Facebook and Care Homes.

You are missing the point here, it's not the content of the pictures I object to but the fact they are put out there for all to see. Should be restricted to family and friends.

Agreed.

BlueBelle

I ve never seen any photos on fb showing people in any kind of situation I would be concerned about, just singing, playing games and looking as if they are having fun. It would put my mind at rest if it was my relative
Why do some consider it’s not normal to take photos of people in all stages of life
Obviously if they were inappropriate photos I d be furious but I ve never seen any nasty ones at all just people having a good time

Quite! I only remember seeing photos of people having a singalong or cuddling cute animals that are visiting them. Nowt wrong with that....

I ve never seen any photos on fb showing people in any kind of situation I would be concerned about, just singing, playing games and looking as if they are having fun. It would put my mind at rest if it was my relative
Why do some consider it’s not normal to take photos of people in all stages of life
Obviously if they were inappropriate photos I d be furious but I ve never seen any nasty ones at all just people having a good time

I don't see what the problem is myself as to why some people are saying they don't want that - given both modern manners and carehome policies say that everyones personal permission has to be sought first for photos.

So either the person themselves is asked or, if they aren't up to answering, then their relative/close friend/etc is asked on their behalf.

Given it helps other people evaluate the standard of a carehome to see these photos - then there's also the altruistic thing of helping others reject the dud level carehomes and pick a decent one.

That's ideal icanhandtnemback it's the thought of the the details and pics being available to the general public which I find abhorrent.

My Mum's care home is on Facebook but you can only see it if you are a family member, staff or friend of the home. I love seeing the photos and videos.

Win & JaneJudge not a case of hiding people away, it's gone the opposite way and people are displayed to all and sundry. While we are on the subject I would also dislike being 'persuaded' to join in with silly games or having local school children coming to view me like an exhibit in a zoo. For me and several other people I know in their 80 + years privacy and dignity are all important,

Witzend

My DM (dementia) was in her care home for very nearly 8 years before she died, and I certainly wouldn’t have given permission for any photos of her to be used for publicity or advertising.

The fact that she wouldn’t have been aware, or cared, is beside the point. She had formerly been an intensely private person, very careful as to her appearance, so I cared for her. Her former self would have hated anyone but the closest family to witness the very poor old thing she’d become.

Which is also fine

Theworriedwell, that’s sweet

Lovely story theworriedwell

This has reminded me of when I was getting married. A young man in the office was getting married just after me so we would chat about plans. A few weeks before his wedding he said gran had stolen the limelight. He was joking. Gran was in her 90s and had decided to marry another resident in the home. She married a week before him, celebration held at the home with all residents and staff invited along with their families. Photos in the local paper and it looked like a fabulous do.

Anniebach

Thank you the worriedwell I chose to move to a nursing home after 4 years of drinking 4 bottles of liquid meals per day, I have rheumatoid arthritis affecting every joint, couldn’t prepare food for myself. I certainly made the right choice.
I choose what I eat, what time I want to get up for breakfast, my room has patio doors and the gardener plants what I choose. This year I decided to celebrate my birthday in a local pub, no hiding away from the world, no photographs are taken,
The staff are great, so caring.

Sounds brilliant.

Great AnnieBach we often don’t agree on royal family and other contentious issues on here but I ve always thought of you a lot and admired your spirit and I m so glad you’re happy

It never arose with my mum in her home but both she and I would have consented I wouldn’t want her hidden from view she was a sparky lady and had a horrid last few years but pictures of her laughing and enjoying life would have been so welcome

I ve only ever seen lovely photos on FB of them having a good time

However old or frail etc a person becomes
They remain a person.
Never a thing.

I too am so glad to hear that you are happy there anniebach.

JaneJudge

Annie, I’m glad you are happy

Me as well, you have made a good decision there Anniebach

You would have had the choice Witzend

I talked to our manager yesterday and she says that for it to happen ( public photography) consent had to be sought.

My DM (dementia) was in her care home for very nearly 8 years before she died, and I certainly wouldn’t have given permission for any photos of her to be used for publicity or advertising.

The fact that she wouldn’t have been aware, or cared, is beside the point. She had formerly been an intensely private person, very careful as to her appearance, so I cared for her. Her former self would have hated anyone but the closest family to witness the very poor old thing she’d become.

Annie, I’m glad you are happy

It is actually something bigger than just being ‘old’ it is about peoples ‘normal’

Unfortunately people become ill and disabled all the time. Why should they be hidden from view? Unless they want to be, obviously.

I remember when my friend was dying and people just stopped visiting because “it was too upsetting” yep, it was upsetting but you don’t stop visiting

Thank you the worriedwell I chose to move to a nursing home after 4 years of drinking 4 bottles of liquid meals per day, I have rheumatoid arthritis affecting every joint, couldn’t prepare food for myself. I certainly made the right choice.
I choose what I eat, what time I want to get up for breakfast, my room has patio doors and the gardener plants what I choose. This year I decided to celebrate my birthday in a local pub, no hiding away from the world, no photographs are taken,
The staff are great, so caring.

Anniebach

I didn’t think of myself as - a frail old person because I live in a nursing home, how nasty can GransNet get ?

Thats great. I hope it is a nice home and you are happy. I think the idea that we should be hidden at a certain age is insulting. Do people get stressed if a school publishes photos of children or a sports club posts pictures of an event? The same rules apply people give consent or decline.
Is it really so shameful and humiliating to be old,?

DeeAitch56

CariadAgain

Mixed feelings. There are some dire ones around and I know it's proven difficult to get a normal website with a selection of photos of the interior up on some of them and that makes me suspicious that they are amongst the dire ones. Sometimes one can tell by the charge - ie where I live now I've been gobsmacked to see some charging around £500 per week (as I know that will mean dire to start with - given it's my understanding that decent ones are more likely to charge £1,000 or more a week) - but yep....one needs a looksee to help assess standards.

So I would tend to think it's a safeguard for the residents for a selection of photos to be shown - so the surroundings can be assessed, one can maybe pick up clues how the residents are treated, etc.

When someone had to choose a nursing home for my father back in 2020 (just prior to that Lockdown as it turned out in the event) I wanted all the info I could get from afar to help suss them out (and that included photos). One could tell quite a lot just by literally viewing and, when I went back to see the ones that remained on my list after sussing out online as far as possible = one got ruled out instantly literally as I walked down the drive and looking inside revealed I couldnt spot a sign of any of the residents and there was just one apologetic-looking member of staff to be seen (I think she knew I'd decided against before I even walked in the front door).

£500 a week is an utter bargain, I’ve had a friend recently go into care and it’s £1800 a week (Wiltshire)

I was utterly gobsmacked at the prices of a couple I've seen here. But the first time I noticed an incredibly low price (ie I was checking what the place was like my first next door neighbour went to) it was DIRE and I was there thinking "Not even an en suite bathroom!" and the whole place looked "dejected" is the first word that came to mind. I was not overall surprised to see a lower standard than where my mothers mother went come the end (as I'm used to mentally gutting a lot of houses I see for sale here). My grandmothers carehome had the en suite bathroom/bring your own furniture/generally clean and modern feeling/mini library next door/doctors surgery next door and even a function room where we held the wake come the end (and the two senior staff were attendees at that). The one here was a world of difference to what my grandmother had had (like equating to a 1 star hotel compared to a 4 star hotel basically). Downgraded a star because it was instant coffee we got served as visitors - and Society was already pretty well into the "coffee is Real" era. I remember that because my mother told me off (!) for not drinking any more after the first sip and she drank the rest of that too to hide the fact I'd not had any more after realising that...

All the photos and films I’ve seen are of people having fun too.

I really dislike the idea of people being hidden away and not being seen