How tactless can someone be!?

My family have recognised her response as fairly typical of this woman who did seem oblivious to all we did for her daughter .... not that I minded that at all.

I think the most tactless remark I ever had was my sisIL at my OH's graveside who said she couldn't think why he was being buried as she was going to be "burned." Hmmmm.....

My friend who has MS was at the airport going on holiday, and she was taken in her wheelchair to the front of the passport queue. One woman near the front said loudly "Alright for some!"
Friend said " Would you like to be here in a wheelchair?!"

I have found that there is a regular poster on GN that is like this. Their DC and GC are over achievers; that would never happen to them because they are always prepared for any situation; they keep themselves fit and healthy and although in their 80s they can do everything and go everywhere ad nauseam.
OP, ignore this woman as I ignore the poster. I’m 63 and I’m constantly outshone in my Pilates class by an 86 year old! My response to this woman would have been ‘shame you didn’t have the same stamina to look after your daughter’.

Now that would have been the perfect response Dontcallmelove.

She maybe fitter than you Luckygirl but I wonder if she's as close to her D as you are .

Thoughtless, certainly, but I would try not to give it any more thought.
She might have said the first 'related' thing that came into her head, and not have intended it to sound the way it did.
Maybe she had really struggled when she walked up Hay Bluff, and was sympathising with you.

OK, probably not, but sometimes it is better for your own sake to give someone the benefit of the doubt.

"Lucky you! As you can see I am no longer able enjoy that pleasure!!" ....wonder what her response would have been?

I also would say it was downright unkind, not just tactless 💐

I was once at a social event where the conversation turned to a missing member of the group. Her husband had left her for another woman. Person A knew where the blame lay, she explained to us, it was the woman's fault, obviously, as men who were " kept satisfied" at home did not stray.
She shared with us why her husband would always be faithful, because she kept him " satisfied" in the bedroom.
The awkward silence that followed this pronouncement made me wonder how many other people in the room were privy to the same rumours that I was about him.

I have a friend I have known since we were at school. She has been all over the world, from China to the Galapagos. We go out several times a year, and she is always asking me if I am all right or if I need everyone to slow down. It's always kindly meant, I know she just wants me to enjoy the days out, but it gets a bit annoying sometimes. Now she has been diagnosed with a brain tumour and is waiting for treatment and I just think "I may be slow, but at least I'm still reasonably well."

My number one tactless remark I received was when I lived in a rural area. It came up in a conversation that I had over the fence with a next door neighbour, a seemingly lovely grandmotherly type. She asked where I came from and when I replied London her eyes took on a steely glint. Then she said "We hated the Londoners and the London evacuees more than the Germans." With that she quickly went inside and never spoke to me again.

When I say I'm from London people stare at me.
Then they ask if my parents are from London and do they speak English as well as I do ?
They plainly think that I'm foreign .
One nice compliment I received in Yorkshire was that they don't like Londoners ,but I'm OK - not as daft as the rest of them !
A fortnight ago I cane out of A and E with swollen ankles .
I'm concerned and was tearful over it.
Not only did my friend and neighbour not bother to see how I was but she said on seeing one -"the other one is just as bad ."
I went home and cried .

One of our bridge ladies told us she couldn't play with us any more as she had been asked to play with nice people at the club.

Some people just have no filters.

Crikey AuntieE how bluddy insensitive!

Dreadful woman, I would have been temped to say, pity you didn't stay up there, but you've more manners.

I'm sorry you had that. I posted about being upset by someone's behaviour recently (ignoring me having invited me over now I have mobility issues - it was a bit more than that). And now I've just had a message from her with photos of the last time I went to the same event a few years ago (when I didn't have mobility issues). Extremely tactless! Some people are just awful.

I was telling my son that the doctor had told his brother he is a hypochondriac.
He laughed and said I wonder who he got that from. I was most offended as most of my problems are real unfortunately.