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Kartush Wed 03-Sept-25 08:26:10

My beautiful husband is not, nor has he ever been a touchy feely sort of man, oh he will hug or kiss if I ask him but on his own he probably wouldn't think of it, but that's ok we have been married 53 years (I am 69, he is 75) so I am totally cool with it.
I am very overweight, have osteoarthritis in my knees and hips and don't get around very well so showering can sometimes be a tad exhausting for me, so I have been tossing up the idea of getting a shower chair and a hand rail to help out. I had casually mentioned it in passing , just a thought at this stage.
Today my man had to go to the hardware store to get something manly, so off he went, when he came back I could hear him messing around in his workshop, then he wandered upstairs and I could hear him fiddling around in my bathroom. He had only gone and got me a chair and installed a railing for me.
That is my definition of love, not flowers or chocolates, a chair and a railing, oh and to top it off I got an unsolicited hug as well.
Today was an awesome day

Nadinevillage Fri 05-Sept-25 12:30:48

That's such a heartwarming story.

TONYSMRS Fri 05-Sept-25 12:26:54

Lovely story. Keeping the love alive after 53 years. Good on you both x

Essexgirl145 Thu 04-Sept-25 18:47:10

Oh, you lucky woman. Hugs.

SaxonGrace Thu 04-Sept-25 18:41:49

How lovely !

4allweknow Thu 04-Sept-25 17:09:50

Definitely have a good one there. When needed he steps up.

Rainbow1235 Thu 04-Sept-25 16:24:07

This is so heartwarming ❤️

TillyTrotter Thu 04-Sept-25 16:16:05

Love is about caring,kindness and thoughtfulness after the first flush of dare I say Lust.
That is a loving thing your man has done Kartush as well as being practical and helpful.

Squiffy Thu 04-Sept-25 16:02:22

What a lovely, heartwarming post! 😃💐

AGAA4 Thu 04-Sept-25 14:59:42

That really is true love. A friend was given flowers and chocolates from her DH a lot and he left her for the woman he'd been having an affair with.

knspol Thu 04-Sept-25 14:52:31

A really special post, thank you for sharing, you're a lucky woman and I's sure he's a lucky man.

mabon2 Thu 04-Sept-25 14:14:30

Lovely (excuse the pun)story.

poppysmum Thu 04-Sept-25 14:01:42

how lovely. thats mine too practically got to get him in a headlock to have a cuddle but its the little things that make the difference. we have also been through a hell of a lot in 9 years so getting through that though its been close at times, being together still is a miracle

Greenfinch Wed 03-Sept-25 16:17:04

Wonderful B9exchange. That’s worth a lot isn’t it and shows how much he loves you?

B9exchange Wed 03-Sept-25 16:04:14

DH, paralysed and in a wheelchair, has just negotiated his way into the kitchen and managed to make and bring me a cup of tea as I am having a bad day

Kartush Wed 03-Sept-25 14:08:20

Thank you all, I do know how very lucky I am

sodapop Wed 03-Sept-25 13:11:23

My definition of love too, you are very lucky Kartush❤️

My husband has just returned from shopping and brought me a bunch of red roses. It is the little things.

Dottydots Wed 03-Sept-25 10:17:10

So happy for you Kartush. I'm on my own but how I wish I had a man like yours.

keepingquiet Wed 03-Sept-25 10:10:37

Thankyou for sharing this heart warming post.

crazyH Wed 03-Sept-25 10:06:38

How lovely Kartush- 53 years married! So you married at 16.
This is a true love story.
I hope you have many many more years ahead ❤️

ViceVersa Wed 03-Sept-25 09:50:36

That's lovely, Kartush. He's a keeper! grin
As you say, love isn't just words or showy gestures - it's in the little things, and the actions which really mean a lot.

Kartush Wed 03-Sept-25 09:46:50

LucyAnna5

That sounds really thoughtful of him.
Were you really married at 16?!

Yes LucyAnna I was married at 16 had my first baby at 17

TheWeirdoAgain60 Wed 03-Sept-25 09:42:59

AWWWWWW! How beautiful!

Your hubby is a true gentleman and so thoughtful and generous!

I send love and big hugs to both of you! X X

GrannyGravy13 Wed 03-Sept-25 09:29:42

He is definitely a keeper

Aveline Wed 03-Sept-25 09:27:50

I've always felt that you should look at what people do rather than what they say. My DH is like the OPs. Thank goodness!

Witzend Wed 03-Sept-25 09:27:14

What a lovely post, Kartush - you certainly have a treasure! How true that actions speak louder than flowers or chocolates!