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Do you like silence?

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Stillness Wed 13-Aug-25 10:55:31

I was just wondering how many of you do things with no background noise simultaneously? So perhaps crafts, or cooking, or housework etc…with no radio, music or tv …or anything else going on.
When I was younger, there wasn’t much silence, with family and a busy life etc. Now, there could easily be, but in an odd way, I really want it and yet I’m frightened of it. I do live a quietish life but I think I’m worried that if I get used to it, the external world will eventually become too much, leading to me being intolerant of any noise at all…if that makes sense..

Christian1x Fri 15-Aug-25 14:21:58

I think a lot of people feel a similar tension — craving quiet but worrying it might make them overly sensitive to noise later. Silence can be comforting and restorative, especially if life has been hectic in the past, but it doesn’t have to mean cutting yourself off. You could treat it like a balance: enjoy moments of stillness when you need them, but also sprinkle in a bit of gentle background sound sometimes so you stay adaptable.

nanna8 Fri 15-Aug-25 14:24:44

Yes,I read a lot. I was an only child so quite used to silence . Not all the time, though.

LadyBridgerton Fri 15-Aug-25 23:53:11

I rarely have noise on, even in the car, I drove 375miles to visit someone and never had the radio on.

OldFrill Sat 16-Aug-25 12:09:41

A scientist who'd been based at the South Pole told me he missed the silence, he said he'd never found silence since he'd left there. Quite sad really. I don't fancy the south pole much myself.

Wyllow3 Tue 19-Aug-25 23:35:57

My lovely weeny house, in its quiet suburban street and on a hill so there is little light pollution, is so quiet, and the garden so pretty with privacy, the silence is literally golden for me when I am well, despite tinnitus. But if I'm in a bad down it becomes oppressive, so next year I am going to hie me to a quiet flat with a view and gardens in a nice McCarthy and Stone place.

Boadicea Wed 27-Aug-25 14:54:31

Yet another tinnitus sufferer here!
However I don't like to have background noise to drown it out (it doesn't anyway!)
As a teenager and into my 30s I always had background music on. Adults would say "How can you read with that noise going on?"
After I had my son quiet seemed such a rare quality I grew to crave it!
However it's never quiet in my head and I used to tell people that I needed to be distracted in order to concentrate - I finally got diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 66, which explains much of that, including sensitivity to noises - my mother used to take the battery out of the clock in the spare room when I visited because the ticking drove me mad. I also get irritated by noises that many other people don't even notice - clicking a pen on and off, a can rolling down the street in the wind, people eating (Ugh!), wood pigeons (such a boring "song"!), next door's dog barking ALL DAY if their owner is out at work, (that's how I can tell whether she is at home or not!)
I do love silence but don't get it often, now I find it harder to concentrate on what someone's saying if there's background noise - a concentration issue, not a hearing issue.
I hate it when people have the TV on in the background "just for company". I enjoy solitude - when I can get it!