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How can I remember to hold my shoulders back?

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Supernana1 Fri 22-Aug-25 18:48:18

I've always had rounded shoulders and a hunchy back. I remember in my teens and twenties my mother constantly saying 'Stand up straight' or 'Head up, chest out', even though to be honest she also had a habit of hunching her shoulders.

Now at 78 I see myself in a shop window and think 'Oh lord, I'm all hunched over again'. I look so much better when my shoulders are back, but I can't remember to keep them there.

Many years ago, a physio stuck a giant X of sticky tape on my back to try to keep my shoulders back, but all that did was stick to my clothes.

Is there any way of forcing myself to remember to keep my shoulders back?

I don't think there is. It's the habit of a lifetime.

MayBee70 Fri 22-Aug-25 18:52:44

When I walk anywhere I put a small rucksack on my back and fill it with cans of baked beans! My son took a photo of me on the beach with the grandchildren at Easter and I was completely hunched over…sad.

fancythat Fri 22-Aug-25 18:53:40

I stuck mirrors in most rooms.
Did the trick for me. Kept catching sight of myself, and corrected myself.

dragonfly46 Fri 22-Aug-25 18:56:17

I do Pilates and it has certainly helped my posture and I am older than you.

valdavi Fri 22-Aug-25 21:28:32

Pilates does help make you aware, I'm at least an inch taller when I walk 'Pilates aware' to when I just mooch along.

Pretend you're riding a horse? I do this sometimes,( I don't trot & canter along though, DH would be embarressed) you naturally sit up straight for balance on horseback.
When you set out for a walk or get out of the car at the supermarket, tell yourself 'supermodel'. They don't hunch!

Elless Sat 23-Aug-25 10:24:55

Might it help if you wear a bra with cross over straps at the back?

Aveline Sat 23-Aug-25 10:36:15

I've been doing an exercise to help this. Arms out to the side, hands upwards and push elbows back. It's quite hard at first. It's pushing my shoulder blades together. It works though.

Ramblingrose22 Sat 23-Aug-25 10:42:30

I think you can buy a body brace for the upper body to help with poor posture.
There was a celeb on Strictly whose posture was poor and the professional partner bought him a body brace to improve his frame, and keeping his shoulders back was improved by the body brace.
Might be worth looking into.

Daddima Sat 23-Aug-25 10:47:20

Ramblingrose22

I think you can buy a body brace for the upper body to help with poor posture.
There was a celeb on Strictly whose posture was poor and the professional partner bought him a body brace to improve his frame, and keeping his shoulders back was improved by the body brace.
Might be worth looking into.

I have one, and actually found it yesterday when looking for something else! I did find it helped, so I am just going to put it on now!

Whitewavemark2 Sat 23-Aug-25 10:50:46

Age I guess.

Even the late queen was slightly hunched as she got older.

karmalady Sat 23-Aug-25 10:51:13

I am back from a walk and deliberately hold my abdomen muscles in, as in pilates. that makes me walk tall and straight

MayBee70 Sat 23-Aug-25 11:40:05

When I see my physio on Tuesday about my knee I’m going to ask her for advice about my posture. My daughter remarked as to how bent over I was these days.

Jaxjacky Sat 23-Aug-25 12:38:22

Focusing straight ahead, not down helps.

Whitewavemark2 Sat 23-Aug-25 12:56:02

Jaxjacky

Focusing straight ahead, not down helps.

But then I trip and as my balance has deteriorated I am very likely to fall.

Jaxjacky Sat 23-Aug-25 13:25:54

Ironic Whitewave I was told it by a guest physio at my stretch class, segment on balance!

AuntieE Sat 23-Aug-25 13:52:19

It is hard to remember not to fall back into a bad habit, isn't it.

I have noticed that I have an increasing tendency to poke my head forward on my neck.

I hope to correct this and other forms of bad posture by doing exercises for a few minutes in the course of the day.

Like, close the door of the room you are in firmly and stand with your back to it, making quite sure that the back of your head, your shoulders and you bottom are all touching the surface of the door.

If you risk someone opening the door, use a stretch of the wall instead.

Devorgilla Sat 23-Aug-25 15:12:41

Aveline's tip is good. I gather it's the one soldiers are taught when marching. I tried it myself and it works.

Allira Sat 23-Aug-25 16:03:58

Jaxjacky

Focusing straight ahead, not down helps.

I then trip over something.
Honestly, I'm not joking, so I do tend to look down because it's safer.

And yes, I need to straighten up, put my shoulders back and hold y head up as well as look down.

Years ago we walked around with a book balanced on our heads to improve our posture.
At school we had a posture mark on our report every term, even back then, I rarely got more than a C.

Allira Sat 23-Aug-25 16:05:41

Aveline

I've been doing an exercise to help this. Arms out to the side, hands upwards and push elbows back. It's quite hard at first. It's pushing my shoulder blades together. It works though.

Hard? It's painful!!
😯

Aldom Sat 23-Aug-25 16:59:48

Aveline what a brilliant exercise. Thank you. smile

Mazgg Sat 23-Aug-25 17:50:33

I recently got a video doorbell and was shocked to see how round shouldered I am. I also noticed that I walk like an old person so trying to keep my head up and walk putting heel down first.

Supernana1 Sat 23-Aug-25 18:40:14

I know how to get my shoulders back - it's remembering to keep them there that's the problem.

The fact that I haven't worn a bra for years probably doesn't help. When my shoulders are back I'm aware of my boobs moving around and that makes me feel a bit embarrassed. I always regarded a bra as the invention of the devil, particularly in hot weather when I had to peel it off. And even if I wanted to wear one again, I haven't a clue what size I am now.

I'll just keep trying to hear Mam's voice in my head - 'stand up straight, you look much better when you do'. Who knows, maybe I'll actually start to remember to do it.

Witzend Sat 23-Aug-25 18:50:55

As a young teen, I once read that you should walk as if the top of your head is anchored to a cloud.

I’m trying to remember that lately, being all too aware how ageing an ‘elderly’ walk can appear!

valdavi Sat 23-Aug-25 19:11:56

Whitewavemark2

Jaxjacky

Focusing straight ahead, not down helps.

But then I trip and as my balance has deteriorated I am very likely to fall.

The physios say you are less likely to fall if you look straight ahead. Looking down identifies trip hazards, but is bad for your balance.

Allira Sat 23-Aug-25 19:15:09

valdavi

Whitewavemark2

Jaxjacky

Focusing straight ahead, not down helps.

But then I trip and as my balance has deteriorated I am very likely to fall.

The physios say you are less likely to fall if you look straight ahead. Looking down identifies trip hazards, but is bad for your balance.

I do understand, Whitewave as I've tripped over a few hazards and caused an injury.

Looking ahead is fine if no other idiot leaves something in your path!