Finding it hard to come to terms with the limitations on my life ....

Losing singing is making a hole in your heart as music is so close to our souls (meant generally not necessarily religion)

Can listening to music help feed that bit of your soul, or does it hurt too much to be Reminded?

Won’t catch me regaling the world with my problems

You must be gutted Luckygirl and I'm so sorry this is happening, I wish I had a magic wand for you.

Well done bluebird for managing to carry on.
I am sorry Monica to hear that your poor DHs health has curtailed his opera activities. I used to organise concerts, big choirs etc as well as singing with choirs and choral societies myself. There is a rapidly developing black hole where all this used to be.

I really understand your loss of singing. Opera has been my DH's main occupation outside work, not watching but singing in, producing, directing, stage design, the lot, but like you he has had heart attacks, bypass surgery, with complications that damaged one lung and now has a pacemaker. Last year he had to give it up, the 25 mile round trip to rehearsals and then producing became too much for him, and he like you has been left desolate.

At least, I still have him, but we are in the process of moving into a town where everything happens in the town centre - and we are buying a home on the edge of the centre. Hopefully he will find a new interest to fill the gap, but with his health constraints that will not be easy. You have my deepest sympathy for the loss of your singing.

I'm very sorry you've had such a difficult few years, a lot to deal with and losses to bear. I hope you continue to have support from family and friends, which of course is vital for keeping your spirits/mental health up.

I've had my own challenges in the last year or two and would just say how humans seem to adjust and adapt to changes...in time, as the months go on. In the meantime it is painful and difficult isn't it. I had to keep the faith that life would change... it never stays the same.

Distraction is good. If you can develop a fresh interest or past time, learning about something new which captures your enthusiasm it can help. Things you can do at home. So many things in life to do. Ideas can come unexpectedly, to spark our interest...from the internet, books, magazines, TV, over hearing a conversation.

For myself [and for example], I found a new interest in cooking, trying new recipes, redesigned a part of my garden, connected with an old friend via Facebook messaging, discovered a wonderful new coffee shop, started knitting again for charity and am studying philosophy online. Been kept busy, the months have passed and I feel a lot better. I'm 76 too.

I wish you the best, and I hope you can find ways and something to compensate for the way your life has changed, and can eventually come to terms with your limitations. You have been very brave.

Thinking of you ! xx

Sorry. Hug and flowers to you

Thank you for the helpful and supportive posts and I send lots of sympathy to others in a similar boat.

I am a bit disappointed at the absence of magic wands!

I can especially feel your sadness if you have to give up choirs. It is SO important to you , as it is to me. My breathing is OK, but I’m finding it so hard to stand for the length of time needed in concerts, in a fixed position, holding the music…..
I do hope you don’t have to give up completely.

Another here who values your very positive contributions to GN.

Grannybags

Hello Luckygirl I followed your trials and tribulations with your beloved husband over the years and then your move.

It has also been clear how involved you are in village life and the choir.

I can only send you hugs and

I echo everything that Grannybags has written. I too, have followed all your problems over the years, and can only extend huge sympathy for your current woes.

Definitely won't be telling you to woman-up! You've been through a lot and keep doing what you can despite health problems. 💐

luckygirl and maybee70 💐💐

Hello Luckygirl I followed your trials and tribulations with your beloved husband over the years and then your move.

It has also been clear how involved you are in village life and the choir.

I can only send you hugs and

Re mobility scooters: my son's girlfriend has one, she's 41.
She says it's changed her life.

All I have to offer is that I appreciate the comments that you make on here. Sensible and kind, and intelligent.

I ‘m sorry to hear about the singing. I know how much it means to you. . I’m facing incapacity for the first time in my life. I’m grateful, though, that I have catchup tv, could subscribe to more channels if I wanted to. Can contact my family via my iPad ( or at least I will if and when I get back onto Facebook and messenger). I was contemplating today getting a mobility scooter. I could use it after my knee operation but, if I get one now it means I can, at least, go down the lane with my partner when he walks our dog ( although I can’t believe that I’m contemplating buying one; it’s almost as if I’m planning all these things for someone else, not me).I can chat to people on here about films,books etc. Send away for anything I need. I sometimes think how my life would be if I was facing a mobility problem years ago. The threat of no longer being able to drive does hang over me like a black cloud. Having said all that, unlike you, Luckygirl, I’m facing these problems without having the constant problems you’ve had over the past few years, just one of which would have wiped me out.

Just sending a hug, lucky.

Sorry for spelling errors - fat fingers!