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BlueSapphire Sun 25-Jan-26 10:36:33

After reading about marriage proposals in the Good Morning thread, I thought it would be fun to read stories of your proposals!

My late DH proposed in a Chinese grocery store in Singapore in 1969 - we were both working there at the time, me as a teacher in a British military school, and DH for the British Foreign Office, both in our mid 20s.
We had been dating for about 6 weeks, but it wasn't really a surprise as we had been spending every spare moment together. He said he knew instantly! Me, it was more of a slow burn.
The next week we went to a jewellers in the city centre where we chose a ring together.
We got married three years later when we returned to the UK at the end of our tours, and were together till 2018, when DH sadly died.
I miss him so much.

BlueSapphire Sun 25-Jan-26 10:41:37

And here is a wedding photo.

Grannybags Sun 25-Jan-26 10:57:25

In bed! We were ‘living in sin’ at the time 😁

kittylester Sun 25-Jan-26 11:03:40

Great minds, I was going to start a similar thread.

Dh and I met when his brother smuggled him into our company Christmas party. I had decided that I was going to catch the last bus home as the party was quite boring.

However, a chap came up and asked me to dance the Gay Gordons with him - which our kids find hysterical. He drove me home in his MGB convertible.

After a Burns Night Supper 6 weeks later a few of us went to someone's house to continue partying.

Sitting on the floor in their lounge, he asked me to marry him and i said yes. By this time he had imbibed quite a bit and I wondered if he would even remember but he rang very early the next morning to check i still wanted to.

We married in October 1970 and are still coping with each other 56 years, 5 children, 9 grandchildren and various ups and downs later.

Fallingstar Sun 25-Jan-26 11:12:54

We knew each other from school but my DHs family moved down South when we were in our early teens. We were both heartbroken. Obviously we swore we would keep in touch but this didn’t last long. Fast forward my first years in teacher training and when working at a school in Manchester I saw my first love working as a newly trained Art teacher having studied Art at Manchester Uni. We reconnected and a few short months later he proposed. We married and moved to London together and lived for the first year of our married life with his parents, who were adorable. Happy days.

Fallingstar Sun 25-Jan-26 11:20:12

BlueSapphire

And here is a wedding photo.

Lovely pic ❤️

Kate1949 Sun 25-Jan-26 11:24:57

Thank you for this thread. Such lovely memories.

We met at work. I was 18, DH 21. Although it was the same company, he worked in a different building and I had to walk through his office with post. I became of whispering amongst the men in the office but you get used to that when you're young. One day the phone rang in our office and a man's voice said. 'My colleague really likes you, will you speak to him?'. I said ok and DH came on and asked me out. So it was a bit of a blind date really. He said he used to call me the girl with the legs as I walked through his office.

He went all out to impress me, taking me to a club and getting his mate to drive us. He has totally the wrong impression of me. He thought I was aloof and sophisticated when in fact I was painfully shy and unworldly, having been dragged up. More of a bag of chips girl rather than a club girl.

I wasn't keen but he grew on me! Married in 1969, 57 years this year. Many many ups and downs like most.

Luckygirl3 Sun 25-Jan-26 11:43:28

No great proposal. We were both students had been living together a while and had just had a pregnancy scare. It was becoming increasingly obvious that we were a contraception-defying fertile combination and we thought it might be a good idea to tie the knot!

So romantic!

BlueSapphire Sun 25-Jan-26 11:47:54

And we lived in sin for three years......

Kate1949 Sun 25-Jan-26 11:50:01

Forgot the proposal bit. It was in a pub.

kittylester Sun 25-Jan-26 11:55:45

BlueSapphire

And we lived in sin for three years......

We didn't- my mother would have had a heart attack.

I went home every night! 🤫🤭

ginny Sun 25-Jan-26 11:59:52

We met at the YMCA when my best friend persuaded me to go with her in case her new boyfriend didn’t turn up. Having arrived in pouring rain I went to dry off and by the time I reappeared my future DH had asked her all about me.
I wasn’t really interested in him, I had my eye on another boy! He kept asking me out until I decide to accept but not be too interested and hope I would put him off.
I was 16 and just left school , was 18 and part way through an apprenticeship. We dated for 4 years and one evening
went for a Chinese meal with my parents which he paid for. They thanked him and said it would be lovely to do it again.
His reply was ‘ yes, we’ll do it when we get engaged.
That was my proposal!
Now in our 70s and married 50 years in July, together for 56 years. 3 DDs and 3 DGSs.

Cressy Sun 25-Jan-26 12:02:40

If I had waited for my husband to propose I reckon I would still be waiting! So it was a case of saying ‘what about getting married?’ And he smiled and said ok. We were both students so went halves on the engagement ring £44 from Howells in Cardiff. Nothing much has changed 46 years later. ….😏

Usedtobeblonde Sun 25-Jan-26 12:25:22

I met my H when his school came to my school to play football,this was in the days when sort was very important and the Grammar Schools had leagues.
My friend and Iwere doing refreshments after the game.
He was 16 and I was 15.
Then his school were invited to a party at our school, once again we were catering.
Somehow he got a message to me asking if I wanted to meet up.
We were together after that and there was no proposal it was just assumed we would marry which we did when he was 22 and I 21.
We were married over 60 years before he died 6 and a half years ago.
I would have liked a romantic proposal, we did get engaged but again it was “shall we get engaged at Easter”.
We

Greenfinch Sun 25-Jan-26 12:36:35

I met DH when I was doing my teaching practice at a school where he was a teacher. I was having a rough time as it was a big comprehensive in an inner city area. He was very helpful and very kind to me. We have been married for over fifty years with three children and six grandchildren. He is still very kind and helpful .

I don’t remember the proposal!

Susan56 Sun 25-Jan-26 12:44:14

We had gone to the Lake District.I was pretty sure DH was going to propose.He kept stopping the car then driving off.He eventually proposed by Lake Windermere and said he had been looking for the perfect place.He didn’t think the spot he chose was perfect but had given up I think!The next day we went for a beautiful walk.He asked for the ring back then proposed again in a perfect setting with the applause of other walkers.

SORES Sun 25-Jan-26 12:46:46

what a great thread! so many natural born writers here
with lovely stories

Mine wasn’t a proposal per se, it sort of happened,
low key, Registrars, glorious sunny day,
pub lunch by the river, 50 years -
I wear my medal proudly.

Greyduster Sun 25-Jan-26 13:23:58

Kate My colleague really likes you, will you speak to him?. I said ok and DH came on and asked me out. So it was a bit of a blind date really.
Pretty much the same for us. We were both in the Army at the time and working in London. Six months later and all of a sudden he was being posted and so was I. We would be thousands of miles apart for the next three years. We had been out one evening and by the time he took me home we were both feeling pretty miserable about the prospect. Outside our guard room in the pouring rain, he said he thought we ought to get married. The rest is history. It would have been sixty years this year; We managed 56.

BlueSapphire Sun 25-Jan-26 13:28:41

kittylester re living in sin, so would our parents have had heart attacks, but we were 8000 miles away!
When we got back to the uk and stayed with parents it had to be separate rooms until we got married....

Kate1949 Sun 25-Jan-26 13:32:04

Lovely stories and some sadness.

JamesandJon33 Sun 25-Jan-26 14:51:26

We met at art school, and were together for four years before we married. No real proposal as we knew we must marry, with a baby on the way. A very quiet wedding. Been together now for over 60 years, and as I say ‘It’s been all right …so far”😀

1summer Sun 25-Jan-26 15:13:22

It was Christmas many years ago and he said to me I want to give you your present on Christmas Eve when we would be alone, he said it was a special present.
I was convinced he was going to propose, I excitedly opened the box to find a watch. He couldn’t understand why I burst into tears although it was a beautiful expensive watch.
When I told him I thought he was going to propose he said oh okay we will go and buy a ring after Christmas.
I teased him for years that he never actually proposed. We were married 1 week short of 40 years.

Ladyleftfieldlover Sun 25-Jan-26 15:35:59

In 1976 OH and I had been living together for a year. In a few months time he would be going to Seychelles for a couple of years as a Junior Resident Engineer. The company would pay for wives but not girlfriends. OH went away for a weekend diving course and on his return proposed. In bed. That was 1 May. We married on 29 May and flew out to Seychelles a week or so later. This year will be our Golden Wedding. We have a daughter, two sons and a granddaughter.

HelterSkelter1 Sun 25-Jan-26 16:00:14

What a lovely thread and a beautiful pic BlueSapphire.

NannyJan53 Sun 25-Jan-26 16:26:18

We met in the June of 1974 as my friend at the time was engaged to his brother. By the September we were engaged, both students he worked in the holidays grafting roses to earn the money for the ring.

The proposal was in my car when I dropped him back home (he didn't drive at the time).

Wedding was brought forward as baby number one was on the way! Baby number two born 1978. Sadly marriage only lasted 9 years as he left after a few years of internal torment (unbeknown to me) as he came out as gay.

I occasionally wonder if we would still be together if he wasn't.