I wonder what you would do .......

What's that famous Gransnet saying?
"When people show you who they are... "

You've done a great job over many years. If no-one else stood against this lady as chair, the rest of the choir will have to live with her 🤷🏻

Time for a fresh start, with no responsibilities for you. You deserve and need a peaceful life, not one with any aggravation.

Keep singing! 🎶🎶🎶

Luckygirl this is awful. Try to draw a line under it and not be bitter although you have every reason to be. Go and join a new choir and enjoy. The old one did not deserve you and will very likely come to regret it.

I am very happy with the idea of someone else having a gfo, but not happy about the way in which this has been achieved - it is devious and underhand.

I also feel that the designs she is putting forward are quite simply tacky. They have cartoons downloaded from AI and are in my opinion simply not appropriate to the sort of sometimes deeply spiritual music that the choir performs.

Luckygirl
You might just yet have your day.
There’s every possibility that an issue might arise and you’re the only person who knows the answer.
Oh wouldn’t that be luverly 🎼🎼🎼

I may well have done the same faced with this annoyance.

However, I may also have taken it as a sign that there's nothing wrong with someone else having a go.

I hope your new choir is bringing you the joy the last one did- just move onwards and upwards...

You've done the right thing by leaving Luckygirl as IMO it is not just the attitude of this person that is unacceptable, but the fact that those you have sung with and done your best for have allowed this to happen.

Enjoy your new choir.

I am sorry this woman has ruined things for you in your choir. You have done the right thing in leaving and joining another choir. I doubt things will be as good without you.
Hope you enjoy the new choir.

I totally recognise this as a scenario of the powerful disrupter from a Book Group I used to belong to. It is very hurtful and the feeling of powerlessness to prevent it happening gnaws.

In the case I think that you only have to sit upon the bank and the body of your enemy will float by you (which philosopher was that?). I suspect that she will find publicity is not her forte after all, people won’t turn up to the performances like they did and there will be criticism and discontent, more members will leave and the choir will wither away.

I’m glad you’ve found another choir to sing with and I’m sure that soon you’ll be very glad you have made the move, as will others.

You are definitely not wrong!
If this has spoiled the choir for you too much have a rest from it , but weigh up carefully before leaving
Your friends will see what has happened and stand by you if you decide to stay , think of the music and ignore the horrible woman

Thank you.

I am not in a position to fight this as even thinking about sends me into atrial fibrillation - and this is something I need to avoid. I feel I just need to put it behind me and move on - not so easy at this stage of life. I guess there is always one fly in the ointment.

What a sad end to your long association with a group where you should have been valued for your loyalty and publicity skills. It is likely that this newcomer's enthusiasm will wane when she realises the commitment involved, dealing with the duties of being chairman and publicity coordinator.

You’ve done exactly the right thing in leaving and your talents in every sense will be appreciated elsewhere, I’m sure. Good luck in the new choir! 🎶

I am so sorry that this has happened to you. I know what your choir meant to you. I know you’re not in the best place now to take this onboard, but!! she will be found out others members will see that the emperor doesn’t have any new clothes.
It won’t happen tomorrow or next week, but it will happen.

You're not wrong. x

You are absolutely right to be hurt by this underhanded “coup d’état” and sadly your decision to withdraw from the choir totally understandable.
Could you fight back? You probably feel it’s not worth the aggro and why should you sink to her level.
I hope that the “better” members of the choir will appreciate all you have done and say so but there will always be those who seek power and the spotlight.
She sounds like one of these - you are better than this.