Barbara Windsor why are some people up in arms?

Cardashian123

Sparklefizz

I met a chap on a blind date. We got on well and he asked if I wanted to meet up again. I said I was free on Friday and he said "Oh, I can't manage Friday, that's my wife's funeral."

I too met a chap on a blind date. We were sitting in a pub garden having a drink when he told me he’d better get to the hospital as it was visiting time in the maternity ward where his wife just had a baby!!

OMG Cardashian123. I think you met my husband!! (now ex)

In the dementia ward was a nice man whos dedicated wife woyld ride the bus daily to see him. He completely forgot who she was and one day was just sitting on a bench, holding hands with another patient - his new friend.

His wife was happy for him.

Maybe it isnt death when we part.

Mt61

Yorkshirebel

Ten years after my husband died I married his best friend.Our local professional gossip told the village knit and natter group that we had definitely been having an affair before my first husband died.She was quite wrong but some of them still believed her

I know of three widows that went on to marry the brothers.

It makes it much easier if you have known your new partner previously, you know their character. I have known my new wife for 40yrs, we are part of an extended social circle, we just happened to become single at the same time. We both admit being together is not as we expected, it’s been much better

Yorkshirebel

Ten years after my husband died I married his best friend.Our local professional gossip told the village knit and natter group that we had definitely been having an affair before my first husband died.She was quite wrong but some of them still believed her

I know of three widows that went on to marry the brothers.

IMO anyone who’s gone through years of dementia with a partner who’s since died, is entitled to find happiness with someone else, if they want to.

So many people have absolutely no idea of what living with dementia can mean in practice- I mean the day to day realities - and are all too ready to pontificate/make sanctimonious comments.

Sparklefizz

I met a chap on a blind date. We got on well and he asked if I wanted to meet up again. I said I was free on Friday and he said "Oh, I can't manage Friday, that's my wife's funeral."

I too met a chap on a blind date. We were sitting in a pub garden having a drink when he told me he’d better get to the hospital as it was visiting time in the maternity ward where his wife just had a baby!!

Galton

Speaking of Sex I once heard this said by a woman and thought how true:-

Sex is like making your own pastry.
You really know you ought to but really you cannot be bothered.

Everyone is different, my new partner divorced her husband at 60, after a few weeks I asked her why, “I hadn’t had a cuddle for 10 yrs, nothing”
I quickly found out she had a strong libido, intimacy is only part of any relationship, our lives very quickly merged into one. She fits in with my friends, I like hers, my family all like her.
A win win for both of us

Speaking of Sex I once heard this said by a woman and thought how true:-

Sex is like making your own pastry.
You really know you ought to but really you cannot be bothered.

Is it really 5 years since Babs died. That’s shocking time goes by so quickly!

Best of luck to him

Georgesgran

Blimey emelie. - just wondering where you are and if you are too young to remember Babs?

Even if someone never watched EastEnders, there were all those Carry On films!

Blimey emelie. - just wondering where you are and if you are too young to remember Babs?

My father died suddenly in September 1978. Mum married again in December 1980. He was 12 years younger. I have to admit my brother, sister and I were shocked but accepted the situation. In fact he is godfather to my three children.

emilie

Never heard of Barbara Windsor.

Really?

Loved the clip, Elegran. My grandmother used to sing this, she went to the music halls.

I dated briefly 2 widowers. Both 6 weeks after the death.
The main worry was that they would never have sex again.
Another friend married the girl he met 6 weeks after wife's death.

CrazyH that sounds a nightmare. Fortunately the few friends I have never discuss sex or money, to be honest, like you, if they did I would be distancing myself. I've known really no women that did that, but fair enough that you know it happens. Sometimes I do wonder if some folks just cannot be alone. Sadly I think it's how so many people get caught up in romance scams. I mean no judgement of anyone, though I do find it unseemly how quickly some people move on.

Cabbie21 there was a post on the daily mail in which people were commenting how it’s too soon for Scott to have found love again

Ten years after my husband died I married his best friend.Our local professional gossip told the village knit and natter group that we had definitely been having an affair before my first husband died.She was quite wrong but some of them still believed her

My DSiL's mum died when he was a teenager (now 46) and his dad, prob in his 40s) remarried an old flame (divorced for some years) 9 months later. Two of his children and several other close rellies have never spoken to either of them since.

I've met Barbara twice when I was abt 16, she was a lovely woman. She'd probably be glad for her DH.

I hope he finds happiness again, he seemed to care for her devotedly.
I think I read somewhere that widowed people from previously happy marriages are more likely to remarry quickly, because they value the companionship and know how happy marriages work.

Nobody's business except the couple themselves and their families.

He seems a lovely bloke, it’s been five since Babs died. Does he not deserve a bit of happiness, especially after all the Alzheimer’s awareness he raised.
Wishing him all the best😊

Honestly? Are you proposing seriously to discuss when a widow or widower is allowed to be happy again?

Who are you addressing, AuntE.

I'm puzzled as most on this thread think it's fine as does infoman and I think all of us think it's none of our business.

Five years is a long time and Scott would probably have lost Barbara before that time anyway.

Dickens

^Barbara Windsor why are some people up in arms?^

Maybe because they are the "some people" who permanently need to be up in arms about anyone or anything that exists outside their own narrow world view?

Tough but True.
Good luck to him and to his new lady.
None of our business.

BlueBelle

Why are we even discussing this, it’s his business, and everyone’s is so different

Because its rather an interesting topic BlueBelle.😉