What would you rather have?

Madmeg

I grew up with a dad who mended things before anyone noticed that they needed mending so it was a great source of dismay when I learned that my DH was nothing like that. He has never been remotely interested in household things (apart from eating) and tbh it's been a nightmare to me. When I was younger I simply did most of the household chores without involving him as I knew he would agree to do them but need reminding a dozen times or more. As a result we have had disastrous water leaks that I discovered he had known about but said nothing, a roof with holes in that he had similarly known about, and lots of similar things that have cost a lot of money to rectify. His dad was the same - a passer-by spotted their sagging roof and knocked on the door to tell them -the result was that the council paid to have the roof replaced and the house re-plumbed, new electrics and new windows (12 of them!) installed for free. It wouldn't happen nowadays.

Gosh really? Was it a council house?

Oh yes, I've been in a dispute with an SM (silly man!) who said the two stupidest things it's possible to say in any argument: "just tell me what you want me to say and I'll say it!" and "why haven't you got time? MAKE TIME!"

Well, mister, if I could actually "make time" I'd make it for myself before making it for a pig-headed sod like you!

Ah, that's better.......

I grew up with a dad who mended things before anyone noticed that they needed mending so it was a great source of dismay when I learned that my DH was nothing like that. He has never been remotely interested in household things (apart from eating) and tbh it's been a nightmare to me. When I was younger I simply did most of the household chores without involving him as I knew he would agree to do them but need reminding a dozen times or more. As a result we have had disastrous water leaks that I discovered he had known about but said nothing, a roof with holes in that he had similarly known about, and lots of similar things that have cost a lot of money to rectify. His dad was the same - a passer-by spotted their sagging roof and knocked on the door to tell them -the result was that the council paid to have the roof replaced and the house re-plumbed, new electrics and new windows (12 of them!) installed for free. It wouldn't happen nowadays.

Norah

My husband is "tell me what you want, I'll get on with it". Seems there is little he can't accomplish - how we work together is my preference.

Same here with DP, he’ll do jobs when asked but doesn’t think to do them beforehand.Unless it’s stacking the dishwasher which apparently I don’t do right.

My DH is definitely a “get on with things” person but he likes to tell me step by step what he is going to do before he starts.
I think I am his sounding board 😃

My husband is "tell me what you want, I'll get on with it". Seems there is little he can't accomplish - how we work together is my preference.

What on earth are “preassumptions”. Weird.

Be glad you have a DH at all!

We have a division of tasks, works for us. I do the cooking, he clears up. I do the vacuuming and cleaning,he does the bins. I do half the garden and most of the watering, he does the rest. He looks after the pool and most of the financial stuff, I wouldn’t have a clue how to do pool things,too complicated.

2nd one (my dear dad always said try & find a husband with a trade, well mine can plumb, do electrics, decorate & can plaster, he saved us a fortune over the years.

My mother always told me if you want something done ask a busy women ans I still she was right.

I ditched the one that always said "I'll do it later". I got very good at using the drain rods to clear the drainpipe to the cess pit, would have to go out in pitch black ,wintry nights to switch the gas over so I could relight the central heating boiler, replaced light bulbs etc. Incidentally, as a girl, my Mum always asked me to do minor jobs, when Dad was at work, as my 2 brothers were worse than useless.
I am now very happily married to a wonderful man who always gets straight onto anything that needs going, although I do still do the things I can.

Well perhaps it was a rather ambiguous question in the first place, open to a lot of interpretation Ohmother

All those saying ‘ You want to be thankful you’ve still got him.’ where in the original post did I say I wasn’t ? There are a lot of pre assumptions being made here. How do you know I’m not single ?

My DH seemed to know what was coming next eg "don't you think the kitchen needs changing" and he'd be ready to duscuss what I'd like and if it was possible and of course affordable. He was always doing something in his shed/workshop making furniture for us or the family, creating toys for charity fairs etc was never idle especially once retired. He was a mix of both types really.

charliebb

I wish I still had my DH. You don't know what you've got till it's gone! Be thankful he's still around.

Yes this Exactly !

I wish I still had my DH. You don't know what you've got till it's gone! Be thankful he's still around.

When I try to get OH to do some decorating he never seems keen, so I’ll say “I will get someone in to do it “.

Then he pipes up “I’ll do it”.

And then it takes a lot of cajoling to actually get him started.

My DH is utterly useless at any diy. Fortunately I’m pretty handy and will do what needs doing, if it’s not something I can manage I give our brilliant handy man a call. DH however is wizard at anything financial and I don’t know my tables so it works pretty well. You can’t have it all.

Greenfinch

There will be many on here who would settle for either.

Very true.

My DH always has a project on the go for our home, but can be expensive! If he waited for me to suggest them I'd probably save the money.

My son was planning a day out with his ex and their son. I reminded him of the way his father used to ask me what I would REALLY like to do. If I was daft enough to tell him his reply was always "Oh I don't think we want to do that"! If I asked him to do something it usually ended up as "I've said I'll do it, you don't have to keep reminding me every six months" Doesn't mean I don't miss him though.

Thanks all. No domestics here. Just wondering. 😁

Mine was useless around the house, but I wish he was still here.

I'll keep mine thanks, just as he is.

I think most husbands irritate on occasions but I will still hang on to him.