Why bother

It's annoying if gransnetters don't think you when you reply and really wonderful when you get thanks .
What annoys me are the personal messages.
Recently I sent one to someone who says that she's unhappy-only to have my message brushed off .
Last year,on a really frantic day one gransnetter sent me about nine messages.
Trying to be nice and friendly I replied to each one - only to be told that she didn't have the time to keep on messaging me !
Maybe we were both replying out of sheer politeness ,but I had thought that we had a real connection .

HelterSkelter1

I dont botber too much about being thanked.....but I so want the OP to come back and say what he/she did in the end. Please please an update.

I doubt if any of them have taken the advice offered (Half of which was hopelessly wrong because the helpful advisor failed to read the OP ). I'm pretty sure most people are just getting their problem off their chest, putting it into words as an accounting to self.. Then either girding up their loins to take a big step, or deciding to just shut up and put up until it goes away.

They don't really need a bunch of strangers to tell them the best thing to do is LTB, or see a doctor.

Galaxy

I told a troll they were a troll the other day Petra. I wasn't very polite. The thread was deleted but I did think I would get a telling off!

If it’s troll like behaviour then saying it and being deleted is worth it.😊

HelterSkelter1

I dont botber too much about being thanked.....but I so want the OP to come back and say what he/she did in the end. Please please an update.

I agree.

Whether any advice has been posted or not, sometimes it is easy to become "involved" in that persons dilemma and think about how things turned out for them.

petra

This is to all those who feel like Billy no mates.
Post something controversial: you’ll get plenty of replies then. 😂

But only if you have a Teflon coat.

Stay on here long enough and lo and behold - you grow one!

Magenta8

See what I mean? I have posted on several chat threads since Monday and it seems to me that I am to be ignored in the hope that I will go away.

If you go away, I probably won't notice and certainly won't care.

Feel free to ignore this post; I won't be in the least offended or upset.

petra

Magenta8

See what I mean? I have posted on several chat threads since Monday and it seems to me that I am to be ignored in the hope that I will go away.

I’ve been on this site for 13 years, I’m ignored most of the time.
Does this face look bovered. No!
As to the op, I’ve given my opinion on this before and I did get replies to that post and they weren’t complementary 😂

I'm quite used to talking to myself! 😀

Its social media. I didn't put myself out, carry your shopping or pick you up off the ground.

I don't have any obligation to answer a post and if I do, it's my choice. It costs me nothing. No poster has any obligations to acknowledge it, thank me, or take a blind bit of notice.

What IS this modern obsession with entitlement; that every text and casual whatsapp requires a response, any tiny frown shrug or silence requires an apology.

petra

Magenta8

TBH I neither notice nor care if my advice is acknowledged. Quite often people offer the same information or advice further down a thread so I don't think most GNs read or pay too much attention to anything I post.

I don't remember having asked for advice on GN but if I have, I may not have expressed my gratitude in the approved manner for which I apologise.

What some members don’t realise is that a lot of us thank people by PM. much more personal.

Magenta8
You got a lot of replies on your the book dishing the dirt on the Yorks
Most of them were obviously not what you wanted to hear but they were replies.
Has it crossed some members minds that other members didn’t like the advice given?
Or just not interested in a post.

Easy tiger. I always want to read responses and I don't ever "not want to hear" opposing views. I am lucky in that I have yet to reach an age where I think only my views and those that agree with mine are right. People's life experiences vary tremendously and so do their views. There is no "obviously" about it.

Skydancer

Start a thread on how to stop illegal immigrants. You’ll get loads of responses.

😂

Galaxy

I am afraid that I also think a lot of the asking for advice threads are trolls, I don't mean someone asking where to source a particular item for example, those are genuine! But the long complicated family problems ones are mostly trolls in my view.

I think the same.

petra

This is to all those who feel like Billy no mates.
Post something controversial: you’ll get plenty of replies then. 😂

petra I think I proved your point.

Thank you all for your responses I have enjoyed reading them. I'm not just saying that, I mean it.

Start a thread on how to stop illegal immigrants. You’ll get loads of responses.

Rosie51

I don't think there's a need to always thank every individual poster that replies, I think a general "thanks all for your suggestions, plenty to consider" type of response is fine. I do agree it would be nice if posters gave an update, but some do the original post and then don't appear on the thread again.

That's how I feel about it also.
I think that some of the posters who have serious issues/problems have too much on their plate/too much going on to reply here as well.
It's nice if they do , of course.

Magenta8

TBH I neither notice nor care if my advice is acknowledged. Quite often people offer the same information or advice further down a thread so I don't think most GNs read or pay too much attention to anything I post.

I don't remember having asked for advice on GN but if I have, I may not have expressed my gratitude in the approved manner for which I apologise.

What some members don’t realise is that a lot of us thank people by PM. much more personal.

Magenta8
You got a lot of replies on your the book dishing the dirt on the Yorks
Most of them were obviously not what you wanted to hear but they were replies.
Has it crossed some members minds that other members didn’t like the advice given?
Or just not interested in a post.

Agree with all of that Rosie51.

I don't think there's a need to always thank every individual poster that replies, I think a general "thanks all for your suggestions, plenty to consider" type of response is fine. I do agree it would be nice if posters gave an update, but some do the original post and then don't appear on the thread again.

I've asked for advice, I've read it & absorbed it & it's been useful. Have I said thanks? Not sure

Like Sago said, manners.

Oh I am learning on here.

I've asked for advice, I've read it & absorbed it & it's been useful. Have I said thanks? Not sure. If it's something practical, why would you? Don't people like sharing their knowledge?, & they don't have to reply. Gransnet wouldn't be much without any OPs.
IF its a really personal, emotional thing & someone absolutely gets that & comforts me, then I would definitely appreciate that & say thanks. Saying thanks just because you've posed a question & someone's answered feels like the dreaded thank-you letters we had to write on Boxing day when we would've liked to be playing / helping on the farm / chilling instead.

How about we have a day where we all reply to every post
Think about it.

Magenta8

See what I mean? I have posted on several chat threads since Monday and it seems to me that I am to be ignored in the hope that I will go away.

Good gosh no. I wouldnt have thought so.

Personally, hving gcs here like many other grannies atm, I am barely on here lately.

First time I have noticed this particular thread.

I suspect there have been about 50 threads this week that have all passed me by.

I told a troll they were a troll the other day Petra. I wasn't very polite. The thread was deleted but I did think I would get a telling off!

Galaxy

I am afraid that I also think a lot of the asking for advice threads are trolls, I don't mean someone asking where to source a particular item for example, those are genuine! But the long complicated family problems ones are mostly trolls in my view.

I do wonder that too.

I normally give one answer and then wait.

If an op does not reply, I dont give any further replies or answers.

I so agree Sago.
I was getting utterly fed up, and then this week someone started a thread and then said thank you about 5 times during the thread!

I am learning which regular posters to not give so many replies too.

If they dont have enough manners to thank people, well I am certainly not going to give advice.

Galaxy

I am afraid that I also think a lot of the asking for advice threads are trolls, I don't mean someone asking where to source a particular item for example, those are genuine! But the long complicated family problems ones are mostly trolls in my view.

I replied to a troll once and gave them my honest opinion 😂
Someone reported me, I got suspended for a week.
The really funny part was: the powers that be deleted the trolls post.
Couldn’t make it up, could you 🤷‍♀️