get near, she serves me and I'm always polite to her - please and thank you - but I have to get away from her as soon as I can!

I once immediately took against the then boyfriend of a dear friend. I was very awkward. Interestingly all her other friends felt the same. I don't know what it was about him but I really felt uncomfortable with him. Sadly, I was right. He turned out to be a real rotter and my friend suffered greatly as a result. Happily, she eventually found a lovely man and we all liked him at once. Gut instinct goes two ways too. You can firm instant likes too.

Always trust your gut instinct. It's served me well over the years. One time, I was sent to interview a man who claimed to have a story for the local paper I worked for at the time. The minute he opened the door, I got that gut feeling and felt really uncomfortable the whole time I was there. Well, without going into details, a few years later, he turned out to be a very notorious sex offender who had seriously assaulted several women.

I don’t think I have ever taken an instant dislike to someone I have just met. I don’t judge until I know people better, unless they were abusive or downright rude I would.

HelterSkelter1

Yes, it can happen although usually I'm a good judge.

DH palled up with a man who was in the same club as him and I thought "Well, I don't like you" but couldn't say why. When I got to know him better he was the loveliest, kindest man, now sadly deceased but we're friends with his family now.

We have great inner radar - probably developed to keep us safe.
There are people that I dislike - then I feel guilty.
But I have to say my gut reactions are invariably right.

Yes, sometimes and I have thought it may be due to a negative connection in previous lives.

Yes. I think we women are quite intuitive. I rarely go from disliking someone to liking them.

No, I’m rubbish.
I try to find something likeable about everyone. I make allowances when possibly I ought not to. I’m too trusting and I suppose a bit naive.

Himself is a very good judge of character. He has an excellent BS radar whenever we meet someone new, so if we meet someone new together, I do take heed if he has concerns as he is a good judge of character.

I’ve done this all my life, I’ve only been wrong once . I know on first meeting whether I like someone or not . Always trust your instinct

I don't usually easily dislike someone. They have to prove they are nasty.. but many years ago when my DD was about five I was chatting to a neighbour and she was pulling at my hand. She wasn't usually like that but she told me she didn't like that man.
It was a few years later that he was arrested for sexually abusing children.
My DDs instincts were spot on.

Sometimes your gut instinct is correct. I have tried, recently, not to let my gut instinct tell me what is right or wrong. Each and every time I should have followed my gut instinct.

I treat as I find until someone gives me a reason to dislike them. That said, there are just people you warm to instantly and others where it takes time.

Frequently - unfortunately (or fortunately) I never backtrack to take the time to find out about the person.

silverlining48

I don’t think I have ever taken an instant dislike to someone I have just met. I don’t judge until I know people better, unless they were abusive or downright rude I would.

I agree with you. I try never to be judgemental. It scares me.

FriedGreenTomatoes2

No, I’m rubbish.
I try to find something likeable about everyone. I make allowances when possibly I ought not to. I’m too trusting and I suppose a bit naive.

Himself is a very good judge of character. He has an excellent BS radar whenever we meet someone new, so if we meet someone new together, I do take heed if he has concerns as he is a good judge of character.

Same here.

No. I’m totally hopeless. If they act as if they like me I’m putty in their hands until eventually I see the real person. 😱

I get a gut reaction to someone, and then wait to see how it pans out. My gut instinct is rarely wrong.

Observing body language is often a good way to decide if you like or dislike a person

I'm exactly the opposite. I realised long ago that if I take an instant like or dislike towards someone then I'm always proved wrong.