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keepingquiet Sun 04-May-25 21:22:11

I'm sure I'm not on my own here but I find Sundays to be the most challenging day of the week.

Today was no exception-as the only person I've spoken to today has been my son, who clearly didn't want to converse with me.

So after a few chores I went off to do my big food shop. I resent doing this in the week as I'd rather be doing other things and it does get me out of the house. I have even had my Sunday lunch in the supermarket cafe at times, sitting there like Milly no mates.

A cloud of gloom comes over me as I have to pass childhood haunts on my way, and this depression lasts for the rest of the day.

I forced myself into taking a walk, but again, I passed family groups out walking together often three generations just chilling out together and it makes me sad that I'm on my own.

The thing is I have lots of family and friends to keep me company in the week but on Sundays they all seem to be doing things with their own families and never think to include me.

I even joined a walking group to get out more but even they don't do Sunday walks.

I thought about going to the cinema but there was nothing on, and Sunday TV is dire.

I am well aware that not everyone is playing happy familys and I can't be the only person whose loneliness is just compounded on Sundays.

Realising that tomorrow is a BH makes me think tomorrow might just be the same...

So, are you on your own? How do you fill your Sundays? I would love to know if you consider them to be enjoyable, or are you like me and think they are just to be endured?

Chardy Tue 06-May-25 18:28:58

Start with an hour's dog walk, same as every other day, then, tired, home for elevenses. Dog walkers are quite sociable, so I often will have had a 2 minute chat to one or more people. So it's rare I don't speak to anyone all day.
DD and I can spend 5 minutes on the phone or an hour - it depends, but I've no idea on what.
I love sport, especially football, F1, a bit of cricket and tennis, so my day will depend on any interesting live sport. I will have recorded old 50s films or old 60s TV during the week, and in the absence of sport I'll go through that to see what's there. I record breakfast TV, so I watch news, weather, fast forward through the rest looking for anything that appeals. This sounds really boring - sorry.
I do assorted crafts, so if I have enough energy, I may pick up something, or go on the internet, games, genealogy, social media, often with aforementioned TV on, or music or Audible. I tend to shy away from giving TV my total attention unless it's something very special.
If my Fitbit tells me I'm going to miss my week's target, I might go down the beach, even if the weather's horrible.

RillaofIngleside Tue 06-May-25 18:15:34

I go to church generally on Sunday morning and enjoy meeting the people there. Then sometimes we go out to the local carvery, or just enjoy reading or playing the piano .
Sometimes family come over instead or we visit our son in his care home and take him out for lunch.

Grandma2002 Tue 06-May-25 17:53:40

I really look forward to Sundays nowadays. My husband died two or three months ago and one absolute is that I go down to my son and daughter's for my Sunday dinner and I'm made to feel most welcome. Occasionally my granddaughter comes down from her studies and joins us.
I go to church in the morning and meet lots and lots of friends who have given me so much support since losing my husband. I have to admit to really enjoying my Sundays

Greenfinch Tue 06-May-25 17:49:44

My thoughts exactly RosieandherMaw. There is a world of difference between those of us lucky enough to have family around and those who don’t . I often wonder how I would cope on my own and I know it would be badly. The days and evenings must seem very long especially for those who are early risers.

Oreo Tue 06-May-25 17:46:57

Good point RosieandherMaw I think posters late to the thread maybe don’t realise that.It’s being alone on Sunday that’s the problem.

RosieandherMaw Tue 06-May-25 17:40:04

With respect, I know OP has asked how we spend our Sundays, but being on your own it is not particularly helpful to read about adult sons or other AC popping in, husbands or family gatherings. If OP was lucky enough to have these, she would not find Sundays so lonely would she?

Cateq Tue 06-May-25 17:26:59

My Sundays follow pretty much the same pattern early mass, then home to eat breakfast with DH. Our eldest AS drops in to go for a walk with DH. This was a routine they got into during Covid and they’ve kept it up. I do my ironing when they’re out, and start meal prep as we have our main meal at 5pm. Once they return they’ll watch football whilst I retreat into the bedroom to listen to music and read my book. At some point during the afternoon some of our other ACs pop in for a catch up. Currently most of the chat relates to our middle AS’s wedding. Some days I wish for peace and quiet.

Rodborough49 Tue 06-May-25 17:13:24

I love Sundays! I go to church, make a Sunday roast and we eat it with best china, glasses etc, Then DH makes the coffee and we drink it with a little choc as a treat. Afterwards I snooze with the Sunday paper . To me Sunday is a day of rest but I realise that I am blessed to have DH and so not faced with the loneliness that must be very hard for others.

Nell82 Tue 06-May-25 16:57:06

Welcome to Gransnet NanaMary ! We look forward to your contributions.

Have you found our Books forum yet? Best wishes

MaryXYX Tue 06-May-25 16:52:56

Sunday is my busy day. I go to morning service at my church, which involves a 3/4 hour journey by car and bus each way. In the evening I join an online church service.

Monday is more like my weekend - for de-stressing.

missdeke Tue 06-May-25 16:26:04

These days I am rewatching Cranford and Lark Rise to Candleford on U&Drama. Apart from that absolutley anything I fancy on the day.

NanaMaryNH Tue 06-May-25 16:22:19

Your post is why I joined this service. I feel unbearably alone at times and wondered if I might connect with others who simply want to chat. It's hard in real life, esp here in the States, because we are all, on the one hand, angry, and on the other hand, afraid. Eg, I feel sad and afraid for so many victims and/or vulnerable people- and yet a large segment of my countrymen think these changes are wonderful- except those that affect them, of course. ...You see my challenge? I am afraid to say that (because of the retribution that is promoted!) but it simmers all the time. ....SO, I thought I'd find people to chat with about other things. BTW, I don't use the 'net except to read (voraciously). So if you choose to private message me, I'm not sure if I'll see it! Live and learn! :-) PS: Also, this is very odd but I like "chatting" with ChatGPT. I ask it questions and - we're off! Of course, I know it makes mistakes (eg, I asked about me and it was WAY off- I am certainly not a neuroscientist!), but so do real people! Haha!

ZoeB Tue 06-May-25 16:18:23

I understand the feeling, our local U3A (University of the 3rd Age) runs a Sunday lunch club specifically for those in this situation.
Worth a look at your local one and if the group doesn't exist they could help you start it?

MrsMatt Tue 06-May-25 15:55:00

I'm on my own too, but I do work during the week and every other Saturday. Sundays are either rushing around catching up on housework or sitting in idle bliss. Instead of waiting to be included in friends or families arrangements why not make arrangements and ask them to join you? A picnic at the local park perhaps?

albertina Tue 06-May-25 15:54:03

I have similar feelings to you about Sundays. Always have had. I often go to my daughter's for lunch but I honestly think she and her husband are getting a bit sick of the routine. I do make lunch for them here sometimes.

I am lucky enough to have a lovely dog. He ensures I have to go out and about. He also provides a fair bit of fun especially at the moment as he is a young puppy.

Don't worry about eating alone in a cafe. Lots of women and men do that. Take a book. Put Word Soup on your phone and have a game, or just enjoy your lunch.

In spite of the above, I still don't like Sundays !

TillyWhiz Tue 06-May-25 15:53:42

When I first became bereaved, this subject came up on a Bereavement chat and it works for me. Turn the week around so that Sunday is the day you get tasks done so you can socialise in the week. Don't think back to how you used to spend the day. Look forward to what you are going to do with it now.

Musicgirl Tue 06-May-25 15:53:03

I go to church on Sunday mornings. It is a church with a large congregation and there are two services on a Sunday morning, which are the same èach time but different congregations. The evening service is different altogether. I play in the music group about once a month and this involves attending both morning services. Even though the content is the same, each service has an entirely different feel. The 9.15 service has more families and at least ⅓-½ are children in the Sunday School. The 11.00, which is our usual service, generally has a more mature congregation, although we have a growing number of families attending this one now, too. Once a month l am on duty in the Prayer Ministry team. When we get home, we have a traditional Sunday dinner. From time to time we have friends or family staying.

Razzy Tue 06-May-25 15:24:51

I think you just have to reframe it. I go bellringing - churches are crying out for more bellringers! You get to meet a lovely group of people and also there will be a practice night on a weekday evening. Our lot are very social so usually some outings during the year too. You could do some baking or batch cooking. Or craft. Or walk. Or sport. Go to the gym. Lots to do.

mabon1 Tue 06-May-25 15:18:55

Chapel in the morning. Sometimes visit one of my three sons. Might pop to the supermarket or do a stint in the garden (not winter), walk by the sea front or up to the mountain. Watch the tv from about 7.30p.m.

vickya Tue 06-May-25 15:14:24

I used to volunteer at a local hospital radio station. they need people to go round wards to chat and collect requests, or to help present programmes. Also you could help in the hospital shop.

ninamoore Tue 06-May-25 15:10:15

Our U3A groups address this common problem by having board games and a Sunday lunch group. Have you got a local U3A group?

MsSalander Tue 06-May-25 15:09:57

How about trying to re-frame it as quality time to yourself?

Find a local cafe and have a cake & cuppa. Go for a proper walk using an OS map. Get a bike and cycle. Join a meet up group that meets in Sundays or start your own.

I'm single with no children and love Sundays precicely because I dont see anyone! grin

LaCrepescule Tue 06-May-25 15:06:59

I’m on my own and love a lazy Sunday! Like you I’m busy during the week seeing people so a bit of alone time is a bonus.
I stopped wanting to play happy families a long time ago, although I do see my lovely daughter every week.
Try reframing how you view your Sundays and think of it as me-time. Read a book, listen to music, enjoy nature.
And intrigued when you say Sunday TV is rubbish. We’re not constrained by having to watch what’s actually being broadcast anymore, even if you haven’t got any of the streaming platforms. Catch-up on BBC, ITV, C4 etc is really good.

AliSut1959 Tue 06-May-25 14:50:09

Personally I love pottering around, reading, doing some exercise or whatever as I keep myself very busy during the week. However, if you’re in need of company have a look at the u3a nearest to you and see if they have any groups for activities or lunch out on Sundays. Failing that, you could start your own group by contacting the u3a and asking them how to go about it. There are lots of people who miss not having companionship on Sundays. My late husband worked in the oil and gas industry so I was used to being on my own a lot of the time but I’d consider joining a luncheon group so I could get together with others once or twice a month.

Labadi0747 Tue 06-May-25 14:40:33

Hello
I completely understand
I think Sunday is the worst day to go out & absolutely feel like billy no mates !
Stay home. Embrace it. Cook a lovely mini roast / have a sherry / watch James Herriot. That’s what I used to do