Looking back:Is there anything you would have done differently?

I would have had a third child.

Me too. I should have divorced. Selfish husband all round. His mother was very cold and father never at home. Older and wiser!

A very ungrateful one at that! Feeling trapped!

I was not given the education I deserved! Just a glorified slave to a large family!

Oh HappyLady I do understand what you mean. My health is in a bad way too. Too many miles on the clock!

Get that but they owned us especially if eldest as I was. I had a dreadful life. Sadly.

I wish I hadn’t gone into nurse training at 18 it was more for my mum than me anyway, she would have loved it, but I hated it, I qualified but left and never went back.
Met my DH shortly after qualifying had the DC and never had a career after that.

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Too much to mention

I regret that music fell out of my life when I married. Before and after the child-rearing years, we shared an expensive and exciting hobby which became the basis of DH's successful business.
As a widow I'm getting music back now. thanks to a school friend, also widowed.

I would not have accepted all my mother said as gospel. Gone my own way rather more.

No, I'd have done the same.

I'm content with our children, GC, GGC. I'm content, happy really, I married who and when I did. I love our life, home, and family.

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Another one here who did not really enjoy teaching until I changed subjects and worked with students whose first language was not English. BUT then I would not have met DH as we met in the workplace.

LadyBridgerton

Lovemylife

I’m another grammar school girl who really should not have gone into teaching. I was not suited to it at all.

There seem to be a lot of us. I wish I hadn't been what's now called a 'people pleaser' for most of my life.

But that was the whole aim of the grammar school education system for girls in those days - to produce another generation of teachers!

"If you don't want to teach, do not waste a place at university" was the careers advice.

Lovemylife

I’m another grammar school girl who really should not have gone into teaching. I was not suited to it at all.

There seem to be a lot of us. I wish I hadn't been what's now called a 'people pleaser' for most of my life.

I would have thought of myself and my needs before putting everyone else first. My health has suffered terribly because of it.

What would I gave done differently?

Never regretted being self employed, married young, built my first house at 23! lived modestly worked hard, always been a risk taker.
I would have pursued more of the opportunities I saw, others developed them and made a lot of money. The business did change direction 3 times, all with the trend, that all worked out. Consolidated that at 65 still part time but my eldest daughter is going to share management this year.

I wouldn't have married my OH. I didn't want children because I was more career focused.

I do regret not having travelled more. I did get as far as Beirut just before the war started however many years ago, but I would have loved to have visited Singapore and Hong Kong.

I have been happier since divorcing in 1988.

I can’t believe people have absolutely no regrets if they look back searchingly over their lives.
It’s unrealistic, there must be something!

Cossy

M0nica

Non, je ne regrette rien.

It is easy to think just one step ahead, but if you had set your business up earlier Rocketstop2. It might have failed, it may have ended in you being killed in a road accident because a business journey meant you were in the wrong place at the wrong time.You cannot just think one step ahead.

My life has been full of junctions where I have had to choose which route to follow. Some decisions have been right, others have been wrong, but all in all I am now over 80, and I regret nothing, much better things to do and think about to waste time on fruitless regrets.

Fabulous answer 🥀

Smug, if you ask me😁

We are where we are - is my mantra.

On balance I wouldn't change a thing.

I wouldn’t change much, if anything. I was lucky in that a university tutor got me a scholarship to do a higher degree in London, and that changed my life. Without it, I would probably have stayed put where I was and not expanded.

I’d have liked a daughter, but it would have been impractical to have more children after my two sons.

I wish that I had known at 25 what I know now in my 70s. I think the Internet has exposed a lot of knowledge of how people are and how human systems operate. In my day you just knew from experience, what others said, or media. I would not have wasted my time on people who were drama queens, shady blokes, or listened for hours to self obsessed friends. But I suppose it all builds into life experience which I now look back on with a wry smile.

I married far too young, which I can’t regret as it meant I was in the right place to meet mr i. 42 very happy years together, with children and now grandchildren

Yes we make mistakes thst give us the opportunity to change and grow.