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nanna8 Mon 06-Oct-25 07:37:57

Two of my granddaughters are planning a tour of Europe and the UK next June. They are in their late teens and are going with another girlfriend who is the same age. They are all good looking girls and they have all had fairly sheltered lives ( private schools, wealthy parents). My son in law , another daughter’s husband who is English, says it is far too dangerous, particularly in London and that they will likely be robbed and/ or assaulted. I feel quite worried about them now. Those of you who live in London, is this really true ? Should they be warned to not show phones when they are out ? Please tell the truth . I hope he is exaggerating but feel nervous about it all. They are also going to Paris - would that be similar ?

Allira Mon 06-Oct-25 10:40:03

I don't know what Melbourne is like but in London, especially on the tube, it's not usual to make eye contact with people

Oh yes, one of mine had her purse pinched on the Tube. That was before she went travelling overseas so it was a salutary lesson. The thief was quite blatant!

Keep vital cards, passport, money in a money belt under clothes. I bought a nice flat one, not at all bulky, I think it was online.

BlueBelle Mon 06-Oct-25 10:40:45

Two of my grandaughters early20s are adventurers (not together I might add) and have both travelled extensively alone
with no trouble they have only ever found helpful people

Yours need to be cautious whatever city they are in and always have their wits about them London (in most areas) is no more dangerous than most cities
My big (boxer built) grandson was robbed of his dead Dads neck chain in Netherlands it was gone, in a crowd, in an instant.
I haven’t been to London for a while but never felt unsafe when I did used to go and I certainly wasn’t only in the tourist parts Used to love Camden Shepherd’s Bush Notting Hill Southall When I was in NZ and struck up a conversation with a NZ man he told me categorically that no one in London could go out after dark because there were so many no go areas I asked him when he’d been to London last and he said never I asked how he knew and he said he’d read about it !!!
Say no more
Aldom I was told on here GN by someone who had probably never been to my area that I lived in a crime ridden town !!!
We have some petty crime here stolen(borrowed) bikes maybe some teenage stuff after dark, some shop lifting, but very little else I ve never ever felt scared or concerned out on my own
Rumours fly fast

BlueBelle Mon 06-Oct-25 10:51:12

I was in Barcelona last year and in Las Ramblas and never saw a thing out of place but like anywhere it can get a reputation
Anywhere can harbour pickpockets thieves etc but it doesn’t mean everyone is going to experience it and you just need to be sensible but not frightened

I was pick pocketed years and years ago in HK that isn’t everyone’s experience of HK though

The ll have a great time Nana8

nanna8 Mon 06-Oct-25 12:16:55

Thanks everyone - I feel a bit better about it now and will pass on the precautions.

Aldom Mon 06-Oct-25 12:21:28

BlueBelle grin when I lived in a lovely area in Shropshire someone once mentioned that they would never live there (not knowing I lived there). This person said she understood that the police went about in two's. I had to smile and inform her that in all the years I had lived, in this very lovely rural place, I hadn't even seen one policeman, never mind two. grin

Maremia Mon 06-Oct-25 12:30:32

Lots of good advice, don't leave drinks unattended, keep glasses right in front of you. Scam video showed a girl being chatted up, and the Guy managed spike her drink. He told her afterwords, as he was making the vid to warn people.
I always advised, no matter if you fall out, stay together. Leave no-one behind. Good luck and safe journey to them.

Sarnia Mon 06-Oct-25 12:31:00

nanna8

Thanks everyone - I feel a bit better about it now and will pass on the precautions.

It's natural to worry. One of my GD's went off travelling with her best friend. She told me they were staying on Kao Tao, also known as the Death Island. Of course, I have to Google it, don't I? This island bears this name due to the number of assaults and murders of backpackers. That really comforted me!! All was well in the end and she is now happily living in Brisbane and applying for Australian citizenship. Absolutely adores the place. Your girls will be fine.

friendlygingercat Mon 06-Oct-25 12:34:28

Its about 5 years since I went to London so it must have changed a great deal. I have travelled solo all over Europe and the middle east (Iran, Syria. UAE, Egypt, Morocco etc) and never felt myself to be in danger. I always take reasonable precautions in hotels and use a door wedge which will prevent anyone entering - even with a passkey or key card. I dont walk around with a mobile in my hand even at home! Always deposit my passport and spare money/cards in the hotel safe.

Cossy Mon 06-Oct-25 12:35:09

I would give exactly the same advice travelling to London, or anywhere else, to teens travelling.

Stay together
Use “bum” bags for cash etc
Uber is quite safe, but don’t use any other private cabs
Watch your drinks
Don’t give your personal details out to strangers you might meet
Have secondary ID, as well as passport
Photograph your passport and ID

Have fun

Aldom Mon 06-Oct-25 12:36:30

You'll still worry nanna8, we mothers and grandmothers can't help it. We just don't tell the younger generation how we feel do we.

fancythat Mon 06-Oct-25 12:37:03

There are crime stats easily availanle.
Even for smaller towns.
An eye opener.

fancythat Mon 06-Oct-25 12:37:55

I should have added, even for different parts of towns.

GrannySomerset Mon 06-Oct-25 12:39:18

My DGD had her phone stolen in London at the weekend and she is a city girl, sensible (usually) and aware, so risk is everywhere.

CariadAgain Mon 06-Oct-25 12:46:23

I've walked through THE Mafia areas of Sicily with an Italian friend of mine years back and her advice was to:
- walk along head up looking confident
- keep cash etc in a moneybelt worn underneath my clothes

Don't know if we've got to the same state yet here in London - but could be an idea.

In the event - the Sicilian police were more bother to us than the Mafia - but they stopped as soon as they heard a confident English voice (mine) asking them what they were doing...and they left.

CariadAgain Mon 06-Oct-25 12:49:55

Don't forget to have one of those "protective" credit card size cards with their credit and debit cards if they are the type one swipes across the pay thingies (technical word...). It's just as well anyway - though I made sure I stuck with traditional old-style insert type cards anyway for my credit and debit cards. I gather the limit payable with those "swipe" type cards has gone up from £100 to unlimited recently.

PaynesGrey Mon 06-Oct-25 13:08:59

A lot of this fear about London has been whipped up deliberately by Yaxley Lennon (Tommy Robinson) feeding lies to Elon Musk who then parroted them back by phone to the adoring crowd on the recent Unite the Kingdon march - which was about nothing of the sort.

The event was covered by the international media. Musk would have the world believe that London is an entire no-go area awash with thieves, rapists and murderers and that everyone else in the UK (villagers he called us) is at the mercy of a marauding mob. It’s nonsense.

The most dangerous things at that march were Yaxley Lennon and his thugs. Dozens and dozens of his EDL followers have been convicted of sexual crimes against young girls, boys and women.

London is no different to any other major city. You have to be careful of casual thieves. It has always been so. Read Dickens. Paris and New York are no different.

I see young girls and women everywhere with phones, if not in their hands, then on display in the back pocket of their jeans. It's a silly affectation. They might as well carry a sign saying Casual Thief, Please Rob Me.

London is awash with tourists day and night. Around 22 million visit every year. A million people travel into central London every weekday to work. Why would they do that if it was the no-go area Musk claims?

I was born in London and worked in the City for 50 years from 1971 to 2021 (the last year WFH due to the pandemic). I often stayed late for cultural events and travelled home alone cross-London by bus, Tube and train. I am still there regularly for cultural events. In 70 years. I have never witnessed any kind or crime or been a victim of one. Not saying it doesn't happen but by the law of averages, you would thing I would have witnessed something in 70 years.

Yes, there are parts of outer London I wouldn’t go to at night just as there are in any city or town where young male crime may be high and knife carrying is common but tourists have no need to go to those places.

Stick to the major sights, keep personal belongings out of sight (a small crossbody bag is a good idea) and don’t accept invitations from men to go to bars and clubs and they’ll be fine.

RockingGrandma Mon 06-Oct-25 13:12:38

I’m in Berkshire, but travel to London frequently, on my own, and out and about late …. Have never had any problems or concerns and with two teenage (girl 17 and boy 19) grandchildren in Kew who also travel into town frequently, and DGD went to Boardmasters in Cornwall with two friends, while DGS went inter- railing round Europe in the summer, just use common sense, am sure the teens in question are more savvy than you think, and will have a great time. DGS had previously gone to Oz on his own and stayed 9 months as part of gap year, he’s now at Uni.

keepingquiet Mon 06-Oct-25 13:21:23

Life is risky even if they stayed home.

London is as safe as any city anywhere, and safer than many.

Tell them not to leave London though, as the further away you get the more heads people have...!

AmberGran Mon 06-Oct-25 13:23:33

I moved to London when I was 20. Everyone at home in my small Welsh town warned me of the disasters awaiting me - rapists, muggers and murderers on every street corner. I lived in Central London for 5 years and walked around, often on my own, at all times of day and night. The worst thing that happened to me was the IRA bomb threats. That was a long time ago and there are different dangers now, as mentioned by others. But in reality London is no more dangerous than any big city and a little bit of commonsense and awareness makes a huge difference.

I saw a YouTube video recently made by an American woman. Every year when their children are on holiday they move to a different country for a couple of months. This year her husband wanted to move to London and she was scared after reading so many bad things. At the end of the two months she was in love with London and they've decided to come back next year. So it can't be that bad.

Allira Mon 06-Oct-25 15:29:27

We can't wrap them up in cotton wool even though we might like to.

Stay together - even if they do have a tiff as someone else said and take sensible precautions.

As DH says, it's only the parents (and grandparents) who worry!

Suzieque66 Mon 06-Oct-25 15:33:54

Never leave the other friend alone ..always stay together, do not stand about looking at maps / phone...The one time I got scammed was in China, the scammers are very clever and you feel they are your friends ...they are not ...luckily we left our credit cards on our cruise ship ...

justwokeup Mon 06-Oct-25 15:45:16

We went to Paris a few years ago, always loved visiting, but the city was full of people begging, lots of unemployed young men hanging around in some areas (and no women visible) and we saw tourists being robbed near the Sacre Coeur. It could be different now but we will never go back.
I’m sure though the young women will have their wits about them and have a wonderful time.

NotSpaghetti Mon 06-Oct-25 19:26:59

Chocolatelovinggran
You are right about Las Ramblas.
And can I add that busses in Naples seem to be crammed sufficiently to not notice pick-pocketing!

Galaxy Mon 06-Oct-25 19:33:15

Naples was the only place I have ever been where I felt unsafe! Lots of people rave about it, we were only there for the day but we're harassed/approached numerous times.

NotSpaghetti Mon 06-Oct-25 20:12:40

I truly loved Naples.
It was so vibrant and wild. It's full of art and history, parkland and piazza- has stunning green areas, the sea, the food.... fabulous!

My youngest daughter went alone there for a short holiday in an airbnb about 3 years ago. I think she was there about 6 or so days.
She said it was the best place she'd ever been as a single young woman - she met so many interesting people who took her to the opera, home for dinner, to some great places to "hang out" and to museums and galleries.

I don't think youre one day experience is typical.