Wedding woe ( chickenpox ! )

I think you know the answer now.
Sorry their plans are disrupted but at least the Bride and Groom are well as that really would be a disaster.
Hope the wee boy makes a quick recovery.
Chicken pox can be a really nasty itchy thing for some leaving them pockmarked. Others get off lightly.

The attitude that most adults are likely to have caught a common childhood illness makes me really cross. My ex SiL didn’t tell me that my nephew had chicken pox until after I had hugged him. His spots weren’t visible but my baby bump was. I was then told by my gp that I likely had it as a child. This was despite my mum insisting I had never had it! Having suffered a number of miscarriages I spent the next few weeks worried sick.

Unfortunately he is not going to be able to attend there is always the chance that one of the other female guests could be pregnant, does your DD have anyone that can look after him? other grandparents? hopefully the wedding isn't a destination one, if it is local to you all perhaps she or her husband could pop home after the ceremony / photos of reception to check up on him if she is concerned. Good luck with the day.

I’m assuming the wedding is today, the OP hasn’t come back, wonder what was decided?

For the ones who are going to stay away from the wedding, if there is livestreaming, then use that. Make a little party at home. If they are up to it, put on the glad rags and take photos. Use the family WhatsApp to stay in touch and share as it happens during the day.
A month later, when all are well again, have a great big family party. 🥳

dotpocka

are there male familythat can attend her it doesnot say it has to be a female

Surely the boy's Mum should stay with him. He will want her for comfort more than anyone else I would have thought. No disrespect to the males out there.

BlueBelle

suedoku my mum caught measles off me when she was in her late twenties and I was a little one and it affected her hearing over the years her hearing got worse and worse until she had none it made her life very very different to how it should have been

I'm sorry to hear that. All these so-called 'childhood illnesses' can cause such awful damage - and yet they're still seen as 'trivial' by far too many people (including the present USA Health Minister 😡)

Like other GNs here, I'd advise that the child (and I'd add both his parents and any siblings) should NOT attend the wedding. End of!

suedoku my mum caught measles off me when she was in her late twenties and I was a little one and it affected her hearing over the years her hearing got worse and worse until she had none it made her life very very different to how it should have been

My daughter came down with chicken pox 3 days before my DH 40 birthday party . We cancelled the party . Myself, DH and DS had had chicken pox but we didn’t know if any of the party guests had had it . And there were several pregnant women there , so we cancelled the party . It was in a local wine bar and we lost money , but for us it was a no brainer .
So imo the GC and his parents and anyone close to the boy shouldn’t attend the wedding.

I have a friend who is completely deaf - her Mum caught chickenpox when she was 3 months pregnant. It has been such a huge disability to her (& her whole family). Please ask your daughter not to attend the wedding - it really isn't worth the risk. 💔

Being in the same room as someone with Chickenpox for just 15 minutes can be enough to transmit the virus to a non-immune person.

It spreads through the air - as well as touch - droplets in the air if they cough, sneeze, or even just breathes over someone.
​There may be "Invisible" Vulnerable there - You might know who is elderly, but you don't know who is
​in the first trimester of pregnancy (and hasn't told anyone) or undergoing chemotherapy or radiation treatment or using
immunosuppressant drugs for conditions like Crohn’s or Arthritis.
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Sadly I think she has to suck this one up.
😕
I think it's irresponsible to go.

My friend, who was having treatment for breast cancer, died when she caught chicken pox. She was 63.

Oh what a shame. I’m sorry to read this. However, I totally agree that the child needs keeping away from others “till the scabs fall off”. When I was a childminder one of the babies caught it, then my son, daughter, other child I was minding and his grandmother! got it. It’s highly infectious.
On another occasion my boss caught it (sales office not childcare) He was in his 50’s and extremely poorly.
PS. He was not amused when I sent him a copy of the Beano, Dandy and a box of lollipops 😉

Doctor said for me to send husband away when my son had chicken pox (MIL said husband had not had it). I was happy to do that because I had chicken pox at 18 and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Luckily I knew when my son had been exposed!

I cannot believe this is a dilemma

Anybody who may be contagious should not go to the wedding.

This is an absolute no brainer. Of course he should not go to the wedding. He has a contagious disease.
I am gob smacked you even posted this.,?????????

I don’t understand why people think the parents should isolate too, or not attend the wedding. Unless of course they have not had chickenpox. In which case they could themselves be affected, and infect others. If you get a very mild dose of chickenpox, you can get it again, but I think this is pretty unusual.

There is a common fallacy that people can get shingles from being exposed to chickenpox, but this is no longer thought to be the case. Anyone who has ever had chickenpox carries the virus in their body and it can reactivate as shingles. And this can happen more than once. That’s a separate issue.

The child clearly should be at the wedding if he is still infectious. If they is someone who has had chickenpox, and is willing and able to look after him, I don’t see why the parents shouldn’t go to the wedding?

My son had chickenpox when I got married. He was going to be a page boy. I told him not to worry but just give a big smile so no-one would notice his spots. In every wedding photo, there is my son with the biggest, cheesiest grin imaginable! His spots had crusted over but I didn't have anyone who could look after him so he had to be there. We just notified the guests.

I've not had chicken pox, I wouldn't be very happy if I found myself in contact with someone who was deliberately brought to the wedding suffering from it. And as others have said it's very dangerous if you're pregnant or vulnerable

If the child is in the infectious stage then parents should isolate, too, until that stage has passed, usually about six days after the rash appears and when spots have crusted over. Don't forget that as well as the wedding party itself there may be vulnerable people providing services in church or wedding venue or the reception venue.

How different to the 1970’s when we were encouraged to mix with other children so you pass the disease on and we would have herd immunity !

What a dissapointment for all. Maybe someone could film wedding live for them on whats app. It's too risky.
If you have guests with rhumatoid arthritis they have to avoid chicken pox.

Disappointing yes but the responsible action to take is to keep the little boy away from wedding guests

Child should not attend. How would they feel if there was anyone attending who may be pregnant, especially unknowingly and
caught chickenpox.