Wedding woe ( chickenpox ! )

What a shame!
Unfortunately Sod’s Law says that if your kids are going to get chicken pox, the odds are that it’ll be just before you’re due to go on holiday, or some major family occasion.

Best reason to get them vaccinated asap!

only one *not vaccinated

Unless the spots have blistered over, I think a doctor would say for him to stay away (and possibly the parents). If they decide to do differently, they should know they risk others at the wedding contracting it. (This is potentially serious if anyone there is pregnant). No one is to blame for this and I don’t hold that vaccination would necessarily prevent it. A case in point was my son at uni who got mumps alongside all his flatmates. He was the only one vaccinated and contracted it last out of them all and suffered for less days and less severely than any of the others, so you can’t always know completely… My gc have also had a range of ‘childhood’ illnesses despite being fully vaccinated. I hope it doesn’t spoil the day too much and hold onto the fact that the main thing is that your daughter gets married whatever!

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Surely this is a question that shouldn't need to be asked?
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NangelaMary

Do you think Lathyrus 3 my daughter my Grandsons mother should still be bridesmaid ?

She will be fine if she has had chickenpox already, but may need to stay home with her child

If your daughter has been vaccinated or has had chicken pox, it's unlikely that she would be carrying any contagion to the wedding. But she has to decide is staying at home and nursing her poorly son or disappointing her sister and leaving her without a bridesmaid.

My sister's first boyfriend caught chicken pox from their daughter as he hadn't had it as a child. He ended up in hospital for a couple of weeks and was very ill. Apparently, it can be quite serious in adults.
Keep the child away from the wedding at all costs incase any adults haven't had it or any poorly children catch it.

There is a fallacy that once you have had chickenpox you are immune, not true I’ve had it four times and shingles twice, as you can imagine when I was offered the shingles vaccine I accepted with alacrity, number three son caught chickenpox at one month old even though he was breastfed only, he has since had it once more as an adult. It’s unfortunate but no wedding for the sufferer, you have to also take into account any older folk who may not have yet had the shingles vaccine.

Farmor15

Too late now, but chickenpox vaccine would have protected the child!
Most adults have had chickenpox, and will be immune, so someone can mind the child during the wedding. Adults can NOT catch shingles from someone with chickenpox, but anyone who hasn't had it could be vulnerable.

Unfortunately, adults can catch chicken pox, even if they have had it as children.

I had had chicken pox when I was three, and contracted it again 25 years later when my 2 year old niece who was staying with us came down with it. I was dreadfully ill, which was unpleasant but bearable, but I passed it on to a dear lady, I had known since childhood, who was dying of cancer at the time, and really did not need chicken pox as well.

I had visited her for the last time before I knew I had chicken pox.

So keep that child at home.

Ask a doctor, or pharmacist

are there male familythat can attend her it doesnot say it has to be a female

I had invited some friends to a pre-Christmas lunch on the 21st December. The husband turned up with an horrendous virus, coughing and spluttering everywhere.

He said "Well, I knew you would have bought in the food ......"

I became ill on Christmas morning and - because I have a number of other health conditions - it took me six weeks to get better. I would much rather have wasted the food I'd bought.

Esmay I wish we all had the courage to say to "friend" yes still sick with what I caught from you. We really should say what we are thinking in this situation. Accompany with a wry laugh to soften the sentiment.

The blunt answer is he cannot go to the wedding and neither can his Mum, for everyone's protection.

grandMatte
I'm.very sorry that it happened to you .
I'm afraid that some people are horribly selfish.
Catching chicken pox as an adult can be serious and you have responsibilities such as work and /or children to look after,which makes it really difficult.
I've heard of adult men being rendered infertile from mumps .
I'm.going through a period when I'm distancing myself from some of my friends.
Almost admitted to hospital and seriously ill I phoned one to see if she wanted to come to our church Christmas lunch.
She didn't tell me that she had bronchitis .
She decided to go out as she doesn't like being at home .
I caught it from her .
It kicked in on Christmas Eve and !by Christmas day I was really sick.
It has lingered on for about six weeks.
Sick again ? she said the other day.
I felt like saying yes sick again and because of you !

Unfortunately I think the bride will have to go unattended and the groom or best man carry his own ring.
Hope your small GS is better soon and nobody else catches it

I caught chickenpox at 25 from a neighbours small son I babysit. I was really poorly.

It is a great shame, but the family and child will have to stay away. I expect OP will have differing "advice" from the bride and fellow guests, but she has opened this thread and has received good advice here.

If the GC came out in chickenpox or measles or any childhood infection the day after the wedding that is one thing, but they know he has it so must make the right decision.

I agree totally esmay. I caught chicken pox from my children, aged 40. It was absolutely horrible, and might have been quite dangerous, as are all those “childhood” diseases when an adult gets them.

I definitely wouldn't allow the nephew to attend the wedding.I'd be concerned that anyone who is normally around him especially his mother could be carrying chicken pox
I'd feel mortified if the occasion was ruined if the bride and groom went off on honeymoon and the illness developed .
The little boy won't be feeling well anyway .

I can think of two occasions when someone selfishly attended a party and infected people with a nasty virus .

I wish him better .
Aveeno helps with those itchy spots .

Can't believe anyone can even contemplate attending the wedding. For goodness sake, anyone with chicken pox should hunker down and keep away from others, especially those who are vulnerable.

But if the child’s mother has already had chickenpox (which I’m assuming, possibly wrongly), would she still be contagious?

Well it can’t go on as expected and that’s very sad
If you can postpone and redo without too much expense do that but if not then baby and mum and dad and any others that have been with the baby can’t really go can they !
I feel for you it’s so disappointing when something like this happens
I hope you find a solution

The children should most definitely not attend the wedding . His Mum shouldn't either. I recognise how disappointing this must be - such a special day! However in the grand scheme of things it is not the end of the world!!
I hope the little one recovers soon , enjoy the wedding day.

I feel for you all as we had a similar situation a few years ago due to covid. Do you have vulnerable people attending? If so I don't think anyone who has been in contact with your GS should attend, until possibly after the vulnerable have gone home if this is logistically possible.However as your grandson is so young will he be that aware that he has missed the actual ceremony.? you could have a little ceremony at home once he is better. Regretfully I do think he should not attend on the day at all. Hope that the day goes well if not as expected.

NangelaMary

Do you think Lathyrus 3 my daughter my Grandsons mother should still be bridesmaid ?

If she’s likely to carry infection of course she shouldn’t go.