Pityfishing

It could be loudly applauding/praising somebody else in a way that’s designed to draw attention to you.

I don’t know. I just had a vision of a sea lion clapping and going honk, honk,honk.😬

Ilovedogs22

Sealioning!!
What is this? It could be wallowing around on the floor or possibly loudlly wailing- on in a barky-like fashion on the floor.
I might give it a bash the next time DH starts his niggely moaning! 😶

You go girl!😂

WithNobsOnIt

How about this put down

"Playing to the balcony"

Used by my mother's family to describe people, who were over the top for their need fot pity and attention

Mum used this but but it was ‘playing to the gallery’ meaning making a great show of it so that those up in the gallery of the theatre can hear it.😁

So is pityfishing looking for pity, or doling out unnecessary pity?

Neither do I Cabbie.

Sealioning!!
What is this? It could be wallowing around on the floor or possibly loudlly wailing- on in a barky-like fashion on the floor.
I might give it a bash the next time DH starts his niggely moaning! 😶

Cabbie21

Another new word!
Catfishing, ghosting, gaslighting, sealioning, now pityfishing.
Not sure I understand half of them.

Sealioning? 🤷‍♀️

WithNobsOnIt

How about this put down

"Playing to the balcony"

Used by my mother's family to describe people, who were over the top for their need fot pity and attention

Ohh! I may perloin that expression.
If I've had a bad day my DH has had the the worst day. Ever!
(Sorry Taylor Swift!) in the history of the World!
He's so competitive but .......Whatever! 😊

How about this put down

"Playing to the balcony"

Used by my mother's family to describe people, who were over the top for their need fot pity and attention

Glad I am neither, too busy, and lazy, to involve myself in any of it.

Great word and it applies to a lot on GN!

cookiemonster66

what a great word! I have someone on Facebook that often posts a one liner like "I've had enough!" but she does them so often, I just groan, then loads of people write underneath "oh no what's happened, are you ok?" I don't know why but it really irritates me and I imagine she is a classic example of pity fishing!

I know someone like this. I no longer respond. One of her favourite phrases is "I'm broken." This is irritating enough but it is all the ensuing posts along the lines of: "oh, no hun, what's the problem?" I find the word hun extremely irritating, too.

dogsmother

I love term pityfishing. Never heard it before however most appropriate for some people and I find it a loathsome habit in some.

Yes, I like it, too. It is very descriptive and goes well with its bedfellow fishing for compliments. We all know people who are never happier than when they have minor illnesses, which they tell you about in nauseating detail as if they were at death's door. They love a good organ recital. For me, the times when I have to drag up appropriate sympathy alongside a suitable facial expression, are when they are telling me how deaf they are because of ear wax and how painful syringing/microsuctioning is as I have had major ear surgeries and am permanently deaf. I want to tell them to pull themselves together but common courtesy has to override my feelings.

I’ve never heard that word before but I’ve got a friend on Facebook who does the same as cookiemonster66. She will post that’s she’s in our local hospital but won’t post why and then gets replies like oh no hun are you ok ? I too get a bit irritated .

what a great word! I have someone on Facebook that often posts a one liner like "I've had enough!" but she does them so often, I just groan, then loads of people write underneath "oh no what's happened, are you ok?" I don't know why but it really irritates me and I imagine she is a classic example of pity fishing!

I love term pityfishing. Never heard it before however most appropriate for some people and I find it a loathsome habit in some.

Blossoming

Just living the life I’ve been given as best as I can 😎

As we all should Blossoming. Yet it's easier said than done!
I think mental health\good health plays a big role in self-contentment & being happy. Plus, being content within one's own skin is essential. Plus, never comparing oneself with anyone else.😶

Not actually heard of this but some people love being in “ victim mode” sometimes they don’t actually want to try and make their situation better being a victim gives them positive attention which they like . It can become a habit

Oreo

There are those who love the pity, sympathy and attention of both friends and strangers and go large where they can.
There are those who love doling out the pity, sympathy and attention too, you’re right.
The middle way is to ask for help from others where you really need it, and for those who hand out the sympathy not to roll around in it.
I believe from what I have read on SM that it’s a perfect place to spin any old sob story for attention and some revel in it.
None of us like being taken for mugs so it’s a fine balance in replying to it.

I agree with you and also keep my issues to myself. Sometimes I find it strange that those who illicit much sympathy from others, then later often are unkind to those who have helped them.

My family use the term ‘playing Lady Bountiful’ to describe someone who arrives dripping in sympathy, maybe gives out gifts (which may or may not be useful or appropriate) and then wafts away again.
It originated for us when a cousin arrived when our cooker had broken. She arrived with a large display bunch of hothouse flowers and stayed for ages listing the different salads we could make - it was November. We later heard from an aunt how pleased she was that said cousin had been able to help!

But otherwise agree and think that most of these shorthand descriptions are born of social media where things must be done quick.

Oooh not sure regarding “grabby” friendlygingercat.
I used that to describe kids from healthy eating/sugar hating/tap water only homes that “came round to play” when mine were little and would devour all the *bad stuff on offer like there was no tomorrow😏

Some of these "new" words are simply existing words shortened or adapted - presumably by people on chat forums who cannot spell or understand the original

Judgy - judgemental

Grabby - greedy

Spendy - expensive

I have never heard the term before. I tend to keep quiet about problems and illnesses which is not always the best thing. I can’t stand the thought of people pitying me, yuck. There’s always someone worse off, as my mum and dad used to say. I have come across some who like to verbalise their problems, fair enough. We’re all different.

Just living the life I’ve been given as best as I can 😎