Nodding off

I'm always falling asleep (meds). My GC have grown up with Nana's "snoozes". They love it! Nobody has EVER been put in danger.

Well what do they do while the child is asleep at night? Surely adults sleep too?

Yes I was wondering what 'fastened in' was too??? Fastened in to what?

Fastened in means with chains ropes and a padlock 🙄😢

Fgs

Gosh, is anyone here saying never nodded off when they had the care of their small child/children!

I used to sleep sitting up with my youngest on my chest
mums and nans seem to have an inbuilt timer that wakes you even if they change breathing pattern

I can sleep on a washing line

The age of the child is critical when deciding whether it is safe to have a baby sleeping on you whilst you nap as well. A small baby is unable to do anything to rescue itself if it finds itself suffocating because it has slipped out of your arms/off your lap Sadly it is still a cause of Sudden Infant Death (SID) when, for instance, a baby slips between the adult and the sofa back/arm and suffocates. All new parents are given information about this by their midwife or health visitor so may understandably be wary if grandparents in charge of their little ones don't follow the current safe sleeping guidance. www.lullabytrust.org.uk/baby-safety/being-a-parent-or-caregiver/other-carers-babysitters/ It's easy for us to think "Well, I did it with my children and they are ok" but we know a lot more now about what can harm children and consequently there are far fewer babies being lost to SIDS than when our children were little.

I wish there was an edit facility on Gransnet! So as other posters have asked of the OP - how old was the child and what was he/she strapped into and snuggled into? It is almost impossible to stay awake sometimes but it is obviously essential that the baby is safe, by modern standards, if the need to sleep becomes absolutely overwhelming. Hope this incident wasn't the prelude to a bug or more serious illness for the OP.

My second child, son, was a terrible sleeper but we found if he lay on your chest by your heartbeat he would sleep peacefully. One particular day he was wide awake and very noisy so my Dad picked him up sat in a big chair, lay him across his chest with his arms round him and within five minutes he was asleep, and Dad fell asleep as well. They both slept for about 2 hours snd Dad only woke as he had cramp. My mother said he had done the same with his own 6 children and we had all survived. One time I took same child to bed about 8 o clock, fell asleep with him and didn’t wake until 7 next morning. My lovely husband checked we were both ok and left us. 😴

My granddaughter who’s 2 insists on me going into bed when I put her down for her midday nap. She’s still using her cot so is completely safe, but can take a while to fall asleep and I’ve often closed my eyes and dozed off. I do wake up if she as much as turns over in sleep. My DS just laughs at me and reminds me I’m doing him the favour by looking after her. He knows I’m a very light sleeper so has no concerns about the little one. Your daughter needs to realise it’s very easily done if you’re feeling under the weather.

Of course you're not irresponsible Nan; your GD was safely asleep in the same room. IMO it's unreasonable for your D to say she's worried about you having her again but if she is, there's nothing you can do about that and your D will have to make other arrangements wont she.

Agree !

Please me back Nan54 and answer some of our questions.

*please come back

Personally, if I thought there was the slightest possibility of me falling asleep and unable to guarantee the safety of my grandchild, I'd opt out of minding her until I was sure it was safe to do so.

I fall asleep in the day very frequently due to medication nowadays, so I know what it's like to be overwhelmed by sleep! But if this has upset you I'd avoid the situation if at all possible. I think adult children can forget that we're not as young and vigorous as we were when they were children, and may sometimes expect a bit too much of us!

The OP's GD was sleeping safely and she fell asleep in the same room Pam. There's nothing to suggest that this scenario could have put the child's safety at risk.

We don't know where the granddaughter was sleeping Smileless2012, because we haven't been told.
They could have been in a car seat or buggy.

We know what the OP told us and she told us that her GD was sleeping safely. We've also been told that it's the fact that she also fell asleep that her D has an issue with, not where the child was sleeping.

She has not told us that it was specifically the sleeping that was the issue, Smileless2012

Posts shoots and leaves.

You're right NotSpaghetti but as she only mentioned that she'd also fallen asleep that's how I interpreted the OP.

Fair enough - I didn't interpret it quite like that.
I felt I didn't know why in particular the daughter was worried.
This is why i kept hoping Nan would come back to explain.

One thing that worried me about it was not just that she had fallen asleep (which is a worry in my opinion) but that Nan said
"She was all fastened in"..
What exactly was she fastened into?