Thread “police” (light hearted)

Didn't a GN say that GSM had come back under a new name?? That's also probably the case with other "lost" posters.

Allira

I try my best, Cossy

"But your best is just not good enough, Allira. We expect better of gels at this school." 🙄

Goodness, sounds like many of my old teachers and many of my school reports! Thankfully that’s all in the past now!

*Allira

Fallingstar
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No, she wasn't.
She could be straightforward but wasn't given to making personal attacks and could be very helpful when posters needed advice.

There seemed to be a lot of new posters who arrived and started goading her at one time and she was banned.
Very strange.*

My take on GSM is that you get what you see, no frills, no fuss, just her in all her glory.

She was highly educated, battled and worked extremely hard, whilst bringing up her son mainly alone, and did at times, appear to lack empathy.

But she was more than happy to help anyone with her legal expertise and debated strongly without ever resorting to personal attacks.

I didn’t buy into her politics, but respected her views and admired her perseverance.

She wasn’t everyone cup of tea, but then who is?

We “lost” a few posters across the years and I miss them.

I try my best, Cossy

"But your best is just not good enough, Allira. We expect better of gels at this school." 🙄

Allira my biggest wish is for an “edit” button.

I know there’s a preview function, but guess I’m too lazy or want to post quickly! 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

Fallingstar

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No, she wasn't.
She could be straightforward but wasn't given to making personal attacks and could be very helpful when posters needed advice.

There seemed to be a lot of new posters who arrived and started goading her at one time and she was banned.
Very strange.

Cossy

BlueBelle

When I first joined I was lambasted for some punctuation mistake I had made, the first was a comment, then others piled in, I actually came off GN for a while as I was so embarrassed.
I felt GSM who was very popular with a lot (it wasn’t her who had a go at me) and some others can be very blunt and a bit too personal, we can all make mistakes and not everyone has the same level of education, but may have very valid points to make.

Also there’s the curse of “auto correct”, perfectly normal typos, “fat fingers” especially on a mobile etc etc

I have a fat stylus 😁
Then post before I notice.

2/10 Must try harder, Allira

Maggiemaybe

Twopenn’orth, probably? Don’t correct me, anyone!

Tuppenceworth 😇

Sago

Cossy

GSM was blunt and to the point BUT she never was personal and she contacted me via private messaging to alert me to some things in my own posts.

But it is personal, rude and arrogant.

What kind of person goes through another adults post to correct and criticise?

In real life would you correct a stranger on incorrect pronunciation or for having a regional accent?

I know it’s irritating for a pedant but it can totally knock someone’s confidence, to do it privately is bad to do it publicly is downright rude.

Sago completely agree with you

It's not clear how one links a duplicate thread to the original. I've made a mess of it before.

Fallingstar

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GSM was just herself, as are so many on GN!! She was always even handed.

Sorry, but the Headteacher/Head Girl analogy applied frequently to posters on here is silly. It's used to shut posters up when another thinks that one person is hogging the thread on a particular matter.

PS I don't know your older sister, so that might be true in her case! 🤣

Twopenn’orth, probably? Don’t correct me, anyone!

There always have been and always will be the few who actively enjoy nitpicking and putting others down with the benefit of what they see as their superior knowledge. It’s the same in every walk of life, but it’s always sad to see on here - you’d think we’d have got over ourselves by now.

Saying that, I think posters pointing out that there’s a duplicate thread are just being helpful - it can be annoying to put in your twopennorth and then see that the main discussion’s going on elsewhere.

DAR, I don’t object to anything being highlighted in a positive and helpful way.

I guess that’s one of the downsides of sites like this, one can post something and just not mean to offend or upset, but without the nuance of speech and eye contact it’s sometimes easy to misinterpret. I’m never intentionally rude. (Or at least, try hard not to be)

BlueBelle

When I first joined I was lambasted for some punctuation mistake I had made, the first was a comment, then others piled in, I actually came off GN for a while as I was so embarrassed.
I felt GSM who was very popular with a lot (it wasn’t her who had a go at me) and some others can be very blunt and a bit too personal, we can all make mistakes and not everyone has the same level of education, but may have very valid points to make.

Also there’s the curse of “auto correct”, perfectly normal typos, “fat fingers” especially on a mobile etc etc

Cossy

BlueBelle

I think it’s valid to point out there’s another thread or else the subject can get totally diluted and if you decide to only follow one (trying to miss duplication) you could miss an interesting point.

I think my issue is “the way” some choose to “point things out”

There can surely be no problem with a polite alert to an already existing thread on the same topic.

Just as some come onto a forum ready to give offence there are also some ready to take it. Just highlighting a second thread on the same topic is not offensive and can be helpful.

I had quite a lot of time for her. We used to disagree on some things but she disagreed fairly if you know what I mean.

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BlueBelle

When I first joined I was lambasted for some punctuation mistake I had made, the first was a comment, then others piled in, I actually came off GN for a while as I was so embarrassed.
I felt GSM who was very popular with a lot (it wasn’t her who had a go at me) and some others can be very blunt and a bit too personal, we can all make mistakes and not everyone has the same level of education, but may have very valid points to make.

Exactly this👏👏👏👏👏

When I first joined I was lambasted for some punctuation mistake I had made, the first was a comment, then others piled in, I actually came off GN for a while as I was so embarrassed.
I felt GSM who was very popular with a lot (it wasn’t her who had a go at me) and some others can be very blunt and a bit too personal, we can all make mistakes and not everyone has the same level of education, but may have very valid points to make.

Cossy

GSM was blunt and to the point BUT she never was personal and she contacted me via private messaging to alert me to some things in my own posts.

But it is personal, rude and arrogant.

What kind of person goes through another adults post to correct and criticise?

In real life would you correct a stranger on incorrect pronunciation or for having a regional accent?

I know it’s irritating for a pedant but it can totally knock someone’s confidence, to do it privately is bad to do it publicly is downright rude.

With so many forums available to post a new thread on such as Chat, News, AIBU, Ask a Gran etc, there are bound to be duplications and that is fine.
And just to say "there is a thread already" is ridiculous without saying where it is or providing a link. It's almost the equivalent of saying shut up which you wouldn't say in a real life conversation.

BlueBelle

I think it’s valid to point out there’s another thread or else the subject can get totally diluted and if you decide to only follow one (trying to miss duplication) you could miss an interesting point.

Yes, that's why I have pointed them out in the past. Not as a criticism, but just to let the 'new' poster know - if there's an existing thread, people may carry on posting on that one and the 'new' person might miss points which have been raised. Won't bother again though.

Crikey GSM must have thought I was an utter lost cause

BlueBelle

I think it’s valid to point out there’s another thread or else the subject can get totally diluted and if you decide to only follow one (trying to miss duplication) you could miss an interesting point.

I think my issue is “the way” some choose to “point things out”