Remember my old posts about my nightmare neighbour?

Ok, so sorry for not coming back to this, but I was busy for a few days and didn't have the computer on. By the time I was back on Gransnet, I couldn't remember which room I had posted in. Finally found it!

Allira - sadly although the troublesome neighbour stopped her baiting, his depression was too deep. He seemed to be better but it was the calm that comes when a decision has been made. He went missing for five days. Friends, neighbours and the Police went searching and his body was found in private woodland.

Welbeck - He has attacked her twice and the police have arrested and released him even though he broke his good behaviour bond. I guess it is because of the state of the Courts and prison places.
The Housing Association "advised" her not to let him in but said they could not make her comply. She is being given a panic button in her new place but she has probably already told him where she is. She is a fool.

Jess - yes she now lives 4 doors down from my old friend, in the same terrace block, at the other end of our road. I ran into my ex-neighbour a few days ago and it seems the friendship has broken down somewhat. She said old friend had been "very rude" to her and shouted at her when she saw her. I think the pill-taking "suicide" attempt was the last straw when doubts were already occurring. I saw the old friend in her front garden a couple of days ago and asked if she was well and she actually replied politely instead of turning her back on me!

My troublesome now ex-neighbour is currently trying to recruit me as a friend. Ain't going to work, although I am polite to her when she turns up (which she does). The general feeling down this end of the road is relief that she is now living at least 200 yards away. Thankful for small mercies.

I remember your post and really feeling for you as a friend had recently experienced a very nasty neighbour - nothing as bad as yours though. I'm so pleased that you now have a chance of peace and what karma for your old friend. Thank you Aley - it's so good when some-one gives an update rather than folk wondering about outcomes.

Not that it helps you OP but just an observation. Re domestic violence.
The police now should be working to a protocol that does not depend on the victims continued cooperation.
Once they have attended an incident and gathered evidence they should pursue criminal proceedings and assist in obtaining a restraining order.
So that son should have been excluded from the property and prosecuted

I really feel for you in this dilemna .
You can't help who moves in next to you.

There was always something really odd about my old neighbour next door.
His wife and daughters were normal,pleasant and friendly towards me .
If they invited me in for drinks or supper -he'd show off .
The daughters married and moved away and the wife became very ill - that left him behaving more and more oddly towards me .
He spied on me all the time.
I used to feel that he was waiting for me to appear .
It became unenjoyable to do my garden or sit out in it without him appearing.
My friends thought that he was a creepy pervert .
There were endless lists about complaints about my trees and shrubs .
He threatened to sue me over one tree and finally tried to drag me up his drive by my arm .
That's when I stopped all contact with him .
He resorted to letters to me .
And am attempt to make them look official.

A friend from the Catholic Church , where his wife occasionally attends has told me that he has dementia .
Long before the dementia set in he certainly was behaving very strangely .
He attends a day centre and is escorted there and back daily.
And his garden has a very high fence and many floodlights around it .
It looks like a prison yard not a garden .
It was once a beautiful garden .
I enjoyed the company of normal neighbours .

Hope you get more “normal” neighbours

I remember reading this. It astonishes me that this sort of thing can go on without someone being moved on sooner. Sadly the whole cycle will probably repeat itself in the new location, but for now you can relax.

I lived for a while with very challenging neighbours. We were planning to move as a result, but in the end my ex was made redundant and we ended up moving fifty miles away because he got a new job. The situation was nothing like as serious as yours, but even so was very stressful at the time. I'm lucky to have great neighbours here for the most part, but I don't know of any way to guarantee it won't happen again when I next move, probably next year.

Wow I don’t know how I missed this post when you originally posted it, it sounds as if she has mental health problems do you know if she is receiving support from them, even if she is mentally unwell it’s so draining and hell to live with, I can’t believe how your long term friend would believe her over you with her history.
I hope you and your neighbours get some peace now that she has been moved

Neighbours make such a difference.
Hope you can now relax.

Allira

BlueBelle

Me too, that’s some story

Yes, you did post and gave some good advice last time, Bluebelle.

The Housing Association she rents from have (not for the first time, it seems) found her somewhere "more suitable". It's not far away
I hope it's far enough, Aely.

Shows what my memories like 🤣🤣🤣

I think the friend of many years is "up the road".

I hope she has come to her senses now Aely and has apologised (or at least tried to "make up" in some way.

Aely, Have I understood this correctly.... this abusive person is being moved into the same block as the woman who used to be your friend but turned against you because of what this said 'person' told them? If so there's a rather sad sort of poetic justice ☹️

That poor man committing suicide

Thank goodness, that the situation has resolved itself for you Aely, I remember your thread.

I thnk Councils have real problems with these serially troublesome tenants. My daughter bought an ex-council house and had problems with a difficult family who were moved there when her original neighbour went into care. Rubbish, noise, police constantly round. Her living room and bedroom reeked of cigarette smoke because they didn't have any carpets. In the end she had to take the floor boards up the party wall and fill the void between them with foam.

Thankfully the tenants did not abuse her or spread false storys, that must be really dreadful. Eventually they were moved on

BlueBelle

Me too, that’s some story

Yes, you did post and gave some good advice last time, Bluebelle.

The Housing Association she rents from have (not for the first time, it seems) found her somewhere "more suitable". It's not far away
I hope it's far enough, Aely.

Yes, I remember.

I didn't know one neighbour had committed suicide, I thought he had attempted it by taking an overdose and ended up in hospital.
Her other neighbour ended up in hospital after swallowing all his (prescribed) pain meds after one of her vicious campaigns against him.
Poor man.

Me too, that’s some story

How did I miss this?