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Asking 'stupid' questions.........?

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Applegran Wed 21-May-25 11:06:43

On another thread someone said she wanted to ask 'a stupid question'. It was not stupid - and it was great that she had asked, and received an answer. It struck me how easy it is to worry about looking stupid - and often it turns out that other people had the same question and are glad you asked! I wonder what 'stupid' questions others have hesitated to ask? Maybe they have actually asked already, or maybe they remain unanswered. If anyone is brave enough to ask the question they have feared asking before, I think there are people here who will do their best to answer - and be impressed by your being brave enough to ask.
Incidentally, there is a great book called "Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway", by Susan Jeffers - paperback, not expensive and helps with lots of fears. She taught me to ask even if I thought it might be a stupid question, and I cannot now think of an example of my own - but look forward to seeing what others offer.

HelterSkelter1 Wed 21-May-25 20:47:39

The marvellous benefit of an anonymous site is that you can ask the "silly question" and who cares if anyone tbinks you are stupid. Ignore the snappy answers. It's not personal just someone being snappy. And a touch full of themselves.
They don't know you and will probably never meet you. So ask away. Every day is a school day.

Shelflife Wed 21-May-25 21:35:22

I recently bought my 10 year old GD a book called ' There is no such thing as a silly question ' super book!

Nannarose Wed 21-May-25 21:40:16

Usually attributed to Katherine Johnson who used the american term "dumb" instead of "stupid": boulosolutions.com/black-herstory-month-katherine-johnson/

As a student nurse I was told "the only stupid question is the one you don't ask".

windmill1 Thu 22-May-25 05:37:43

You have to be very, very wary of Googling information about anything to do with health.

A lot of sites are set up to sell you a product which claims to work wonders (with plenty of caveats), and many are just outright quackery by pseudo "medics".

But, sometimes, there are nuggets of sound advice - but you really have to dig for it.

Abnuyc123 Thu 22-May-25 06:24:27

Isn’t bleach squirted under the rim, the way to clean it? A rimless loo sounds good.

Aldom Thu 22-May-25 06:29:10

windmill1

You have to be very, very wary of Googling information about anything to do with health.

A lot of sites are set up to sell you a product which claims to work wonders (with plenty of caveats), and many are just outright quackery by pseudo "medics".

But, sometimes, there are nuggets of sound advice - but you really have to dig for it.

I always look at the NHS website. Thus bypassing the advertising and misinformation sites. smile

Calendargirl Thu 22-May-25 09:02:40

How many of us didn’t put our hands up in school to ask a question, because we thought we were the only stupid one who didn’t understand what the teacher had told us?

Me, for one.

blush

Grannybags Thu 22-May-25 09:06:10

Me too Calendargirl

shysal Thu 22-May-25 10:33:06

When DD moved into a rental property the loo was awful. We bought some concentrated descaler from Ebay then emptied the water to add some product to the bowl and stuffed cotton wool soaked with it under the rim. It took a few attempts but came up like new.

HelterSkelter1 Thu 22-May-25 10:53:49

I am going to try Dripak citric acid crystals in our loo. Well reviewed. I will shoosh the water out of the bowl with a loo brush and follow the instructions. Hopefully it will be ok to use some diluted on a sponge or brush round the rim. But I will read the instructions and make sure
Hard water in this area is the main problem.

orly Thu 22-May-25 13:46:12

The only stupid question is the one you don't ask and make a wrong decision as a result of assuming something

ExaltedWombat Thu 22-May-25 13:46:32

It's only a form of words. Like the British thing of saying 'sorry' even when someone else walks into you. It didn't stop us building an Empire!

crazygranmda Thu 22-May-25 15:27:30

I was taught that the only 'stupid question', is the one that you don't ask.

AuntieE Thu 22-May-25 15:28:25

I often wonder who the misguided parents , teachers, nannies or governesses were who invented the "stupid" question.

I have spent forty years or thereabouts telling school-children that yes, there are stupid questions - all those you don't ask, for fear of sounding stupid.

Asking for information or help can never be stupid. Not doing so, often is.

AuntieE Thu 22-May-25 15:34:35

When next the desire to sit on the bathroom floor pounces upon me, I shall take good care to do so, where I cannot see up under the rim of the toilet bowl, after reading this.

Greciangirl Thu 22-May-25 15:35:04

Clean with Brillo pad and marigolds on.

And plenty of bleach.

Nell82 Thu 22-May-25 15:45:59

Harpic Power Plus is very effective on stained limescale marks. It has an angled spout which will squirt "up and under". It's much stronger than bleach and needs very careful handling. I left a bottle on the loo lid and a dribble melted the plastic. shock

Madmeg Thu 22-May-25 16:32:30

As a lecturer for most of my working life, I used to tell students that "the only stupid question is the one you don't ask!".

I believe I did a good job - and in fact I loved to think of alternative ways of explaining things to anyone who hadn't "got it" first time round.

CV2020 Thu 22-May-25 16:39:09

I always remember a teacher saying there was no such thing as a stupid question! Every question was valid.

LJP1 Thu 22-May-25 17:01:16

For the loo I use Steradent. Put acouple of tablets down every night and brush some of the resulting sollution round the rim, This is not instant by any means but does work and can also remove the deposits round old taps.

mabon1 Thu 22-May-25 17:17:54

Buy the DUCK fresh brush with refills. You can use the cleaning pads under the rim. I hate lavatory brushes but these cleaning pads are great and you can flush them down the lavatory. I've been using them for ages, do a wonderful job

Retired58 Thu 22-May-25 18:28:53

Exactly. If you don't know the answer, it can't be a stupid question.

Taichinan Thu 22-May-25 23:32:02

Can you still get Brillo pads? I must say I haven't seen them for a long time. Used to use them for so many things.

Taichinan Thu 22-May-25 23:37:30

And for some reason our local Tesco stopped some time ago the DUCK fresh brush replacement pads. Then for some reason I thought I'd have a look on Amazon - and there they were! I agree with you Mabon1 - they're the most hygienic to use.

Nannabumble70 Fri 23-May-25 00:50:04

Bleach bottles and toilet cleaners have an extended neck which easily reach under the rim as you squirt the bleach/cleaner around the rim.