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Usedtobeblonde Thu 16-Oct-25 13:36:33

Does anyone else feel hesitant about starting a lighthearted or amusing thread because of the difficult and sad times some of our members are going through?
This morning I got myself in a real pickle, frustrating, potentially embarrassing and thought others might find it funny but then it seemed so trivial and I didn’t post it.
Is it in our nature to shield others or is it a case of life goes on and we must enjoy those moments and share them?

Crossstitchfan Sun 19-Oct-25 00:34:25

Moth62

Humour can always lighten an awful situation. At my mum’s funeral, we were all standing at the graveside when a really noisy train went rattling along the train line a couple of miles across the way. It was a very still day and the poor minister couldn’t make herself heard over the noise. She had to stop talking until it had gone by. We said we thought mum/granny must have arranged that to give us all a good laugh at such a sad moment. It would have been just like her sense of humour. smile

At my best friend’s burial, just as the vicar started to speak, two small planes flew quite low directly overhead. My husband said,
‘I did try to get the Red Arrows but they were booked up!’
How my friend would have loved that!

FranP Sun 19-Oct-25 00:02:19

Couple of weak ones:

Did you know that wine can help you lose weight? With a glass in one hand and a bottle in the other, you cannot eat cake.

A balanced diet, however, is cake in one hand and a glass in the other.

Allira Sat 18-Oct-25 20:23:55

This might be the wrong thread, Joanofarc

Perhaps it might be an idea to start another thread?

Joanofarc99 Sat 18-Oct-25 20:21:34

A really close friend of mine is behaving strangely. She keeps arranging lunches... instigated by her....then cancelling on the day. This annoys me as I have childcare every week.so only have two days free to see friends. So.im.often left with nothing to do. She is out and about often and so.i know it's not a health problem...she goes to the gym.5 times a week. I mentioned to her if it was a definite and she went in a huff. I'm wondering if I should just let things slide

Allira Sat 18-Oct-25 20:19:17

SueDonim

Speaking of children at funerals, my little GD attended her other GM’s funeral in a Catholic Church. When the priest waved incense over the coffin a shocked-looking GD asked ‘Are they going to burn Grandma in here??

😂

Sorry, shouldn't laugh but ....!

Oreo Sat 18-Oct-25 20:18:01

pably15

A few years ago my husband and I were at a neighbour's funeral,he was being cremated and had chosen the songs himself. as the coffin was moving along and the curtains were closing the song rang out...I fell into a burning ring of fire...

😂he did it his way🎼🎤

pably15 Sat 18-Oct-25 20:13:50

A few years ago my husband and I were at a neighbour's funeral,he was being cremated and had chosen the songs himself. as the coffin was moving along and the curtains were closing the song rang out...I fell into a burning ring of fire...

Caleo Sat 18-Oct-25 19:22:36

WelshPoppy

Let's keep all the posts miserable just in case someone takes offence at a bit of laughter

I'm on to it Welsh Poppy .I am great at misery.

SueDonim Sat 18-Oct-25 19:10:32

Speaking of children at funerals, my little GD attended her other GM’s funeral in a Catholic Church. When the priest waved incense over the coffin a shocked-looking GD asked ‘Are they going to burn Grandma in here??

Aely Sat 18-Oct-25 16:45:43

Aldom

Tenko, at my husband's funeral my two year old granddaughter shouted, in a very high pitched voice....I need a wee.

Well, when you gotta go, you gotta go!

Usedtobeblonde Sat 18-Oct-25 15:03:34

My H’s ashes are in a box in my wardrobe, just waiting for mine to join them.
I haven’t checked them for clumpinesss, 6 and a half years but I don’t think the wardrobe is damp at all.

Grandma600 Sat 18-Oct-25 14:15:08

Mother-in-law died a number of years ago and father-in-law had her ashes interred in his garden, saying that when his turn came he wanted their ashes mixed before scattering. His turn did indeed arrive earlier this year and we found a big enough container for two lots of ashes.
When my husband went to mix them, I heard sounds of banging and knocking. He came in with a wry smile and announced, "Mum's gone a bit clumpy"

It lightened the moment!

Crossstitchfan Sat 18-Oct-25 13:42:40

Crossstitchfan

What’s N&P please, Babs03?

If course it is! My mind went blank. Thanks Babs for rescuing me!

Omaju Sat 18-Oct-25 13:09:33

Back at my mum's house after my dad's funeral, we had quite a few people there, the main chit chat was about cooking skills, I said "Don't ask mum to cook sausages, she cremates them." Mum, my grandma, and all my siblings erupted in laughter, the rest of the guests just looked at us. Dad had been cremated, but it had become a family saying started by him, "Mum's cremating sausages again." which, the other mourners didn't know about. But it was the belly laugh we all needed as we had been so numb because my dad had committed suicide.

Aldom Sat 18-Oct-25 12:44:07

Tenko, at my husband's funeral my two year old granddaughter shouted, in a very high pitched voice....I need a wee.

Tenko Sat 18-Oct-25 12:05:16

I like a light hearted post , it cheers me up. I tend to keep out of n & p posts as they can get quite heated . The problem with the written word is that it can get misconstrued and people take it the wrong way .
My funeral story is my grandads . My cousin brought her baby because she didn’t have childcare . Her baby was about 6 months old and during the quiet time of reflection she started blowing bubbles and babbling . We all started laughing including the vicar . My grandad would have laughed too.

baggiebird Sat 18-Oct-25 11:52:35

Sorry that was about the vicar rolling about the floor

baggiebird Sat 18-Oct-25 11:51:19

I would be on the floor laughing if I had been there 🤣 😂

Allira Sat 18-Oct-25 11:46:37

escaped

^When I read your thread UtbB my first thought was of one of my favourite posters who is going through the worst of times.
I was thinking that she would be the first to say keep on laughing, enjoy life to the full…
And then there she was joining in your lovely thread and that’s why she is one of my favourites.^
That's a lovely thing to say, LauraNorderr. Such compassion and kindness between those lines.
And your sentiments too, * Usedtobeblonde*.

Yes, and one who is never unkind to others but has been in receipt of such from others.

WithNobsOnIt Sat 18-Oct-25 11:36:55

Ha ha ha a ha ha
He he he he he

Haying a good old titter as Frankie Howerd would say and laugh out loud are a daily necessity for me.

You can't change many of the sad things that haven't to people. Bre sympathetic if course but enjoy your life.

Regards

The Laughing Policeman

🧑‍✈️🤣👍

Xxx

Allira Sat 18-Oct-25 11:28:34

Yes, I agree escaped.

escaped Sat 18-Oct-25 08:01:25

^When I read your thread UtbB my first thought was of one of my favourite posters who is going through the worst of times.
I was thinking that she would be the first to say keep on laughing, enjoy life to the full…
And then there she was joining in your lovely thread and that’s why she is one of my favourites.^
That's a lovely thing to say, LauraNorderr. Such compassion and kindness between those lines.
And your sentiments too, * Usedtobeblonde*.

Doodledog Sat 18-Oct-25 01:16:51

Ziplok

Georgesgran

I love a bit of trivia, but at the moment I’m noticing a lot of light-hearted posts are jumped on and criticized by a few (but vocal) GNs - or is that just my perception?

Yes, I’ve noticed that on occasion, but I think the answer to that is to carry on posting anyway and ignore their unpleasant comments, otherwise they have won the day.

Absolutely. It can be made awkward for those who speak up, but I think it is necessary or the atmosphere becomes determined by a particular mindset.

I keep out of spats most of the time, but I have spoken my mind more than once, and there is no doubt that I have 'had my card marked'. I don't report* (regardless of what some may think) so I have not caused anyone to be banned, but it is clear to me that there is a perception that I was responsible for people I referred to as 'mean girls' being banned some time ago. I wasn't, so others must have shared my view of their behaviour. Their continued snide comments towards me won't stop me from speaking up when I feel it necessary though. I was the same at school - quite reserved, generally minded my own business, but would speak up for others against bullies.

If more people were prepared to speak up against those who pounce on others, maybe we would have fewer people saying they are scared to get involved in GN, and fewer lurkers.

*I did report an ex-poster who made a concerted effort to hurt others. I won't go into detail, as she no longer posts (AFAIK) but she caused a number of valuable members to leave, and was targeting others.

Usedtobeblonde Fri 17-Oct-25 22:36:02

That was who I had in mind Laura
And yes she did post as I hoped she would.

LauraNorderr Fri 17-Oct-25 22:09:09

When I read your thread UtbB my first thought was of one of my favourite posters who is going through the worst of times.
I was thinking that she would be the first to say keep on laughing, enjoy life to the full…
And then there she was joining in your lovely thread and that’s why she is one of my favourites.
You too of course. You seem to have maintained your dignity within the family and we won’t tell if you don’t.
Love your tale about the vicar rolling in the wind Aldom, hilarious.