Afraid to wear a dress

Allira

I like your boots! Snazzy.
Whst make are they?

Thank you. They were from a company called Rogue and Wolf.

I see young women in Paris in black tights with flowery dresses and sneakers. It sounds odd, but they make it work. Maybe try that look? I also hide my legs and usually opt for long dresses or flowing pants. I hide my arms too!

Go on Vinted and find a maxi dress or skirt in your size (frequently under £10) and give one a try before splashing out on a more considered purchase. And, on Vinted, don't worry about 'making an offer', sellers often accept £2 off. Can be posted to your home or local collection point so dead convenient.

We went to a wedding reception on Saturday, the bride wore white, sparkly trainers under her dress! Comfortable

Cabbie21

I’m quite shot and dumpy so I don’t think dresses really suit me, especially with the shoes I find most comfortable, mostly Sketchers. I looked better with heels but those days are long gone.
Can one really wear a dress with trainers for a smart occasion, at our age?

I’ve been doing it for more than twenty years as I can’t walk in anything else . Merrell children’s range suit me best.

I really want to go to aqua exercise class at our open air lido, literally right behind where I live but like the lady with the dresses I feel self conscious about my legs and all the veins I have, plus the scar on both leg from HR. My swimsuit is lovely with a little skirt but it doesn't hide my lower legs!!! We are all so self conscious about our appearance especially as we age and it prevents us doing things we'd like too.😔

I don't often wear dresses, but I did buy nice new one this year. Sadly, it's a tad too tight so I'm now dieting so that I can actually do the buttons up. But it's too cold at the moment for dresses.
Am I ever actually going to wear it?

It is often said that we become fairly invisible after a certain age. I find this rather comforting in a way because it proves that the vast majority of people could not care less about our arms, legs or even what we are wearing. We are not as important as we think we are. We always had a struggle to get my grandmothers to take their tights off in a heatwave. They had all the worries that have been put forward in this post. It took a long time to convince them that no one was interested in their legs. In many ways, the thirteen year old girl with a spot on her nose is still lurking inside us.

Forgot to say love the snazzy boots

Smintie love the dress and you are an inspiration for anyone of any age who has a false limb. Hope you feel proud as you should be .

I know even in this day and age people face discrimination if they are different. I was born disabled I have all my limbs they just don't work like they should but it doesn't stop me doing what I want. I have a dress but trousers are easier for me to deal with plus I fall over and no one wants to see my knickers 🤣

Can one really wear a dress with trainers for a smart occasion, at our age?

Definitely! There are some very smart trainers out there these days.
Have a look at Hotter if you like their stuff, they have lots of different colours. Or maybe silver?

At the two weddings I've been to in the last year, the brides were both wearing baseball boots under their extremely elaborate dresses 🙂

Who cares what anyone else thinks?!

They're your legs, not theirs!

Go for it!

And if anyone says anything nasty - eat them!

I think if I appeared in a dress all my friends would wonder who the heck I was!

I met a friend for coffee recently who is extremely self-conscious about her legs for most of the reasons given on this thread, she was complimentary about my dress saying "I'm so envious" and explained her hangups.

I showed her my legs, they look like salamis and I said "These are my working legs 🦵 ". (In other words, the pretty dress was what caught her eye).

I will however now be trying some of the self tan moisturisers mentioned! Thanks!

I'm with the other posters here * nannafizz*
A midi dress, fake tan, and comfy sandals/ trainers is a good choice.
Choose a dress that makes you feel good, wear with a smile and enjoy.
Love those shoes, Smintie .

Jeans or leggings with floaty tops. Legs covered up but you get your fix of floaty!

As others have said ‘go for it’! I’m sure you’ll look fine in a dress, maybe source some comfortable sandals that support your feet, paint your toe nails, wear some beads and bangles.
I’ve just got back from Greece where the ladies of all ages, shapes and sizes were looking great in dresses.
Have fun.

I can say with some certainty that I would not look good in a bin bag😊, but I do agree with your other points.

I am sure people do not notice, or would certainly not be so rude as to comment (although reading some posts on GN one has to wonder🙄)

But in any case - so what - wear your dress with outward aplomb, even if you don’t feel it. And remember most people are not totally confident.

Life is for living, and at our age we have to make the most of it.

I am putting my summer shorts in a bag for the charity shop as it is unlikely I will wear them again. I haven't worn them since Covid.
I used to have great legs but the past few years my ankles have caved in and are now so think my feet look like little flippers and I struggle to find proper footwear.
I do have some long skirts and dresses but mostly wear trousers and have several pairs of hareem pants that hide my ankles really well and are colourful and cool for the summer.
I only wear footwear with a small heel now too, never flats as they have ruined my feet and especially my ankles.
I agree this is a great thread and glad it isn't only me that has this problem!

I wear dresses with brogues or loafers. I have never worn very high heels because I have dyspraxia and my balance is poor.

I have said it before and will say it again, people do not go round looking at people's legs all the time. With a dress on you hardly notice people's legs, good or bad.

I always think that you are as well dressed as you think you are. I have seen people look a shambles when beautifully dressed because of their lack of confidence in themselves, while others could look good in a bin bag, regardless of shape and weight.

I’m quite shot and dumpy so I don’t think dresses really suit me, especially with the shoes I find most comfortable, mostly Sketchers. I looked better with heels but those days are long gone.
Can one really wear a dress with trainers for a smart occasion, at our age?

I’m just not a dress person. I do have a few I wear on holiday in the evenings and when going out somewhere special (which is rare these days) but no style really suits me. I am 5’ 4” just under 10 stone. I wear jeans in winter and shorts in the summer.

My legs are like sticks, so no dresses for me …..

I like your boots! Snazzy.
Whst make are they?

I understand your worries but honestly, I am sure that you will look lovely in a floaty dress, because you will be smiling with happiness at wearing it. I wear dresses, I show my legs, because I love wearing a nice dress and that is my choice.

Please don’t let what you think others may be thinking, soo you doing something that makes you happy. Here’s me, in a dress.