Barbara Windsor why are some people up in arms?

Honestly? Are you proposing seriously to discuss when a widow or widower is allowed to be happy again?

Let me be clear: I have no intention of looking for another husband. I love the one I had for too short a time, and at 73, I don't feel the need for a new man in my life. My husband told me when he knew he was dying to promise him I would enjoy the rest of my life and do whatever I wished, and that included a lover or new husband. I would have said the same to him, if I had been the one to go first,

But that's just me.

It is the business of the bereaved person and the person who comes into their life, or assumes a new importance if already known, if they want to live together, marry or just be good friends.

It does not, and cannot, concern anyone else.

Do you go telling those poor souls who have lost a baby, or an older child, when it would be "decent" to try and have another child?

If not, why are you bothering about what widows and widowers choose to do and when they choose to do it.

Be glad that the bereaved are still able to enjoy their lives!

infoman

Jaxjacky: a very cheap shot at a disease that effects so many of us in our age group?

A disease?
I have never heard of a widower finding a new partner as that.
I agree with others, you have quoted an unnamed source ‘some people thing it’s wrong’, I’d say, from the random sample on here, the vast majority of other people think it’s fine.

Good on them both is what I say!

crazyH

Homestead - some women also replace . My friend’s adoring husband (he would have walked on coals for her) passed away about 2 years ago. Hardly had he been laid to rest, she started ‘dating’ his friend. She is 85 years old. I’m not being ageist, but surely !!!
I have cooled off my friendship with her - there are only two things she talks about now, her money and her sex life….

Money may be but sex life at 85. Come on. Even if she can, can he. Some people like the people on TV seem to think it is one upmanship (sorry about the pun) to talk like this. Dont blame you for keeping your distance.

She had been ill for a long time, that’s hard on him, and when someone’s long term sick you do most of your grieving whilst their still here.

Never heard of Barbara Windsor.

Jaxjacky: a very cheap shot at a disease that effects so many of us in our age group?

It has nothing to do with others, if people are free to marry
it’s their choice , their life.

I was widowed 49 years ago, didn’t marry again, my decision,

Homestead - some women also replace . My friend’s adoring husband (he would have walked on coals for her) passed away about 2 years ago. Hardly had he been laid to rest, she started ‘dating’ his friend. She is 85 years old. I’m not being ageist, but surely !!!
I have cooled off my friendship with her - there are only two things she talks about now, her money and her sex life….

I don't know much about Barbara's husband, but the little I do know he looked after her and seemed to love her very much. Five years is a lot more respectful than some I've known. I don't think Barbara would grudge him that wee piece of possible happiness, she didn't strike me like that. At least he's not like these men that are out looking for the newest model ( usually to housekeep and look after them) and the first wife/ partner has only recently died. As they say ' women mourn, men replace'. Sadly, I've seen more than a few men like that.

www.independent.co.uk/life-style/scott-mitchell-barbara-windsor-relationship-backlash-tanya-franks-b2753220.html#comments-area

As it’s Alzheimer’s and Dementia awareness week, how about focusing on all the good work he has done in highlighting these dreadful illnesses along with the thousands of pounds he has raised by running marathons etc.?

GrannyGravy13 Indeed!
And that's how Scott and Tanya met 🙂

Oh dear, that's what happens when you aren't concentrating!

He married again six months later. Some of the older members of the family were quite shocked but he'd cared for his first wife for years.

Firstly I thought that it can't be five years since Barbara died! 😯

Then I thought, good for him, he devoted himself to her and I hope he can find happiness again.

My dearest Uncle again married six months after his first wife died.

No football at Wetherspoons this weekend?

I thought it was quite normal for the surviving partner to re-marry or find another partner after a decent interval, whatever that is. Anyway, who are they? Are there any reliable links to sources supporting this alleged wave of disapproval?

It's no one's business but the individual's.

Good luck to him, he deserves to be happy.

As it’s Alzheimer’s and Dementia awareness week, how about focusing on all the good work he has done in highlighting these dreadful illnesses along with the thousands of pounds he has raised by running marathons etc.?

that must have been awful Sparklefizz, I bet you hotfooted out of there.

Indeed. The biggest red flag ever!!! I was speechless.

Barbara Windsor why are some people up in arms?

Maybe because they are the "some people" who permanently need to be up in arms about anyone or anything that exists outside their own narrow world view?

He must have been through hell and back whilst Barbara was so ill. I remember reading he barely slept as he was worried she would wake and fall in the night.

They seemed a devoted couple. I wish him every happiness.

I started looking for dates 6 months after my wife died, marriage is until death us do part, it raised a few eyebrows for sure but everyone including my wife's family accepted it without comment, they knew I had done my best through her long illness.
Generally if a man decides to find a new partner he does it fairly quickly, widows usually take longer to decide

Sparklefizz

Shocking!!

I agree, none of our business and good luck to him!

Sparklefizz

I met a chap on a blind date. We got on well and he asked if I wanted to meet up again. I said I was free on Friday and he said "Oh, I can't manage Friday, that's my wife's funeral."

www.youtube.com/watch?v=rxm9qksqY0w

Who are these “ some people”? Probably just some online click bait with no evidence. Nobody’s business.