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Outlook in our eighties?

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Cabbie21 Sun 01-Mar-26 20:25:54

My granddaughter has recently visited all of her grandparents, who, including step-grandparents, have all reached their / our eighties. She told me that I am the healthiest and most active. One has dementia, her husband is wearing himself out as her carer, another has heart failure, another is diabetic.

True, I am generally in good health and am involved in a number of activities, though nothing particularly physically active. It has set me wondering how long I can expect or hope to stay this way. I’m not going to stay fit and healthy forever. I don’t have as much stamina as I used to, but I can’t imagine not being able to continue with my various activities. Perhaps I should travel more whilst I still can? I don’t have a bucket list.
Do you make plans, or just live from day to day?

teabagwoman Thu 05-Mar-26 17:33:38

Allira

^Either use it or lose it^

I was using it but have lost it again this week.

Sometimes using it can result in disaster too.

Using it may reduce the chance of losing it but it doesn’t work for all of us. When it comes to to pushing yourself wisdom is knowing when to stop.

SueDonim Thu 05-Mar-26 19:52:15

I subscribe to use it or lose it for most things. To be fair, I’ve never been able to lift massively heavy items, so hefting paving slabs would never have been on my agenda, I just don’t have the build/stamina for it. Mind you, if my cat gets any fatter I’ll be needing a hoist for her! She eats exactly the same as her brother but he’s like a racing snake. confused

I think things like using stairs instead of lifts are all part of keeping ourselves going, those little parts of living that contribute to our overall condition.

Allira Thu 05-Mar-26 20:17:18

teabagwoman

Allira

Either use it or lose it

I was using it but have lost it again this week.

Sometimes using it can result in disaster too.

Using it may reduce the chance of losing it but it doesn’t work for all of us. When it comes to to pushing yourself wisdom is knowing when to stop.

If I knew what I'd done I'd stop doing it!!

Allira Thu 05-Mar-26 20:20:04

SueDonim

I subscribe to use it or lose it for most things. To be fair, I’ve never been able to lift massively heavy items, so hefting paving slabs would never have been on my agenda, I just don’t have the build/stamina for it. Mind you, if my cat gets any fatter I’ll be needing a hoist for her! She eats exactly the same as her brother but he’s like a racing snake. confused

I think things like using stairs instead of lifts are all part of keeping ourselves going, those little parts of living that contribute to our overall condition.

My MIL always said climbing the stairs helped her keep fit.
She wasn't fit but refused to have her bedroom downstairs.

Do you think someone else is feeding your cat? They can be so persuasive! Six Dinner Sid. Or Sydney in her case.

teabagwoman Thu 05-Mar-26 20:31:40

Allira, I haven’t achieved wisdom yet either.

Allira Thu 05-Mar-26 20:34:22

teabagwoman

*Allira*, I haven’t achieved wisdom yet either.

I had all my wisdom teeth out years ago, teabagwoman

There is no hope.

Oreo Thu 05-Mar-26 21:46:48

I used to have a cat that was a six dinner Sid, unbeknownst to me, he did the rounds with the neighbours , got fatter and fatter but stopped eating much at home.
I thought he had a tapeworm! Taken to the vet but all ok just pronounced overweight. One day saw him with a neighbour, she was cuddling him in the garden then took him indoors.
All became clear.😺

Oreo Thu 05-Mar-26 21:47:57

teabagwoman

Allira

Either use it or lose it

I was using it but have lost it again this week.

Sometimes using it can result in disaster too.

Using it may reduce the chance of losing it but it doesn’t work for all of us. When it comes to to pushing yourself wisdom is knowing when to stop.

Yes! Exactly, know your limits.You don’t want to do your back in.

SueDonim Thu 05-Mar-26 22:38:18

They’re indoor cats so no Six Dinner Sids! Next door’s cat - now that is a different story. Everyone knows him for miles around and he supplements his diet with mice. He’s so fat now he can hardly scramble over the fence! grin

Allira Thu 05-Mar-26 22:43:29

Oh! Does she eat her brother's food before he can get to it?

Oreo Fri 06-Mar-26 09:16:42

Animals are just like people aren’t they?😄

SueDonim Fri 06-Mar-26 13:23:14

I haven’t been able to fathom that out, Allira. The ridiculous thing is, she’s such a fussy eater! She often walks away from her food (Hills Science Diet) and leaves it uneaten. I’ve wasted loads of money on trying her on different products. The only thing she’ll eat without a to-do is tinned tuna, but the human stuff isn’t good for cats so that’s not an answer.

She’s clearly not fading away, so I’m not too worried! 😂

Cabbie21 Fri 06-Mar-26 16:51:14

Well I know threads can take some odd turns but this beats them all.

Norah Fri 06-Mar-26 17:04:28

SueDonim

I subscribe to use it or lose it for most things. To be fair, I’ve never been able to lift massively heavy items, so hefting paving slabs would never have been on my agenda, I just don’t have the build/stamina for it. Mind you, if my cat gets any fatter I’ll be needing a hoist for her! She eats exactly the same as her brother but he’s like a racing snake. confused

I think things like using stairs instead of lifts are all part of keeping ourselves going, those little parts of living that contribute to our overall condition.

I can't lift massive pavers either. I never could. My ability to walk, use the stairs, garden, and do what matters to me hasn't changed - yet.

Allira Fri 06-Mar-26 17:12:22

Cabbie21

Well I know threads can take some odd turns but this beats them all.

Perhaps the cats are 80! 🐱🐱

BlessedArt Fri 06-Mar-26 17:20:55

I like the idea of “use it or lose, but know your limits”.

I make plans but I don’t get married to them. Recently I was supposed to go visit my son and his family. My body said otherwise. I was disappointed, but the alternative of risking a dire health incident in the air was decidedly less attractive than missing the trip. Life goes on smile

Cabbie21 Fri 06-Mar-26 17:44:02

Over lunch today with friends we were talking about the cost of travel and car insurance rising once you hit 80.

Do you take out travel insurance for UK only trips? I do, as I have already booked three, paid for one and will have to pay for two more next month. It’s not just cancellation costs, but if anything goes wrong, especially when you are a single traveller in a group.