Looking back:Is there anything you would have done differently?

Kandinsky

I suppose we all have a few regrets. Hindsight is a wonderful thing as they say, and the decisions we made in the past were made with the circumstances and situations we were in then, not now.
I’m in a completely different situation ( & I’d go as far to say a different person ) to what I was 30 years ago, so pointless regretting something I did then.
That’s life. We live & learn.

Best answer on here.

Only one real regret... That I had not listened to my Mum when she said Nursing was too hard a career as I would have loved to have been a midwife. I nearly managed it when my 3 DDs were 12, 10 and 8 only to find I was expecting what turned out to be DD4.

There are choices I wouldn’t make now, with hindsight, or in today’s world, but more generally I wish I had travelled more when I was younger and especially when I was in my sixties.

I suppose we all have a few regrets. Hindsight is a wonderful thing as they say, and the decisions we made in the past were made with the circumstances and situations we were in then, not now.
I’m in a completely different situation ( & I’d go as far to say a different person ) to what I was 30 years ago, so pointless regretting something I did then.
That’s life. We live & learn.

Not passing my driving test. I took lessons In my twenties and thirties but failed the test twice. Hated driving so gave up. Life events took over and prevented me from going back. I'm now reliant on My DH and do wish I had more independence.

I couldn’t change anything for fear of not having my daughter and son, and granddaughters. I have been beyond lucky in having them and would never risk not having them in my life.

I wouldn’t have got married at 18 and put my poor parents through hell.

I regret my choices in men 😂The breakups have always cost me money ! I also regret leaving my grammar school at 16 as my stepfather thought I should start work and contribute. I would like to have gone to university. I did get a degree in later life but would like to have experienced student life .

BlueBelle

Cossy

Yes, almost everything 🙄

I m with you there Cosey

That’s very sad 😔

Cossy

Yes, almost everything 🙄

I m with you there Cosey

But lots of the teaching was a joy and my Facebook page has many of my ex pupils on it. I am able to follow their careers, and send congratulations when a baby is born to any of them.

Your post could have been written by me, fancyflowers, apart from me not being introverted. Journalism appealed but would not have worked well with family life in the way that teaching did. 🤔

Lovemylife

I’m another grammar school girl who really should not have gone into teaching. I was not suited to it at all.

At least your honest about it 😂

Not really. The only thing I would have liked was to have had a longer career in the Army. Things were just taking off for me when DH and I met - I turned down a senior promotion to marry him, knowing it would have meant me leaving the Army once I did and we loved each other so much. Married servicewomen didn’t work for the Army then. Things are different now. We had fifty six happy years together but I’ve often wondered “what if”.

Calendargirl you are so right, times were different then, but I don't half envy my granddaughter's life as an undergraduate, away from home for the first time and enjoying every minute of it.

It’s easy to think we should have had a different career, lived on our own, not with parents, seen more of the world before we married and had families….

Most of us are talking about 50-60 years ago, when times and the role of women were very different.

We didn’t have the same opportunities or outlook that our daughters and granddaughters have, changing times.

I would never have become a teacher,either. I would have chosen different subjects though at the time our school would not let you mix arts and sciences even though I desperately wanted to study biology and chemistry along with English lit which I loved. I ended up as a social worker managing a small organisation and was happy with that. I would have liked 6 kids but ended up with 4 though I fostered for a while as well.

I'm happy where I am in life now so I can't regret all the ups and downs that have brought me here, even if some of them weren't what I thought I wanted!

Oh no I don't regret anything.
I also married young and never lived alone until now I'm widowed and my 4 DC have long since left so I am discovering what it's like and making the best of it.

We had three children. It might have been nice to have had four but then how would I have transported them?

I’m another grammar school girl who was made to be a secretary. Err, read servant for boss picking up laundry and heavy bags of fruit for his lazy wife. Lots of laughs.

I’m another grammar school girl who really should not have gone into teaching. I was not suited to it at all.

paddyann54

No regrets ,we,ve had some tough times but we came through them all together and they weren,t things we were in control of anyway.
Wouldn,t change a thing ,love my OH to the moon and back and we,ve been happy for nearly 52 years

Beautiful 😊

No regrets ,we,ve had some tough times but we came through them all together and they weren,t things we were in control of anyway.
Wouldn,t change a thing ,love my OH to the moon and back and we,ve been happy for nearly 52 years

I should have gone to university much younger and become an academic at an earlier stage in my life. I deeply regret now that I left it to my 40s. Still, better late than never .

No, not really. It’s all worked out pretty well.

(Though the Bay City Rollers outfits were probably questionable 🤣)