Soops place of refuge and friends

I can imagine how you feel, FGT. I’m having a bad evening, too, precipitated by going out for a meal with family but with dh’s absence looming very large.

I hope your SIL is ok Topsy, that sounds scary.

I hope he’s alright NannyTopsy you must all feel anxious and stressed tonight. We will all await your updates with our best wishes for a reassuring outcome.

Thinking of Baggs and MrSoop tonight in their grief. So much to do admin wise after a death it displaces some of the wretchedness intermittently as one has to focus and concentrate. However, like trying to push a beach ball below the surface of water, it jumps up repeatedly and can only be submerged with determined pressure. To no avail. It WILL out. Quite forcibly too at times I’ve found, so sending virtual hugs. xx

fgt hugs and. Take care dear lady you are doing brilliantly. Early days

FGT be kind to yourself. What a terrible spell.
DSIL is STILL waiting for ambulance transfer from one hospital to another, in a ward which closes in 15 minutes.

Thanks Doodle I know you just Get It. 💔

Hugs FGT 💐💕

to SueDonim and to Fried Green Tomatoes also

I had a good day until 3pm when out of the blue with nothing tangible prompting me, the enormity and reality of the death of Himself just hit me like a juggernaut. I cried until I could hardly catch my breath. Such is grief. The finality and despair I felt crushed me totally. I miss him so. People say to me ‘you are so brave’. This afternoon was one of my worst since he died.

Hi all, an odd weather day, dark and late on a couple of showers. I was on the voluntary phone from 9-5, all clients matched with lifts now.
How scary Nannytopsy, I do hope he’s seen and sorted quickly.
MrJ has those reviews Redcar but as you said, with the appropriate nurse.
Thinking of those grieving tonight xx

nannytopsy I hope your DSiL is ok and doesn’t have to wait too long in A&E. I hope he’ll be home soon.
I had a walk in the sunshine this morning but it’s been very showery this afternoon. I had a telephone asthma review this morning, a tick box phone call, but I obviously got some answers wrong because I have an appointment for another review with a respiratory nurse on Thursday, also a telephone call. I thought this morning’s appointment was with a respiratory nurse, but obviously not!
I saw my dementia friend this afternoon. She was asleep a lot of the time and is now finding it hard to swallow anything, including water. It’s very sad to see her like this, she would hate it if she knew.

Enjoy the rest of your evening folks. Thinking of all those who are poorly and those who are caring for them.

Oh goodness Nannytopsy I hope he’s ok and gets seen very quickly at A&E, what a worry x

DSIL had a minor op this afternoon but under a general anaesthetic. His heart has gone into AF (?I think) and he’s on his way to A&E. DD is having to put the little ones to bed before she can go to him. At least she has a good friend that will stay with them. We are too far away to be any help.

Hello kitchen friends I hope everyone is doing ok
It’s a sunny day up here in Inverness, still with a cold wind though. I’ve had a busy day sorting through things and trying to get things more organised and tidy. Mainly in the garage as during the winter months it just gets left as it too cold to spend much time in there. I’ve been busy but feel that I’ve just moved and tidied things from one box to another rather than actually getting rid of stuff. There’s still quite a few of DD2s things stored there but she’s reluctant to come and sort through things and I don’t want to nag too much 🤷‍♀️
Thinking of MrSoop and hope he’s doing ok, also SueD, Fgt and others with heavy hearts
Take care all x

Thank you Charleygirl5 for saying that. You are right it’s so raw at present. When people ask how I’m doing I just say “I’m okay til I’m not”. x

fgt and SueD it is so raw for both of you. Please ignore all the well-wishers and just do what you want when you want. Some days will be better than others, but you will both get through it. My love to both of you.

A quiet day for me, no visits from family as I saw them all yesterday. I had a fairly brisk walk this morning, trying to walk a bit faster.
I changed the bedclothes but left the winter weight duvet on for a few more nights. I put a duvet cover on the middle weight duvet so it’s ready to go on the bed in a few days time (I hope). I also cut a few dead stems from a mature shrub, obviously didn’t water it enough last summer! Hopefully it will recover!

fgt nice to have lavender in a pot by your front door, the pot sounds very cheerful.

Sending gentle hugs to all who need one.
Night night all.

SueD sending the gentlest of hugs ❤️

‘Evening All’

I’ve had an Enjoyable Day. Brunch in a local garden centre with my brother in law and his wife was delightful, just what I needed. I bought a big pot of lavender and a cheerful stripey tub to house it at my front door in a sunny spot. Small pleasures that make a difference. x

I’m aware I’m very self focused these days, not making much effort in kitchen empathy. Bear with me please. I hope to do better in time. x

SueD how kind of you to come here, I’ve not been in your shoes and can only offer a big hug.

So very sorry to hear your sad news Sue,

SueD
Yes everything has changed but is the same to everyone else, that is a good way of expressing it and in a few months you will adjust to a “new normal”.
It is a strange time in the early weeks, but life will settle into a routine of your making.
I am sure family are helping you with all the things that are necessary and looking after you in the other ways, making sure you eat and rest and dealing with friends and neighbours who want to be helpful.
We are all with you in our thoughts, I hope that is some small comfort to you.

Hello, Kitcheners. I am overwhelmed by all your kind posts about my Dh. You are such lovely people and I really appreciate your hands of friendship. Thank you so much. Xxx

Everything is still very raw and painful but there were a few brief moments today which felt almost ‘normal’, though I know life will never return to the old normal. I even managed to get out for the first time since Thursday. I felt as though I was viewing the world through completely different glasses, though. Everything has changed but it’s also stayed the same. A very odd experience.

Sending love to you all. Xxx

It was one among o number of tests Usedtobeblonde. I have been trying to eat healthily and sensibly and am happy to know I’m doing something right.

Just a quick visit to the kitchen.

I had a lovely day in Oxford at a Study Day on Dystopian fiction. Four interesting lectures and a tasty lunch.

Sleep 💤 tight.

That is really good news Blossoming.