Wedding woe ( chickenpox ! )

Children who have chickenpox should be isolated until the blisters have formed scabs.... several days.
This prevents the spread of the contagious virus to vulnerable people, ie pregnant women, new born babies and those with a weak immune system.
Years ago I had to isolate my three year old granddaughter when she had chickenpox. Her mummy was in hospital having recently given birth to a baby who was very poorly.
I could no longer take my granddaughter in to see her mummy.
It was hard, but absolutely necessary.
You will have to consider the guests at your daughter's wedding I'm afraid.
I hope the wedding day goes well otherwise. Best wishes.

Thankyou Aldom
That must have been very hard for you all. Its so awful when these things happen at very special times.

I’m not sure I understand what you are asking.

There’s disappointment but no dilemma surely?

Too late now, but chickenpox vaccine would have protected the child!
Most adults have had chickenpox, and will be immune, so someone can mind the child during the wedding. Adults can NOT catch shingles from someone with chickenpox, but anyone who hasn't had it could be vulnerable.

I was a bridesmaid to my Aunt at the age of 7. Unbeknown to anyone I had chickenpox which manifested itself the next day. 3 days later my Aunt and Uncle had to cut short their honeymoon and return home because she had chickenpox. She was actually quite ill. She never let me forget it! (In the nicest possible way I should add).

I doubt I would have been allowed anywhere near that wedding if we had known.

I would have been horrendously upset, but I'm quite sure I would have got over it.

Do you think Lathyrus 3 my daughter my Grandsons mother should still be bridesmaid ?

A three year old with chicken pox should not go to a wedding. Not sure why it is even necessary to ask.

Is she vaccinated?

Is easy to say the child should have had the vaccine but it cost my daughters over a hundred pounds to have their toddlers vaccinated. I think parents can now get it for free on the NHS but am not even sure if that has kicked in yet.

And no of course the child shouldn’t be at the wedding.

It's disappointing but the child or his immediate family shouldn't be at the wedding. Apart from the fact that chicken pox is horrible, there may be guests with compromised immune systems. Maybe there will be a video link or the family could have a later celebration when everyone is better.

NangelaMary

Do you think Lathyrus 3 my daughter my Grandsons mother should still be bridesmaid ?

If she’s likely to carry infection of course she shouldn’t go.

I feel for you all as we had a similar situation a few years ago due to covid. Do you have vulnerable people attending? If so I don't think anyone who has been in contact with your GS should attend, until possibly after the vulnerable have gone home if this is logistically possible.However as your grandson is so young will he be that aware that he has missed the actual ceremony.? you could have a little ceremony at home once he is better. Regretfully I do think he should not attend on the day at all. Hope that the day goes well if not as expected.

The children should most definitely not attend the wedding . His Mum shouldn't either. I recognise how disappointing this must be - such a special day! However in the grand scheme of things it is not the end of the world!!
I hope the little one recovers soon , enjoy the wedding day.

Well it can’t go on as expected and that’s very sad
If you can postpone and redo without too much expense do that but if not then baby and mum and dad and any others that have been with the baby can’t really go can they !
I feel for you it’s so disappointing when something like this happens
I hope you find a solution

But if the child’s mother has already had chickenpox (which I’m assuming, possibly wrongly), would she still be contagious?

Can't believe anyone can even contemplate attending the wedding. For goodness sake, anyone with chicken pox should hunker down and keep away from others, especially those who are vulnerable.

I definitely wouldn't allow the nephew to attend the wedding.I'd be concerned that anyone who is normally around him especially his mother could be carrying chicken pox
I'd feel mortified if the occasion was ruined if the bride and groom went off on honeymoon and the illness developed .
The little boy won't be feeling well anyway .

I can think of two occasions when someone selfishly attended a party and infected people with a nasty virus .

I wish him better .
Aveeno helps with those itchy spots .

I agree totally esmay. I caught chicken pox from my children, aged 40. It was absolutely horrible, and might have been quite dangerous, as are all those “childhood” diseases when an adult gets them.

I caught chickenpox at 25 from a neighbours small son I babysit. I was really poorly.

It is a great shame, but the family and child will have to stay away. I expect OP will have differing "advice" from the bride and fellow guests, but she has opened this thread and has received good advice here.

If the GC came out in chickenpox or measles or any childhood infection the day after the wedding that is one thing, but they know he has it so must make the right decision.

Unfortunately I think the bride will have to go unattended and the groom or best man carry his own ring.
Hope your small GS is better soon and nobody else catches it

grandMatte
I'm.very sorry that it happened to you .
I'm afraid that some people are horribly selfish.
Catching chicken pox as an adult can be serious and you have responsibilities such as work and /or children to look after,which makes it really difficult.
I've heard of adult men being rendered infertile from mumps .
I'm.going through a period when I'm distancing myself from some of my friends.
Almost admitted to hospital and seriously ill I phoned one to see if she wanted to come to our church Christmas lunch.
She didn't tell me that she had bronchitis .
She decided to go out as she doesn't like being at home .
I caught it from her .
It kicked in on Christmas Eve and !by Christmas day I was really sick.
It has lingered on for about six weeks.
Sick again ? she said the other day.
I felt like saying yes sick again and because of you !

The blunt answer is he cannot go to the wedding and neither can his Mum, for everyone's protection.

Esmay I wish we all had the courage to say to "friend" yes still sick with what I caught from you. We really should say what we are thinking in this situation. Accompany with a wry laugh to soften the sentiment.