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Aveline Mon 02-Feb-26 18:55:24

First of all I must say that this is a selfish first world problem but I'm struggling as to what to do. I have the opportunity to make a short but expensive trip this summer. It would be quite an experience for me. However, it does seem a lot of money to spend on just myself. Half of me says, go on, you can afford it, go while you're still young but the other half is raging at me for considering such indulgence.
I've said I'll sleep on it but suspect I'm in for a restless night.

sandye Tue 03-Feb-26 17:07:52

If you go and enjoy it you may say 'I wish I hadn't but have enjoyed it'. If you don't you will always regret not going. you earned the money to spend on you so enjoy.

Moth62 Tue 03-Feb-26 17:07:49

I suggested you could keep a journal because in 2024 we sailed to New York on the QM2, visited a few places in Canada and then sailed back. It was a very special treat for our Ruby wedding anniversary and I kept a very detailed diary about the whole trip. So that last year, a year on from the trip, I was able to read day by day what I had been doing/eating/who I’d been speaking to on that day the year before and I could savour it all over again.

Paperbackwriter Tue 03-Feb-26 17:06:49

"Please ask him if he has a brother." Two brothers, please!

Paperbackwriter Tue 03-Feb-26 17:05:59

I've learned it's the things you don't do (but wanted to) that you regret. Please go and then also please let us know how it went!

Lallylou Tue 03-Feb-26 17:01:39

Ood idea spaghetti!

Lallylou Tue 03-Feb-26 17:00:45

Go......whilst you can enjoy it. If you can afford it why are you feeling guilty. Life is to be enjoyed when you can and if you can. 🌹

Applegran Tue 03-Feb-26 16:54:44

In years to come you probably will not remember with lots of pleasure things you bought (even things like a super sofa/TV/car/handbag) but you may well look back with pleasure at good experiences you had. If you can afford this trip ....why not?

Susieq62 Tue 03-Feb-26 16:53:33

Don’t look back and say “ I wish I had gone”
Do it! There are no pockets in shrouds

Etoile2701 Tue 03-Feb-26 16:53:01

If you can afford it go! I am now of an age and financial situation where I can't afford holidays and I so wish I had travelled more when I was younger and wealthier.

ferry23 Tue 03-Feb-26 16:49:56

Aveline

See you all there - no, wait- I'll be in the business class lounge 🥂

Of course you will hmm.

And we'll all be turning right on the plane while you turn left.

And you might find yourself sitting next to a handsome, fabulously wealth widower who wantes nothing more than to get to know you and shower you with extravagant gifts and and a gloriously expensive and glamorous lifestyle.

Please ask him if he has a brother.

Kitty55 Tue 03-Feb-26 16:49:03

Go and have fun x

Doodledog Tue 03-Feb-26 16:46:21

Have a fabulous time!

Aveline Tue 03-Feb-26 16:35:27

See you all there - no, wait- I'll be in the business class lounge 🥂

ferry23 Tue 03-Feb-26 16:09:39

Aveline

Thank you all. Maybe it should be a GN trip...

Yeh, we're all meeting at the bar in Weatherspoons, airside. wink

keepcalmandcavachon Tue 03-Feb-26 15:35:36

Oh well done Avelinesunshinesunshinesunshine

Allira Tue 03-Feb-26 15:32:26

Yes, we've all booked now!

Aveline Tue 03-Feb-26 14:40:28

Thank you all. Maybe it should be a GN trip...

Basgetti Tue 03-Feb-26 14:14:40

Just, go. Enjoy.

NotAGran55 Tue 03-Feb-26 14:13:24

Great news! 👏

Wyllow3 Tue 03-Feb-26 13:15:20

This song has always inspired me - under African skies - recorded 1987 in Zimbabwe as it wasn't possible in apartheid SA with Paul Simon and SA township singer Miriam Makeba

www.youtube.com/watch?v=85rr5SqrCZI&list=RD85rr5SqrCZI&start_radio=1

Go!

Llamedos13 Tue 03-Feb-26 13:07:28

Aveline, well done making the booking. I’ve been thinking about taking a trip this year but dithering about the cost. Reading all the comments has made my mind up, I’m going🤣

Lathyrus3 Tue 03-Feb-26 12:52:32

Oh it is the most beautiful country.

I’m not at all religious but I stood at the top of Gods Window and look over the country before me and thought “You know, Heaven could just be true”.

You will be so glad you’ve booked 👏👏

NotSpaghetti Tue 03-Feb-26 12:28:48

I see you have booked it!
Hooray!
Can you get a taxi transfer to the airport now so you don't need to faff about???
grin

Jalyn Tue 03-Feb-26 12:28:40

I've been following this thread and noted that everyone was encouraging you to go for it. So pleased to read that you have decided to go. Have a fabulous time!

NotSpaghetti Tue 03-Feb-26 12:22:29

I'm another in the "treat yourself " camp!
Do go.
Have a lovely trip!
💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿