sueD I’m so sorry to hear that your DH is so poorly. 
I’m at home now after my dear sis in law’s funeral, I’m shattered! A full Requiem Mass, followed by a short committal service at a crematorium nearby. She had always wanted her coffin to be carried on a carriage pulled by two black horses, so that is what she had. They carried her from the Church to the crematorium, turning heads as we drove through the Main Street!
Lots of standing around before we adjourned to a local hostelry for refreshments.
Sad to see so many of her friends looking so old - just like me!!
Her stepdaughter and step grandson are returning to Oz next week, so we’re having a family get together on Saturday.
Sorry to read that there is so much sadness in the kitchen, sending love and healing thoughts to all.