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Soon to be daughter in laws kids Christmas dilemma

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Greenfinch Fri 29-Aug-25 18:35:33

Why do they “ have a lot on their plate as they live with their dad”?

Netherbyg84 Fri 29-Aug-25 18:28:24

Are you implying, by your question, that a father is second best and shouldn't be the primary carer of his children?

HowVeryDareYou2 Fri 29-Aug-25 18:20:45

Have you met these children? If so, get them a voucher each. What ages are they? I'm more interested to know why they aren't living with their mother.....

fancythat Fri 29-Aug-25 18:18:37

And after that, even your d - i - l

fancythat Fri 29-Aug-25 18:18:09

What does your son say, would be my first question.

windmill1 Fri 29-Aug-25 17:55:31

Maybe not give gifts at all, especially as your budget it tight. Once you make decision, one way or the other, it sets a precedent. With several children involved this could be financially tricky.

That's the best I can offer.

Boobaby84 Fri 29-Aug-25 17:49:07

Hey everyone

Im new here and not sure where best to place my post. So here I am waving cautiously and in need of some advice.

So, as the title reads I have a soon to be daughter in law. My son and his partner have been on and off alot in a short period of time. Shes now pregnant with my sons baby. She has children from a previous relationship who live with her ex. They are troubled young kids with alot on their plate as they live with their dad.

If your still reading thank you for not giving up lol. So, here's the dilemma. This will be our first Christmas.
Do I buy her children gifts who live with their dad. Or not. I genuinely dont know what to do.

If I was to proceed and give a gift, what would be a reasonable amount to give. Also for their birthdays. There are 3 other children involved and my budget is tight.

Thanks all 🥰🥰