Perfectly understandable FGT.
The people who know your H’s medical needs are no longer there 24/7.
It is your responsibility to deal with him.
However they will ensure he is ok to be home and will ensure you are capable of caring for him, after all you have his very best interests at heart.
You love him and your instinct is to care for him to the very best of your ability.
The same goes to all you wives caring for your very dear H’s.
Many of us have been there and know just how you are feeling.
Another night awake for me, it is getting to be the norm for me, tired out early evening , early bed , a few hours asleep and then wide awake for several hours.
An odd day for me, I was going with a friend to see a mutual friend, now deemed housebound after several illnesses.
My friend didn’t turn up, I called her house phone, then her mobile, several times, no response so I called a taxi and went to said friend’s.
Eventually driving friend responded to my messages, she had completely forgotten the arrangement
She was so apologetic and embarrassed!!
I am sure such things happen to us all.