To debate or say "Indeed"

Astitchintime

I just respond with ‘that’s nice’…..any fans of Mrs Brown’s boys will know exactly what that means 😉

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That’s nice!
🤣🤣🤣 definitely!

I just mm, or ‘oh yes I know’ like Sybil in Fawtly Towers,

My go-to is “it’s quite a thought.”

When on the receiving end of a lecture my stock response is ‘that’s an interesting viewpoint’ while thinking - if wrong!

Hmm whatever!

You could try That’s Worth A Thought - and smile, knowing what the capital letters spell out’

Jaxjacky

I just mm, or ‘oh yes I know’ like Sybil in Fawtly Towers,

My children call me Sybil as I do this when I'm on the phone to certain people lol

You could be right.

Millie22

Hmm whatever!

No, unless I really want to be VERY rude.

Generally I just nod, mostly not worth expressing a different opinion with a know it all, just prolongs the situation.

I’m a bit of a pleaser, it’s an “ absolutely” from me.

Just be careful not to confuse ‘research’ with ‘collecting opinions’. Very often it’s the misguided cranks who shout the loudest.

I love a debate with certain of the people I know who challenge me and help me to develop my understanding and attitude. But increasingly deciding not to waste my energy with others, who don’t want to debate but just state their opinions. I can’t find it in me to agree with things - mostly just say nothing and change the subject if I can. I am definitely getting fussier about who I spend time with and quietly avoiding the ‘mood hoovers’ (which includes some close relatives). Life is too short - I’d rather be gardening, reading a book or out doing something I am going to actually enjoy!

I just say ‘ well, we are all entitled to our opinion, X’, and change the subject before they ask what mine is.

Love your response Grannygravy. Must try to remember that!

I'm about to turn 60 and I feel quite like you. I absolutely adore a good debate (as some may or may not have seen, LOL!).

However, when it comes to what I like to call "flat-liners", those who absolutely are not telling you their opinion because they want to share in the information and learn more.

There are also people who are open to looking at as much factually based information sources as possible, when it comes to a very important decision or opinion.

In this type of situation, it's an absolute no-no for me, personally. Why waste your energy? Why waste your breath? If you know this person is not going to participate in an open dialogue, then what is the point, really?

This quote comes to mind, though I know it sounds a bit edgy; "Don't cast your pearls before swine." But you get what I mean.

Wishing you the best and good for you, in considering taking care of yourself and your time. It's all important. YOU are important.

Take care!
-Miss Redd

Hi Ziggy I think age has something to do with it, I enjoy a peaceful lifestyle now and often don’t engage in debate if I know I have no chance in changing someone’s opinion. I’m happy to discuss topics with open minded people though

Yes, the less people know the more certain they feel about knowing something, Trump is a great example. It's called the Dunning Kruger curve - another example of this is Theranos, a company founded by Elizabeth Holmes, a college dropout with no business or medical experience, who sold investors on ideas that were based on flawed medical research. She was probably confident that she knew what she was talking about.

Not just you..I can't be bothered with people,except family and close friends. You are a mere youngster I'm 69....lol

I know a man who knows EVERYTHING about EVERYTHING. I call him Gobshite Gary (not to his face obviously!) My DH has shortened it to GSG. I am one for just saying Mmm when he starts. I like indeed, but worry it’ll make him think I agree with him. He probably knows more about periods and giving birth than I do 😂

I also know a GSC Chicklette, unfortunately he’s my ex son in law. He will now for ever be known as Gobshite Gary.

Don't bother to debate, howver it is sad that at your age 64 you can't be bothered with people, I feel sad for you. I am 84 and can very much be bothered with people. For goodness' sake go out walking with your dog and say "hello, good morning or good afternoon to people" It will enrich your life and maybe help you to have a happier outlook on life. I do that and have made good friends by being pleasant.

There are some people which you just know it’s not worth giving an opinion either because they know they’re right and they won’t change their mind come hell or high water or they just want an argument.
With these people I don’t bother giving my point of view and just say to them There We Are Then (twat). Makes me feel better

I belonged to a discussion group. It ended up with one member hogging the limelight and when someone else wanted to put their thoughts across they would be cut of with " well then...." and the hogger would carry on, not giving anyone else a chance. Needless to say, I am no longer a member of the group.