What’s a Quote That Stuck With You?

"No good deed goes unpunished"

On several occasions in the past I did good deeds for neighbours and they all used the occasion to take advantage. One more or less turned me into her PA after I helped her with a DLA form. Next I was doing her shopping, banking and phone calls while her lazy son sat at home. Eventually I had to drop the rope.

Now I have minimal contact with the likes of neighbours and never open the door unless its a courier/postie or pre-arranged visitor.

Jaxjacky

‘Do unto others as you would have them do unto you’ has stuck with me and I hope I do it too.

My mums was a similar version:
“Do as you would be done by”

And from my sister (a doctor)

“Do no harm”

sodapop

Not sure I have this the right way round 'All will be well and all shall be well' Mother Julian of Norwich. I find it comforting.

The one I really dislike is 'it is what it is '.

Thank you so much.

Full version is “All shall be well: and all manner of things shall be well”.

It’s quoted by TS Eliot in the final page of his stunning poem, “The Four Quartets” which is a long redemptive poem about so many aspects of life, its knots, its paradoxes, its pain and joys, so that is how it ends.

Oh friendlygingercat! I have to agree with you!
Isn't it sad, when by trying to be helpful you get bitten on the botty! I'm a lot more wary of people now!
No more Mrs Push-over! It's a case of seven- times bitten 14 times shy, alas! 🤔

I like this:

“Hard times make strong people - who make good times,
good times make weak people - who make Hard times.”

One from my native corner of West Yorkshire,. It is not deep or inspirational, but it still makes me smile. I hope you can translate it.

'There's none reet but thee 'n me, an' I'm none too sure baa't thee!'

This is distressing. Our first baby was born 3 months after we were married back in the 1970s. My parents were delighted to have a grandchild but MILFH came into the maternity ward and shouted at us about:

The disgrace we had brought on the family name
What were the neighbours going to say
What were the WI ladies gong to say

before storming out leaving me in floods of tears..

We did our best to get on with his parents and she seemed to gradually accept her DGD.

Our DD died suddenly age 7 months. All MIL was concerned about was placing a piece of jewellery in DDs coffin.

She NEVER apologised for what she had said.

Bitter, envious lady. You had taken her son away from her and instead of rejoicing for him...she had to punish for "Desertion".

I currently know someone who's Dad has dementia and he had to put his Dad in a home, no one else would. Mother is bitter, "everyone has deserted me". But she had put her son in a strict boarding school at the age of 6

No insight.

So sad, envy instead of gratitude, and he's copping for it now, having lost all through illness and staying there, she berates him.

I suggested he get out: he has a dear wealthy friend I'm sure would help out for a bit with a flat while things are sorted.

Warning to us grans - choose love not hate.

FriedGreenTomatoes2

I like this:

“Hard times make strong people - who make good times,
good times make weak people - who make Hard times.”

Yes, it can indeed be that, but it depends on the person.

Try...
Hard times make strong people - who make good times....
.... or can make bitter times...
...good times make happier people - who make good times....

Reading your sad, beautiful stories of loss is a reminder of how vulnerable all of us living creatures are on this planet!
We must be brave & grateful for every small blessing & mercies along life's rocky path. 🤔

Our world is not divided by race, color, gender or religion. Our world is divided into wise people and fools. And fools divide themselves by race, color, gender, or religion.”

This quote on a divided world came from human rights activist Mohamad Safa.

“People treat us how we allow ourselves to be treated”.

As one or two others have said, the oft- quoted saying “if you can’t say anything nice about someone…….” is a rather silly saying.

I don't know if anyone has said this yet, but I often suffer from, "more haste less speed!" so true...

JenniferEccles

“People treat us how we allow ourselves to be treated”.

As one or two others have said, the oft- quoted saying “if you can’t say anything nice about someone…….” is a rather silly saying.

That first line is so very true JenniferEccles. it's taken me a long time to do it.

I had to go through an 11 year abusive marriage and only at the end did it begin to dawn - how could I have done it, allow a man to shape my world and even my being? and me a feminist and all. 😡

I sort of fitted around him, he seemed so sure, and I loved him and felt sorry for him.....and it was crushing. why didnt I challenge it?

He wanted me to be small so he could be the big man. Duh.

The tree remembers what the axe forgets.

This too shall pass

Brought me great during the difficult times ……….and it did pass!

Oh yes. I can remember a dear very elderly friend in the 1990's saying it to me, it didn't make sense at the troubled time, but it does now.

How about "Many Hands make light work"

Its that...well when there are two of you setting out on a task, somehow it gives both of you the oooomfh to get it done, and better than alone.

People treat you in the way that you teach them to treat you.

A woman is a lady in whose presence a man becomes a gentleman.

My grandmother used these.

He who laughs last never got the joke in the first place.

A Liverpool one from my youth

Driving instructor many years ago stressed " when in doubt, don't" - saved me many a time.
Something my dad used to say "don't criticise someone unless you've walked a mile in their shoes".
A recent one for me that I really like is " when someone shows you who they are, believe them".

Don't judge a man till you've walked a mile in his shoes. Easy to judge someone when you don't know what they're having to cope with in their life

Calendargirl

‘An ounce of help is worth a pound of advice.’

Pre-metric quote, still relevant though.

My mum’s version
‘A little bit of help is worth a lot of pity’

Another one I like - ‘if a thing’s worth doing, it’s worth doing badly’.
It helps me feel better when I enjoy something but realise I’m not very good at it

My mum used to tell me ‘Your eyes are bigger than your belly’. Sadly the other way round now!

At least you managed to escape him eventually Wyllow3 so don’t be too hard on yourself.

These manipulative men, it seems, know just what to say and do to keep control, so well done for having the strength to get away and build a better life for yourself.