Pityfishing

I’ve never heard the expression and don’t really recognise the concept.
I always think that if another person is down on their luck the kindest thing is to appear to know nothing about it.
More common is what I think is called ambulance chasing - over-solicitous inquiries masked as Is there anything I can do, esp when of course there isn’t.

I think schadenfreude is a German word that means taking delight in the misfortunes of others.

I know some one like that, never heard of schadenfreude, mom used to call them Job’s comforter but never knew what it meant,

My term for one who likes to dole out pity is a pity monger or a foul weather friend.

I have known people who love to indulge in schadenfreude and only want to be friendly when you are down on your luck and who get jealous of any successes or good luck you may have.

I quite like that term, drains and radiators. It is nice to just be yourself.

Let's just stick with the good old fashioned term of attention seeker 😂

Drains and radiators is an expression I heard on here.

Some people drain you of all your sympathy and energy, others radiate warmth and positivity.

Words often come to nothing, I've found & it's true, actions speak louder than words.
Yet I know I have been guilty of whining\moaning unnecessarily & offering insincere condolences & platitudes to people who are simply acquaintances. I'm shallow & sadly I know it! 🤔

I think they enjoy ‘covering themselves in glory’ 😁* Lathyrus*

Like WW I try to keep problems to myself. I think that goes back to childhood days when we were told not to air your laundry in public.

I don't like sympathy, it make me feel uncomfortable .
Pity is even worse
I rarely offer sympathy either.
preferring to offer practical help .
I am proactive when comes to sorting personal issue.
One can show empathy and understanding without pity.

Another new word!
Catfishing, ghosting, gaslighting, sealioning, now pityfishing.
Not sure I understand half of them.

I love the “roll around in it”😬

I’ve usually thought “feed off it” but I like roll around better.

Like a dog in a cow pat and just as noisome!

Perhaps because I like to lick my wounds in private like wwm2

There are those who love the pity, sympathy and attention of both friends and strangers and go large where they can.
There are those who love doling out the pity, sympathy and attention too, you’re right.
The middle way is to ask for help from others where you really need it, and for those who hand out the sympathy not to roll around in it.
I believe from what I have read on SM that it’s a perfect place to spin any old sob story for attention and some revel in it.
None of us like being taken for mugs so it’s a fine balance in replying to it.

I am the complete opposite.

Any trouble I am in - of any kind- I keep almost entirely to myself, unless I am in real need of help.

I am like that over medical, emotional, or financial (never happened so far) trouble.